Jack91 Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 I met a girl online and we went to dinner today. Got a little tipsy and I invited her to my place. One thing led to another and we were in bed making out, I went down on her (she loved it), however, once it was time to put it in, my penis wasn't hard for some reason. Then I tried going down on her for a good 10 minutes while stimulating myself and managed to enter her for several minutes before going limp again. At that time, she was just like "its OK, maybe next time" and left. I really don't get why this happened to me. The only thing I can say is nervousness, I've been with my ex for so long its weird having sex with another girl and condom feels freaking weird too (my ex was on pills so we didn't use it). I can barely feel her ***** with that darn thing! I'm so sad right now. It was so embarrassing but at least she seemed cool and understanding with it and didn't make fun of me or anything like that lol. I really don't know how to act now or if I should even call her and try again. What if the same thing happens? Thoughts?
Wolf18 Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Don't worry OP it's happened to the best of us. It died not because of booze (although that never helps), it was because I had the flu, so my thermometer didn't work Keep it to 1-2 drinks next time. And yes, condoms are awful and while i'm fully aware that Lifetime channel male-villains say this, it's true, they really kill the mood. But if you don't know someone too well I suppose it's a good idea. Have her put it on for you next time.
Feelsgoodman Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 All I can say is that it happens. Your dick is not a mechanical device that jumps up on command. Sometimes it has a mind of its own. For whatever reason, it didn't want to be inside that online dating tramp you were trying to have sex with on the first date. Unless it's a recurring problem, I wouldn't worry about it too much.
dasein Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Have had that problem before also, especially with someone new and with some alcohol. Two things help, the right kind of talk and just asking her to touch me. Using those two, haven't had that problem in some time.
RecordProducer Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 If you think it's nervousness plus condom - you're your own best diagnostics doctor, so listen to your gut. One more thing: this was your first date - and you're used to a steady relationship. I think you didn't feel comfortable, but because you were drunk, you thought you were horny enough. Next time, try to get to know the girl a bit more. Sex is a serious emotional, mental and physical act and our bodies react accordingly. Your subconscious was trying to tell you "Don't do it," that's all. No biggie. One no-lift doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Forget it ever happened - and no, don't try again with that girl. She probably wouldn't want to anyway.
ChessPieceFace Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Kind of agree with the oral sex thing, might have been a good idea. A better idea would have been to not have sex with someone on the first date. Maybe your conscience knew better than you did.
Emilia Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 If you think it's nervousness plus condom - you're your own best diagnostics doctor, so listen to your gut. One more thing: this was your first date - and you're used to a steady relationship. I think you didn't feel comfortable, but because you were drunk, you thought you were horny enough. Next time, try to get to know the girl a bit more. Sex is a serious emotional, mental and physical act and our bodies react accordingly. Your subconscious was trying to tell you "Don't do it," that's all. No biggie. One no-lift doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Forget it ever happened - and no, don't try again with that girl. She probably wouldn't want to anyway. This. You are more used to intimacy because it is what you were used to with your ex. A lot of people don't like 'cold' sex, ie just hooking up with someone. As you get older you learn what foreplay works for you, ie how to build the mood for yourself and her while you are out on the date, rather than rely on booze to take off the edge. The brain is the largest sexual organ
Imageiko Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Yeah, I have a thought. Being that you're young (I'm assuming so from the "91" after your name) you need to learn a little tact and class. Only a young dumbass uses the word "p*ussy" when he's posting in a DATING section. Learn a little tact. And if you WERE born in 1991 and live in the states, you aren't even allowed to drink by law yet all you do is brag about how many times you've had sex while drunk. The one thing you DON'T brag about is how these women climax repeatedly. ROFL. Big surprise there. What a catch. lol, if you read earlier he said he was 24. It's ok I'm sure you were so excited to climb onto your high horse that you decided to ignore reading comprehension. Careful you're pretty high up there, I wouldn't want you to fall and break your hip...
dasein Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Y Only a young dumbass uses the word "p*ussy" when he's posting in a DATING section. What do you suggest it be called? Men learn to refer to vaginas in other more colorful terms from women, who rarely ever say "my vagina." Instead they say p-ssy, cooch, trap, cooter, vajayjay, mouse, vag, among a whole list of other words. It's being naive to expect that posters use only strict medical terminology for sexual apparatus on an informal dating board.
RecordProducer Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Yeah, I have a thought. Being that you're young (I'm assuming so from the "91" after your name) you need to learn a little tact and class. Only a young dumbass uses the word "p*ussy" when he's posting in a DATING section. Learn a little tact. And if you WERE born in 1991 and live in the states, you aren't even allowed to drink by law yet all you do is brag about how many times you've had sex while drunk. The one thing you DON'T brag about is how these women climax repeatedly. ROFL. Big surprise there. What a catch.Wow! I wonder what the "wiser" in your username stands for. This boy is 24 and he did nothing wrong. He came here to seek help in a form of answers. I'm so glad you're not a counselor - you'd cause people to commit suicide. Work on your anger issues,please, instead of releasing them on innocent young people who didn't ask for your opinion on their language or drinking habits.
Trimmer Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Yeah, I have a thought. Being that you're young (I'm assuming so from the "91" after your name) you need to learn a little tact and class. Only a young dumbass uses the word "p*ussy" when he's posting in a DATING section. Learn a little tact. And if you WERE born in 1991 and live in the states, you aren't even allowed to drink by law yet all you do is brag about how many times you've had sex while drunk. The one thing you DON'T brag about is how these women climax repeatedly. ROFL. Big surprise there. What a catch. I think a number of other posters have done a fine job of piling on, so I won't belabor their good points, except to say: Lighten up, Francis. (I suppose - being so old and wise - you may actually be too old to get that movie reference...) Although it's so hard to resist pointing out that you called him a "young dumbass", and then immediately continued to base most of the rest of your post around your misperception of his age, when he had clearly posted it - which was obvious to the rest of us. Oh see - there, I couldn't resist after all.
ShannonMI Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 I met a girl online and we went to dinner today. Got a little tipsy and I invited her to my place. One thing led to another and we were in bed making out, I went down on her (she loved it), however, once it was time to put it in, my penis wasn't hard for some reason. Then I tried going down on her for a good 10 minutes while stimulating myself and managed to enter her for several minutes before going limp again. At that time, she was just like "its OK, maybe next time" and left. I really don't get why this happened to me. The only thing I can say is nervousness, I've been with my ex for so long its weird having sex with another girl and condom feels freaking weird too (my ex was on pills so we didn't use it). I can barely feel her ***** with that darn thing! I'm so sad right now. It was so embarrassing but at least she seemed cool and understanding with it and didn't make fun of me or anything like that lol. I really don't know how to act now or if I should even call her and try again. What if the same thing happens? Thoughts? How tipsy was tipsy? Like wasted? If so you had a case of Whiskey Dick. Not a big deal. Next time you want to get busy with a girl, don't drink half your weight in booze and you'll be fine.
runner Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 lol, if you read earlier he said he was 24. It's ok I'm sure you were so excited to climb onto your high horse that you decided to ignore reading comprehension. Careful you're pretty high up there, I wouldn't want you to fall and break your hip... lol on the flip side to that earlier criticism, i like it when girls say 'cock'
RecordProducer Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 it's so hard to resist pointing out that you called him a "young dumbass".Do you think O&W means young + dumbass or did young just inherently mean dumb? lol on the flip side to that earlier criticism, i like it when girls say 'cock' Then you would love living in Russia since "How are you?" in Russian is "Kak dela?"(pronounced cock dee-lah).
Feelin Frisky Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 I don't agree with the advice to write her off and that she probably won't want to bother with you again. She seemed understanding and if you think there was some other connection there and that she might like you regardless, man up and check her out again. I'm sure you expressed remorse--put it behind you and don't bring it up again. So you're 24 and are pretty certain you don't have ED and are straight. I heard you say you went down on her but not that she did you. You may have been a tad too ritualistic and goal-oriented and sex is best when it's spontaneous and free-wheeling IMO. No script--a.) make out, b.) eat her, c.) get out condom, d.) put on bag, e.) f***. Since you have already been physical, it should be much more fluid and natural to mix it up and make it good. Try to get some "attention" from her if you know what I mean.
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