CurlyIam Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 So I'm seeing this guy for three months. And we're pretty cool, trying to have a relationship - he lives an hour and a half away from me, I'm during my exams... So basically we don't see eachother much. But we like eachother a lot and have a great time when we do meet . Well, we didn't do what couples usualy do, like remeber the date of the first date. I kind of remember when we first kissed...but I still am not 100% sure about it. Anyway, we've never celebrate this so it was no big deal. Two weeks ago we had this big fight and I was really mad because of him. He understood why I was so upset, changed his ways, became more comprehensive, just a sweetheart, really . So I was thinking not of thanking him per se, but to celebrate our little "thing", this week end (although I've realized today that technically our anniversary should have been last weekend). And it's four months not three So... what can I get him? I just can't think of anything. Not one thing. Do you happen to have suggestions, gang? Help would be very much appreciated . Thank you, Curly Link to post Share on other sites
Swamp Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 Anniversarys are not after 3 months. They are after 1 year. Celebrating a 3 month anniversary sounds a little over the top, though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CurlyIam Posted May 27, 2004 Author Share Posted May 27, 2004 OMG, really? I used to have this special day every month with my ex. It was quite nice... I don't know, maybe you're right! Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 I think it can be a little overwhelming to a lot of guys (and likely some chicks, too), when big deals are made over monthly anniversaries. It might cause the other person to feel that things are more "serious" than they are. I know when you're young, it seems monumental when a relationship has surpassed the 3 or 4 month mark...but just letting you know that your guy might feel overwhelmed by it. I can see acknowledging 6 months, maybe, and definitely yearly anniversaries...but I wouldn't get all crazy about 3 or 4 months. Just my 2 cents. Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 I think a "special day" would be fine. Like, spending the day together, having dinner at your favorite place, strolling around downtown, etc. But buying presents at 3 (4?) months, nah. Nah, because: 1). It's likely to freak him out. 2). If you buy him something, and he doesn't get you anything, he'll feel awful/embarrassed. Good luck though, whatever you decide. -Deranged Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 But it was back in highschool. If you are in highschool or he is a sap, it might be ok. Outside of highschool or him too being a sap, it might freak the guy out. Now my fiance and I just celebrate our anniversary of our first date and soon, our wedding anniversary. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CurlyIam Posted May 27, 2004 Author Share Posted May 27, 2004 oh, no, I was more thinking of simple and nice, something meningful, like ... an owl LOOOL! kiddin'. No, I ... don't know why I want to this. Just... something to remember me by. I may have to leave in a couple of month and I'm not sure when I'm gonna be back. If I'm gonna be back. So maybe now that we haven't seen eachother in 2 weeks it came to me. And I am 24 without some weeks... and I know it's stupid to buy men gifts. But I simply feel like it. Nothing material. Like I would love to be able to paint something for him, but I am incredibly not talented for that! Something... you know? Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 Can you burn a CD maybe? (perfectly legal of course!! ) Some of your favourite songs & some of his that you know of. You don't have to tell him it's an anniversary gift, just a little something you made for the both of you (make two copies) You've obviously got a computer (or access to one) so you could make a CD cover with a picture of you or the both of you. And I tend to agree with the others - don't go too lovey-dovey on the 3 month anniversary thing - he might get a little freaked out by it & possibly feel like he should have done something in return. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CurlyIam Posted May 27, 2004 Author Share Posted May 27, 2004 I know, blue, but right now I really feel like lovey dovey... Ok, I'll stop! Thanks a lot, I'll think about this. But... for instance, for our first date we went to see a movie. "The Last Samurai" . Did I mention it was in French? Well, the second time we met, he gave me Thumper from "Bambi" as a gift for being so patient as to see a film in French. That was Second date! I totally understand your point of view though! Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 I know, blue, but right now I really feel like lovey dovey aw shucks -- honestly though, that is a good thing ! Thumper from "Bambi" as a gift for being so patient well there's your perfect gift - buy him Bambi, it'll be cute & he'll get the joke Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 TWICE after three months, I got my guy a watch, and a couple of weeks later, I got dumped. The first guy, it was a birthday gift. The second guy needed a watch, and I wanted to buy him something nice. I got my husband a watch for valentines day. Nice watches are about the only thing I can think of as a gift for a guy. I got dumped right after the guys got the watches though....so it may not be a good idea. My husband and I were married 10 months before he got a watch. Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 O! Monday, I buy all my boyfriends nice watches too! Guys are so very hard to shop for. Anyway, Curly, I think bluechocolate has a good idea goin' with the Bambi thing. -Deranged Link to post Share on other sites
Author CurlyIam Posted May 27, 2004 Author Share Posted May 27, 2004 Okey, okey, I won't get him a watch, I PROMISE!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author CurlyIam Posted May 27, 2004 Author Share Posted May 27, 2004 So I'll think about this. Bambi seems like the right choice... How come I didn't think of that?!? Thank you, ! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 I say take him out to dinner your treat. And don't mention the three month thing, even though it's already passed. Men here in the US do a majority of the buying of dinners. Take him out - on you - to a decent restaurant. He'll appreciate that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CurlyIam Posted May 28, 2004 Author Share Posted May 28, 2004 I've already done that - we went away for a week end and he wanted to pay for the hotel and dinner. He's ok. Link to post Share on other sites
Swamp Posted May 28, 2004 Share Posted May 28, 2004 Get him something small. Bambi maybe kind of corny because it is playing off of his gift. Get him something he has talked about needing before, or you have noticed could change. Does he have any favorite authors? Nice books are always a good gift if he is a reader. You could try to find a book he may not have, or a cd of an artist he likes that he doesn't have. Keep it simple, and small. But not tacky. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CurlyIam Posted May 28, 2004 Author Share Posted May 28, 2004 I shall keep Bambi as a choice, if I don't find quite what I'm looking for. IT's just that we are completely different. I'm into jazz, R&B, or even rock and pop... Good music, not necessarily new music! he's into trance and stuff that don't tell me too much - never heard of Solid Globe, please excuse my ignorance. I love reading, he works in entertainment (television), he's mad about hi tech, loves shooting videos. I love my laptop, but that's about as far it goes for me. And I barely open my TV, for crying out loud! But we both love eachother, as crazy as that may sound. So that's kind of why I posted this thread. I am clueless. WHat I can say bout him is that he has a very developped sense of observation, especially when it cames to music and films. I've still got a day to make up my mind... Link to post Share on other sites
Author CurlyIam Posted June 1, 2004 Author Share Posted June 1, 2004 Hi, again After thinking hard, I followed your advice: didn't say a thing about no anniversary, just went for the nice evening planned together: chinese food and a DVD. We started talking about the food, were watching the news, ended up talking about kids and family... and the most amazing thing happened: he opened up. I asked him about his brother (a coincidence, some of his brother's friends has visited his family that very day and brought their 4 months twins girls with them) and he chose not only to answer (I would have been fine with a short answer), but to talk about what happened - an old thread, anyway, his brother had killed himself at the age fo 24. So my bf told me the whole episode, about how he took it, about his family... he's fine with it, he accepted his death, there still is a lot of grief, this is why I have promised myself, now that he shared it with me, never to bring it up again. And that's not all. Guess what: after that he talked about us. I was always kind of second guessing, following my instincts, when it came to us. We have never really talked about our relationship, and what can I say, it made me so very happy! I don't know if it was the wine that helped, or a combination of wine and fatigue... he explained a lot of his reactions, about his fears and feelings... The thing is he ended up surprising me! Wow! It was a big big step, an amasing one. I mean the atmosphere was ... I can't quite describe it: sad, yet emotional and very intimate. We ended up talking about his family, my family... wow! I'm a bit "amused" these days, I've been telling myself that what we have it sounds everyday more like a real relationship... If you knew us, you'd see the fun in my statement there... Anyway, thanks a LOT for the "no word on 4... youknowwhat" It was trully trully a very appropriate advice! Thanks a lot!!!! Curly P.S. Needless to say no one watched the DVD! Link to post Share on other sites
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