HeartOnSleeve Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Question for men and suggestions from ladies: After a good first date, do you guys prefer that us girls text/call to say we had a great time or should I let him make the next move? Not talking about games but just out of politeness etc.
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 Exactly....so annoying! Well if you are guy what do you prefer?
jobaba Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 (edited) Question for men and suggestions from ladies: After a good first date, do you guys prefer that us girls text/call to say we had a great time or should I let him make the next move? Not talking about games but just out of politeness etc. If you want a second date, then I would text to say you had a great time. That's be my cue to ask you out again. If you don't like him, then let him act first. Edited December 2, 2011 by jobaba
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 Thanks Jobaba...yeah I have this bad tendency to not act interested when I am so I don't want to come off that way
dasein Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 I appreciate being told "I had a great time, thanks" at the end of a date. Not texts or calls. Then both people can reflect on the date and decide whether they want another. I'm not all anxious to instantly latch onto every woman I go on a date with, build up false expectations and false intimacy too early, and respect women who are the same way.
Feelsgoodman Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Question for men and suggestions from ladies: After a good first date, do you guys prefer that us girls text/call to say we had a great time or should I let him make the next move? Not talking about games but just out of politeness etc. If he asked you out, you should confirm your interest with a follow up text. And vice versa.
Cypress25 Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 I don't know why people can't express interest during the date, instead of after it. There's no need for a follow-up text if you say "Thanks for dinner, I had a great time" before you part ways at the end of the date. That would be his cue to ask you out again. Repeating the same thing in a text message is a bit too much.
stillafool Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 I don't know why people can't express interest during the date, instead of after it. There's no need for a follow-up text if you say "Thanks for dinner, I had a great time" before you part ways at the end of the date. That would be his cue to ask you out again. Repeating the same thing in a text message is a bit too much. Exactly! Why a follow up anything to say "I had a great time". Just say it when you say goodbye for the evening.
ScienceGal Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 IMO, sending a text 15-20 minutes later tells the other person that you're still reflecting upon the date in a positive way and also that you're still thinking of them. I've had several men do this, and it made me smile each time.
Feelsgoodman Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 I don't know why people can't express interest during the date, instead of after it. There's no need for a follow-up text if you say "Thanks for dinner, I had a great time" before you part ways at the end of the date. That would be his cue to ask you out again. Repeating the same thing in a text message is a bit too much. Cause people say that regardless of whether they had a good time just to be polite. Now if you make the extra effort to follow up with a text or call, it shows clear interest.
monkey00 Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Normally if a guy is interested in seeing you again, he will make the next move by asking you out again - whether or not you said you had a great time. If I'm having fun/had fun after a date I will say it at the end of the date or send a text to the girl letting her know...either the same day or next morning. It seems to me very few girls do this, if I like the girl and she said it to me - it'll bring a big smile to my face. As much as girls like to feel appreciated and wanted and complimented, guys will love it just as much.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 After a good first date, do you guys prefer that us girls text/call to say we had a great time or should I let him make the next move? If the circumstances of the date allows it, say it in person at the end. If you can't do it in person, by all means text or call. When I get them after the fact, its usually a text within an hour of the date. Usually something like "If I forgot to mention it I had a really nice time tonight :-)".
Cypress25 Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Cause people say that regardless of whether they had a good time just to be polite. Now if you make the extra effort to follow up with a text or call, it shows clear interest. I show clear interest throughout the date, if it's going well. I expect that any guy with basic social skills and a fundamental understanding of human behavior will pick up on that. If I have to spell it out for him, then he's probably not my type anyway. Besides, there's supposed to be a little mystery in the early stages of dating. You can't expect the other person to send reassuring texts every step of the way. Sometimes you just have to take a chance and ask for a second date, even if you're not 100% sure of the other person's feelings.
musemaj11 Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 (edited) Sometimes you just have to take a chance and ask for a second date, even if you're not 100% sure of the other person's feelings. If its such no biggie, why dont you just do that yourself then? Edited December 3, 2011 by musemaj11
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