b18bme Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 this totally sucks we bought a house together vehicles together actually everything together. Been engaged for 11 months but been together now for 7 years and now she wants to break up! I'm pretty heartbroken and never thought this would ever happen. Its only been 2 weeks but We cant afford to move out seperately so we have been living under the same roof still. I totally dont want this to end and Im not sure how I can even go about mending things. I cant have no contact because we live together. She keeps saying that she feels I am waiting for her to forget the situation we are in. Weve agreed that we will do whatever to get the house ready to sale and I guess split everything up but who knows how long that will take. I left her alone as much as possible for the first week and she was upset about it saying I didnt do anything.... However she told me the first night to respect her decision so as much as possible thats what I did. So I've been doing alot of small nice things for her to hopefully somehow win her heart over. Doesnt seem to be working. I again know the whole no contact thing but It's not possible. I need some advise on what to do to get this women in my arms again!!!!! any thoughts would be much appreciated. I'm 27 shes 26
swann Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Sorry, but I think that living together won't take back her attraction. It'll only make her unhappier and eager to leave. She's staying there just because she doesn't have any other place to go. What about you? Don't you have another place to stay for awhile? Parents, friends maybe? The sooner you move out the better will be for your healing process. Let her realise how is life without you around...maybe it's not funny as she thought. I broke up two days ago and I plan to start to dismantle our apartment next sunday...
PinkPunkCosmo Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Even though you two live together, ignore her, act as though she is not there no matter how hard it will be for you with respect ofcourse. She broke it off meaning she wants to have her space away and can't so do not force it. Give her space and just ignore her do not do things for her do not go out of your way for her helping her out and stuff act like just roomates and nothing more. It is hard but since you can not go NC then stick to just ignoring her.
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