Sugarkane Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Womens magazines are always filed with articles on how to keep a man abd make him happy. But men's magazines are just filled with how to pick up women. Never about actually making a relationship work. Women buy alot of self help books about relationships. But when do men do? No guys my age that's for sure. Maybe only guys older and going through a divorce?
dasein Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 IME, most relationship media targeted at women is full of manipulation techniques, not "keeping the man happy." Most men's media is full of images of unattainable women, unattainable sports skills and unattainable physical standards. It's just different ways to convince people that there are holes in their lives. In other days, there was no relationship media industry and people were generally happier. They lived shorter lives, but were subject to hundreds and not thousands of advertising and media images daily. They were too busy maintaining a basic standard of living to have time to dwell on "relationships" as an issue. IMO, the best relationship advice is to get busy in life with something that isn't focused on "relationships" and then relationships are treated in the proper perspective.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 The magazines are still pushing 50's gender roles. The women's place is in the home, and her job is to keep her husband happy. The man is to be as masculine and macho as possible. The underlying tone is even still the same, being single is looked at as a negative thing. Womens magazines are always filed with articles on how to keep a man abd make him happy. But men's magazines are just filled with how to pick up women. Never about actually making a relationship work. Women buy alot of self help books about relationships. But when do men do? No guys my age that's for sure. Maybe only guys older and going through a divorce?
Soxfaninfl Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Womens magazines are always filed with articles on how to keep a man abd make him happy. But men's magazines are just filled with how to pick up women. Never about actually making a relationship work. Women buy alot of self help books about relationships. But when do men do? No guys my age that's for sure. Maybe only guys older and going through a divorce? I've been through a divorce and regret not reading the relationship books that I've been reading while I was still married. I also see a counselor from time to better understand women also. I chose a women counselor on purpose too.
Emilia Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 IME, most relationship media targeted at women is full of manipulation techniques, not "keeping the man happy." Most men's media is full of images of unattainable women, unattainable sports skills and unattainable physical standards. It's just different ways to convince people that there are holes in their lives. This. Different approach to suit both genders that's all.
Andy_K Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 I don't need advice on making a relationship work. I haven't ever been dumped by any serious girlfriend. That said, I've read a broad spectrum of books and advice on both dating and relationships. It never hurts to broaden your horizons and learn new points of view.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 SugarKane, when I was younger I did buy women's magazines and ate that stuff up. It was a whole new world to me and I was excited to read about things I could do to "improve" my relationships. I also would read my brother's Maxim magazines to try and learn more about guys. It did leave a bitter taste in my mouth since my magazines did seem to focus on how to please guys while Maxim had such wonderful articles like "how to check out other women while pretending affection toward yours"...and other gems like that. But I am older now and I find women's magazines boring, stupid and tedious. The same for things like Maxim. I've outgrown that stuff. I just wish more men would out grown stuff like Maxim too. They usually don't. Women usually place more stock in the quality of their relationships then men seem to.
grkBoy Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Magazines are just messed up. Women's mags tell women to death how they're worthless unless they look hot and can give a man mind-blowing sex. Men's magazines tell men they're worthless if they don't have a chiseled build, high income, and can't get hot women into bed with little to no dating investment. I never read any of that crap.
Feelsgoodman Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Womens magazines are always filed with articles on how to keep a man abd make him happy. But men's magazines are just filled with how to pick up women. Never about actually making a relationship work. Women buy alot of self help books about relationships. But when do men do? No guys my age that's for sure. Maybe only guys older and going through a divorce? It just shows that women are naturally dumber than men (something we already knew). Relationship advice books are geared towards the lowest common denominator...i.e. people who listen to Lady Gaga and watch Desperate Housewives.
thatone Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 i consider the fact that i've never paid for any of the above to be a positive trait on my part.
Queen Zenobia Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Hmm...I've never actually read a woman's magazine, I once flipped through one that belonged to a friend. I've only ever subscribed to two magazines in my life though: The Economist, and Reason. Neither of them talk about relationships, well not the kind that we're talking about at least.
Els Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Men may not read about, or talk about, such things as much, but that does not mean they do not do them. I agree that most men don't perform deep introspection into the intricate dynamics of their romantic relationships and discuss with other men on how to improve them... But it has been my experience that good men genuinely do their best to take care of their gfs and make them happy, even if they may not say anything about it. I also really do not get the point of most women's magazines, tbh. Sure, they're an entertaining read at the salon, but they're so full of cliches and generalizations. It's always the same few things repeated over and over, in varying degrees of creativity by different writers. I would really not let one of those tell me what to do in MY relationship.
dasein Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 and Reason. It's really sad that a magazine devoted to what used to be at the very heart of our social structure and jurisprudence is such an outlier now. Have actually seen people describing Reason as part of the extremist press, in the same breath as militia and survivalist mags.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Magazines are just messed up. Women's mags tell women to death how they're worthless unless they look hot and can give a man mind-blowing sex. Men's magazines tell men they're worthless if they don't have a chiseled build, high income, and can't get hot women into bed with little to no dating investment. I never read any of that crap. Again, you get "it".
Queen Zenobia Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 It's really sad that a magazine devoted to what used to be at the very heart of our social structure and jurisprudence is such an outlier now. Have actually seen people describing Reason as part of the extremist press, in the same breath as militia and survivalist mags. I know, it's mind boggling. But, I think most of the people who are so critical of Reason probably haven't even read an issue before and probably don't care to. They just stick to their entrenched viewpoints/talking points.
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