warrenorabbits Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 If a woman says this and yet goes on dates with you (amd enjoys being around you) how do you interpret it? Those sorts of commitments are rarely follwed through on, I've found. Now it's date number two -- should I try to say or do something anyway?
ditzchic Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 It means she isn't looking to get serious. She just wants to date and have fun, not settle down. At least not now. Or at least not with you. Don't expect her to stop seeing other people. If that's not ok with you, I would suggest backing out now. I wouldn't bring it up to her. She already told you her answer. If you are hoping to get serious with her eventually, you have to respect her decision. If you bring it up again she will run. She'll feel like you're pressuring her. Just leave it be for now.
ScienceGal Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 I went on a date and used the term "I am not looking for anything serious". The guy said the same. All was great and we dated exclusively (important to me). 3 months later, I did want something more serious with him. BUT, I have always been a one man kind of woman, and my initial statement was more to protect myself and my heart. I was trying to be more casual than I had before. If it were to end, so be it. No hurt feelings... When I told him the other day that I wanted a relationship, he was the one that wasn't ready. It did hurt, but I am not devastated. I assume you are looking for something serious? If you want to give her time to see if she changes her tune, go ahead and do that, but don't get your hopes up, and know when to walk away. There are a lot of people that say what they mean, and she might really not want anything serious. Good luck.
DearAbby Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Believe what people say. It means she wants no strings attached. If that's the case and you want something serious, stop seeing her. Does this mean she wants you to take her out and pay for her all the time and not be with you? Are you ok with this arrangement?
laotzu Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Progress aggressively from a physical perspective, and if she doesn't respond, stop seeing her because she's not interested.
Soxfaninfl Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 (edited) If she doesn't want something serious the I wouldn't waist my time with this one. Your setting yourself up for possible disappointment especially if you want to get married or have a family. That would be worse if you fall in love with her. There are plenty of women out there that want a serious relationship. Why waist your time with a women that doesn't want one? Especially if she is dating other men. Then you have to worry about STD's. Edited December 3, 2011 by Soxfaninfl
grkBoy Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 It's Womanese for "I'm not sure what I want, but I don't want to look needy and desperate for a man." I've rarely known a woman who honestly and really didn't want a man in her life. Not claiming she wants to be a subjugate, but more saying how many women say things like "I'm not really wanting to date right now" or "I really don't want a boyfriend or anything" but we find it's a total lie. Usually those lines means she's not into you. I think the OP should carry on as normal and eventually make a move. If she pushes away and pulls out the song and dance, then he should say goodnight and not call her anymore. If she's wondering what the problem is, just honestly tell her you want a RL and are not going to waste time with someone who doesn't want one.
Feelsgoodman Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 The big question is whether she still wants bang even though she's not looking for anything "serious". What she said could very well be interpreted as her attempt to friend zone you, which is something you obviously do not want. So you need to clarify ASAP what kind of a "non-serious relationship" she is looking for.
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