logical1 Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 I just found out that my boyfriend dated a stripper for about a year. He said their relationship ended due to bad timing but that she is the one that got away. I'm bummed because I was hoping to introduce some sexy scenarios with us and now I simply can't. I know these are my insecurities, but they exist and are they are not going anywhere. ...and against better judgement, I checked his e-mail because there's no way a man dates a stripper and doesn't keep a photo. Alas, I found pictures of his former love in an email. So, I find myself wondering if it's best to just walk away or sacrifice an important area of a relationship for a good guy? Thoughts?
tman666 Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 While I haven't ever dated any strippers, you might be overblowing the "wildness" of their sex life in your mind. I've heard (again, no personal experience) that a lot of guys that date strippers end up being surprised how uneventful their sex life is... It's a physically demanding job, plus they are basically exuding their sexuality (even if it's not sincere) to lustful eyes the whole time. As a result, there's sometimes little left over, physically and emotionally, for these girls to give to their boyfriends. Even if they did have a good sex life, you have to keep in mind that your boyfriend most likely finds you sexy and appealing in your own way. Sure, you might not be able to pull the same dance moves as the ex stripper, but he might not want you to either. He's probably looking forward to exploring/creating your own personal brand of sex...
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 4, 2011 Posted December 4, 2011 He said their relationship ended due to bad timing Yeah, even "Stairway to Heaven" comes to an end after a few minutes. Or are you speaking of the 'timing' which found him out at 3:30am having to pick her up from the club, with all the other stripper boyfriends??
Stung Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 My thought is that I would not continue to date a man who told me that his ex was 'the one who got away.' It is my experience that people only describe someone they are pining for that way. I prefer to have my romantic partner's focus settled squarely on myself. Her profession would therefore be irrelevant to me, and I would be preparing to cut my losses and move on.
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