Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 10, 2011 Author Posted December 10, 2011 Are you speaking French? Or what do you mean but just "We"? I was going to write a response but my android is acting unreliable. You arw right I gavw him too many chances, I don't like to chase or run after people at that.I. don't think. I'm someone who prefer a " challenge" after all I'm not a guy going aftr a conquest. I'm just too nice of a person to say no.
MGD3 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I was going to write a response but my android is acting unreliable. You arw right I gavw him too many chances, I don't like to chase or run after people at that.I. don't think. I'm someone who prefer a " challenge" after all I'm not a guy going aftr a conquest. I'm just too nice of a person to say no. LOL.... You need a new phone, this last post was worse than the "we" response!!!
PlumPrincess Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 You know, the same thing is always happening to my smart, sweet, outrageously hot roommate. I have never met a person who's been stood up as pften as her. I'm convinced the reason is that her jerkdar is turned on so high all the time, he only guys she doesn't scare away with her cynicism and suspicion are the players who are only in it for the game. Could it possibly be the same thing with you? I'm not hot, but this is happening to me all the time as well: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t203549/ I really don't understand why people do that.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 Maybe this is all happening because you are a platinum blonde when you should be a brunette?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 11, 2011 Author Posted December 11, 2011 LOL.... You need a new phone, this last post was worse than the "we" response!!! This is a new phone unfortunately. I'm still trying to get the touch screen dowm.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 11, 2011 Author Posted December 11, 2011 Maybe this is all happening because you are a platinum blonde when you should be a brunette? I don't see how my hair has anything to do with it in fact, my hair was what attreacted him to me in the first place.
Wolf18 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 Don't take this the wrong way, but platinum blonde Asian girls can give off a pornstar vibe. Your natural hair color would suit you best.
MGD3 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I was going to write a response but my android is acting unreliable. You arw right I gavw him too many chances, I don't like to chase or run after people at that.I. don't think. I'm someone who prefer a " challenge" after all I'm not a guy going aftr a conquest. I'm just too nice of a person to say no. So what were you trying to say here when your phone when blah on you? It is okay, we both know it was operator error:laugh:
dispatch3d Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 That was a typo since. I'm typing from my mobile. I meant to write I never expected him to pull the disappearing act again because when he tried to ask me out again I had specifically told him I wasn' t going to see him unless he was certain about going out. And in a way he did have something to do with my schedule. I had work the very next day in the morning and I was taking time out from a good nights sleep just to see him. I'm not saying tjat he should be so lucky that he gets to go out with me but the fact that I'm trying to fit him into my schedule says I'm being apologetic about my previous cancellations. The nookie with with the bartendr wad unplanned and unnecessary. But I was upset and drunl hence I actwd on impaired judgment. I baely made it to work the next day. []x good screening process x[] dating guys for the right reasons [x] getting hammered and hoping the bartender>guy who actually likes you
snug.bunny Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 I don't see how my hair has anything to do with it in fact, my hair was what attreacted him to me in the first place. It can make a difference, in a way. The hair color is very overpowering and radical, the complete OPPOSITE of your natural hair color. So, this suggests a bit of "extremeness". Now, we can conclude that in conjunction with going home and sleeping with a complete stranger, immediately following "jerky-jerk's" rejection, as a bit impulsive. If your personality is one that is "impulsive" it WILL have impact on the people you associate with, are interacting with, and decidingly (sp?) dating. That aside, there are tons of jerks out there, no doubt. And, no one will ever be 100% successful, with weeding them out. Start by trying, by not dating men who habitually cancel dates. But at the same time, you have to not habitually cancel dates either. The just sets up for a very rocky foundation.
eleanorhurting Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 and i thought that maybe if i moved to a big city to do my residency i would actually meet nicer/non-jerk people because I was sure the nice guys where I live ran out
Wolf18 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 It's funny how so many physically attractive women have trouble meeting males who don't treat them very poorly. Sorry Eleanor, but I think your issue might be that on virtue of your looks alone, you may be moving in very high, shallow popular-people social circles where arrogant morons and sociopaths are the majority. This might be completely off, but I think that's the reason. While I suppose you have the right to expect a very good looking and wealthy boyfriend, there is a tendency amongst this demographic to behave in certain ways.
MGD3 Posted December 11, 2011 Posted December 11, 2011 and i thought that maybe if i moved to a big city to do my residency i would actually meet nicer/non-jerk people because I was sure the nice guys where I live ran out I bet you do not even pay attention to men who would be nice to you or am I wrong? Do you go after and/or only accept certain type of men?
kaylan Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 I don't see how my hair has anything to do with it in fact, my hair was what attreacted him to me in the first place. To be perfectly honest, Id have a hard time taking a girl with bleach blonde hair seriously. It screams "i want attention and for boys to think im hot" in my opinion. Id assume shes a party girl who likes dudes chasing her. Of course these are all assumptions before really getting to know her, but first impressions stick hard in ones mind. Im sorry I cant really help that assumption, because when blonde hair is unnatural, it almost always grabs my attention in the wrong way. Its like too much, especially on an Asian. I understand Asians are very homogeneous when it comes to looks and you want to set yourself apart, but a more subtle hair color would attract better guys imo. Sometimes you cannot help how people perceive you. A couple of girls have told me in the past that I have this way I dress and walk that made them think Id have nothing to do with them if they ever talked to me. They thought I was some sort of arrogant jerk who only talked to certain types of people. Its far from true though, as I love talking to all people. So for the most part, individuality is great, and looking how you want is great as well...but we have to consider how people may perceive us.
Star Gazer Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 Considering my dating history, you would think my jerk-dar would be on high alert but I Still haven' t been able to avoid jerks completely. Take last night, I'd made plans togo out with a date. Considering how busy it has been for me over the holidays, and after previous cancellations coupled with his persistency to meet up, I made the date with him to go out after work. Why did you still go out with him? Bad sign #1: Shame on him. I was really tired and cranky after my shift but I was really looking forward to spending time with him. So I mmediately right after work, I called him only to have him tell me he was out with friend. Bad sign #2: Shame on you. At this point, I lost signal and when I called.him back, he wouldn't pick up his phone. Bad sign #3: Shame on you, again. As much as I hate being ignored I found it even more disrespect that he couldn't even have had the decency to tell me. When I told my friends afterwards what happened, they told me I shouldn't have wasted my time and to raise my standards a little more. Honestly, I feel like I'm either too gullible or nice or maybe I. Should open my eyes alittle more before I allow another guy to waste my time You're ignoring the bad signs, Paper. For what reason, I have no idea.
Star Gazer Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 To be perfectly honest, Id have a hard time taking a girl with bleach blonde hair seriously. It screams "i want attention and for boys to think im hot" in my opinion. Id assume shes a party girl who likes dudes chasing her. This is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever read on LS.
kaylan Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 This is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever read on LS. How about you read my entire post with full understanding. I said it was simply an assumption. People have a particular assumption regarding bleach blonde hair based on how we usually see beach blondes behave. It usually accompanies a certain personality type. Anything that is attention grabbing in appearance can draw certain stereotypes. I was just being honest with OP. Its no different from when girls had certain ideas of who I might be because I have a few piercings and tattoos. Im not going to lie to the OP. Nevermind the fact that bleach blonde hair is very attention grabbing versus naturally blonde hair, so how is my assumption so off base? Add to the fact that this hair color is not common on Asian people and you can further see my point. Im black, but if I died my hair brown all over, or silver like Sisqo did ten years ago, people would make assumptions because it is not a natural look. Im simply giving a real world assessment on the matter.
Star Gazer Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 Nevermind the fact that bleach blonde hair is very attention grabbing versus naturally blonde hair. I use bleach on my hair, and everyone thinks I'm a natural blonde.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted January 24, 2012 Author Posted January 24, 2012 I use bleach on my hair, and everyone thinks I'm a natural blonde. He meant bleached blonde does not look natural on an Asian. HEY! Kaylan you're rude!
kaylan Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 I use bleach on my hair, and everyone thinks I'm a natural blonde. Im assuming you are white Thats different if you are. People wouldnt be taken aback by that since its natural and common. My point is uncommon things draw attention. Like if I were to die my short dreads light brown. Imagine a chocolate complexion black dude with light brown hair. People would make assumptions because of it since its common for black people to have black hair. Its kinda unfair when you think about it. How Asians and black people barely have any hair or eye color variation. Damn you nature! He meant bleached blonde does not look natural on an Asian. HEY! Kaylan you're rude! My bad, I wasnt trying to be. Here......to show my deepest apologies, I offer unto you a bouncy bunny lolz
NSDNQ Posted January 24, 2012 Posted January 24, 2012 (edited) I hear this question asked ALOT. cold hard truth is jerkitude isn't your first search parameter. you look for someone whos attractive and most likely sociable before you ever start ruling someone out based on anything regarding manners. in order to get a guy that will treat you right you may have to sacrifice in other areas, I used to be a fat kid and always treated girls exactly how my mother taught me I should, no surprise I didn't get much attention. a gym membership and some new clothes later women wouldn't leave me alone. and to be honest I'm more of a jerk now than I was back then, even after maturing a bit. so go out there and give the guys you normally wouldn't a chance. not saying you have to be unhappy dating someone your not attracted to, but by going after someone who's not normally your type you'll be pleasantly surprised by the chemistry you find. another cold hard truth is that we get more positive female attention for being jerks. idk why. but it happens. normally I don't make a habit of it, but when I get lonely I do something OP's guy did and BAM all her friends/acquaintances want to get to know me better. I might have something to do with all women subconsciously hating every other woman ever. lololol Edited January 24, 2012 by NSDNQ
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