daisydukes Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 My boyfriend asked me out to dinner and I said I have a few errands to run and he said okay and then I don't hear anything for a long time and I say are we still on?? He says no I can't. Why bother asking me out to dinner if you are going to bail??? I said whatever I am not hungry anyways...... Why ask someone out and then at the last minute say oh, I can't. Is that not rude or what?? He was the one who asked me to dinner not me.
jobaba Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 My boyfriend asked me out to dinner and I said I have a few errands to run and he said okay and then I don't hear anything for a long time and I say are we still on?? He says no I can't. Why bother asking me out to dinner if you are going to bail??? I said whatever I am not hungry anyways...... Why ask someone out and then at the last minute say oh, I can't. Is that not rude or what?? He was the one who asked me to dinner not me. Ah ... a good open line of communication. The cornerstone of any solid relationship...
Author daisydukes Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 (edited) I doubt that one. Why let someone hang on and hang on and then when you ask them are we still on they said no I can't. They could of told you earlier instead of waiting and waiting and then when you finally ask they say no I can't. Please....lol I mean if they weren't " feeling" it to begin with they shouldn't of asked or taunted me and said hey want to go out? I get psyched and then when I say hey we still on?? No..... Seriously??? LOL Edited December 2, 2011 by daisydukes
carhill Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 To clarify, does 'I have a few errands to run' mean 'yes'?
Pasttense Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 I think you need to tell us more precisely how the conversation went about the errands. Right now I am thinking that it came across to the boyfriend that a few errands you could do anytime were more important than spending time with him. So, feeling hurt, he reacted by dropping the date completely.
Author daisydukes Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 They were work related errands. I said I needed to drop some papers off at my job and it should only take a half and hr tops and he said okay. I get back from running my errands and I said okay I am finished and I didn't hear anything so I give him an hr or so just in case he didn't hear it I didn't want to be a nag so I text him again and said hey are we still on?? He said no I can't.
TaraMaiden Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 first of all, smash and dash is a spamming troll, so ignore it. secondly - this sounds like a relationship made in heaven..... let him now contact you first. then get tot the bottom of it. there's no point asking us, we're as clueless as you are. mind you, i'd have kicked up stink at the 'no i can't' moment....
TaraMaiden Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Please show proof of this spam or trolling that you speak of. Just because I speak my mind and I'm a member of another forum doesn't mean I'm a spamming troll. I find this site amusing. If I was spamming or trolling you would know. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=3755659&postcount=2 troll post, repeated, link at bottom of post. I reported, you contributed. links are not permitted as advertising. it says so in the guidelines. which i'm sure you read in full. troll, spam. I know.
monkey00 Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Sounds like he's mad about something. Do you guys have some recurring unresolved issues in the relationship he might be bitter about? Or maybe he thinks you work too much and don't make enough time for him?
carhill Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 'Hon, I'd love to. I've got a couple errands to run first. What do you have in mind? Casual or spank-me hot?' Clarity.
freestyle Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Is this the same guy that you're having issues with, regarding him lying to you?
TaraMaiden Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Er. I think you'll find he invited her, to begin with.... so it was his suggestion to go out to eat..... ....what, your mother still fetch water in a pail, and washes using a mangle, while your pa takes the horse and cart to get weekly provisions at the store in town....? Move with the times hun...some folks is more liberal and liberated than that.....
serial muse Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 (edited) daisy. Assuming it is the same guy, as freestyle asked - come on, now. You know the answer to this. Based on your past threads, in the three months you've been exclusive, he has: 1. Gone on OK Cupid 2. Lied to you about why he can't hang out with you (making up multiple conflicting stories) 3. That same evening, texted (at least) another woman (or more??), called her "sweetie" and told her he'll be right there 4. Gotten super defensive and blamed you for asking him if there's someone else, after you observed 1-3. Conclusion: yes, he's cheating on you, and that is why he bailed. I'm sorry to be so blunt about it, but this relationship is no good. He's not angry about the half hour to run errands. That's irrelevant. Perhaps he saw it as an opportunity to put the blame on you, sure. But it was just that - an opportunity. Because I can guarantee that he immediately turned around and decided that he was going to ask someone else, and that is why he couldn't have dinner with you. Please. Dump him. He's a liar and a cheater. Dump him now, before you get more hurt. He's lining up someone else. Just end it. Edited December 2, 2011 by serial muse
Author daisydukes Posted December 4, 2011 Author Posted December 4, 2011 Yes it is the same guy and he did it again Friday! I was working and I thought emphasis on thought he was working so I knew he wouldn't be bugging me thank god but no he bothered me. I was working and he called me ( luckily I work somewhere where we do not get many calls) and he said hey what's up what are you doing? I said working you know that until 330. He said oh, I forgot. I said what do you want?? He said oh I was going to see if you wanted to go to the park today but since you are working forget I mentioned it. I called him when I got off and said wait a sec I thought you were working today and he said i'll chat with with you later and said gotta go. Not that I cared or he hurt my feelings but why keep calling me up at the weirdest times and not thinking hey she is working or hey she might be out with her friends which I ended up doing anyways but is he that dumb? At this point i do not even care but it is almost comedic at this point.
TaraMaiden Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 Plan 'A' not working? Go to plan 'B'. (Plan 'B'consists of getting a life of your own......)
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