ViolaSwamp Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 or 8 months now. Recently, Ive been debating breaking things off and Im not really sure if Im being selfish here or if he is. Sometimes its hard to see outside the box. Heres the reason: So last year we had a beach house with several people, we began dating prior to that. Over the course of the summer alot of drama en on in the house, the females in particular were rude and nasty to me, calling me names, openly saying horrible things about me to my boyfriend. He maintains that he stuck up for me , but I didnt see it. By the end of the summer i had had enough and I gave an ultimatum, lets spend time together outside the beach house as a couple. He chose the beach. and as a result, I dumped him. I felt disregarded and was very upset by his choice. After a month he came back and begged forgiveness, I told him hed need to prove to me that he wasnt selfish and serious about our relationship and even then Id give him no definite answer. He agreed and spent the next few months trying to show me he was serious about us. He seemed to turned things around and I was really starting to believe that things were looking up and that this relationship could be something positive. Howver he recently brought to my attention that he was "thinking" of joining the beachhouse again next summer with the same horrible people who openly berated me and repeatedly flirted with him in front of my face all summer. I expressed my concern. I understand that right now we spend all of our time together and he rarely sees his friends, and I am willing to obviously give him time with them. However, I feel like anyone in a serious relationship would not even entertain the idea of getting in on a beach house with females and guys that hated his girlfriend , knowing she could never come down. I expressed my concern and he got defensive. More and more i wonder if I can handle this. I want things to work, but refuse to go through what I went through last year for a relationship. My question is am I being selfish for voicing my concern and expressing that I wasnt happy about his even entertaining the idea? Im so confused and the more i think about it the more i want to break things off before I waste 6 more months with him. Am I his convenient seasonal girlfriend? thats what I feel like. I appreciate any advice. Im really torn right now. I love him very much, but I feel like this kind of behavior isnt mature. He in his mid 30's, so Im not exactly sure why this urge to be in a beach house is coming from. Is this normal behavior for a man in his 30's?
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