missed_theboat Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 I had a breakup with my boyfriend a couple months ago. Then, we went on a road-trip together, and about a week later, we're being sweeter to each other and contemplating a beautiful refreshing re-start together. It's wonderful and I have not been happier in a long time. I'm accompanying him to his sister's house this weekend on a mini trip, and he told me how happy he is with me. He said he knows he has hard to deal with in the past, but that he loves me for me--especially for my unwavering belief in him, and in us. I am so glad he appreciates that I never gave up on him or on us. 1
Million.to.1 Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 I'm so jealous. I wish my ex cared about MY unwavering belief in him, and in us. You are very lucky.. and one of the very few to have this opportunity. I really hope it works out for you.
Author missed_theboat Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 I'm so jealous. I wish my ex cared about MY unwavering belief in him, and in us. You are very lucky.. and one of the very few to have this opportunity. I really hope it works out for you. Thank you! I appreciate it. And I don't know your story, but maybe he will. If not, (I know it sounds awful now--but someone will appreciate it one day). Yes, I just want to make this chance count and be calm and loving and take this opportunity to be fresh.
mike588 Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 I had a breakup with my boyfriend a couple months ago. Then, we went on a road-trip together, and about a week later, we're being sweeter to each other and contemplating a beautiful refreshing re-start together. It's wonderful and I have not been happier in a long time. I'm accompanying him to his sister's house this weekend on a mini trip, and he told me how happy he is with me. He said he knows he has hard to deal with in the past, but that he loves me for me--especially for my unwavering belief in him, and in us. I am so glad he appreciates that I never gave up on him or on us. How long were you together? What caused the breakup?
Author missed_theboat Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 How long were you together? What caused the breakup? We were together a year. And we broke up because we had personal problems in our lives. He had anxiety to an extreme that made him take great measures to get help and get on the right track again. During that time, he thought being apart would benefit both of us. I also had been anxious and let my insecurities get to me during our relationship. It wasn't any cheating or anything like that--we never stopped loving each other or talking during our breakup. It was just a kind of break during which our feelings for each other intensified and we realized it was real and meant to be.
mike588 Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 We were together a year. And we broke up because we had personal problems in our lives. He had anxiety to an extreme that made him take great measures to get help and get on the right track again. During that time, he thought being apart would benefit both of us. I also had been anxious and let my insecurities get to me during our relationship. It wasn't any cheating or anything like that--we never stopped loving each other or talking during our breakup. It was just a kind of break during which our feelings for each other intensified and we realized it was real and meant to be. Hope you two have worked out all the issues. Best of luck!
Author missed_theboat Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 Hope you two have worked out all the issues. Best of luck! Thanks! I had another post about our road trip and my angst over how it was going to go (since we were broken-up at the time) and so I posted because some people had told me to update on how it went.
ScienceGal Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 So great to hear this! And cute pic Most people find it easier to give up and move on. Pride, ego, stubbornness, and pain ruin many relationships. I think that taking a break, realizing what needs to be fixed, and both people coming back together with a mission of commitment can make the love and bond stronger. Wishing you the best!
Author missed_theboat Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 So great to hear this! And cute pic Most people find it easier to give up and move on. Pride, ego, stubbornness, and pain ruin many relationships. I think that taking a break, realizing what needs to be fixed, and both people coming back together with a mission of commitment can make the love and bond stronger. Wishing you the best! Oh thanks! Yeah that pic was during our road trip. Even though we weren't "together" you can tell we definitely were happy being together. And yes, having a mutual want to be together is essential. I feel very confident about this time around.
Author missed_theboat Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 The best part is, he told his mom, who had a really rocky relationship with me during our initial dating. He told her he loves me and that he wants to be with me and it was serious. She said she wants to have a better relationship with me, so I am completely faithful that he is really serious about having me in his life.
sardeen Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 That is good to read. This is what many hope for and hopefully you make the most of it. I had this happen to me and it was the best feeling, but it was taken away from me. Just take it slow and dont make the same mistake I made of not addressing all the issues because they do resurface.
Author missed_theboat Posted December 6, 2011 Author Posted December 6, 2011 Thank you! I went on a road trip with him this weekend to see his sister and we spent some time alone, too. He was talking about how he really realized that he wants to take this seriously with me, and start building a life together. I always wanted that too, so I am excited to start building this relationship on trust and love. Only one issue came up and we dealt with it, in a more calm way than ever before. He told me he's moving forward and wants me to come with him in it. I do believe we had a terrific chance if I can get over some of my own insecurity issues. They could tear us apart if I'm not diligent about making myself happy on my own and dealing with the insecurity that is unfounded.
othersideofthepillow Posted December 6, 2011 Posted December 6, 2011 this is so great to hear! i remember reading your post of the upcoming road trip and how confused you were about what was gonna happen.....looks like it went in you favor 100x over i wish more than anything i would get that second chance with my ex but i feel like besides from me begging and pleading with her that her pride/ego will always keep us apart (even tho she broke up with me and is the one that goes hot/cold on me when we do have LC). i havent heard from her for 2 weeks and we've been split up for 4 1/2 months now (had contact during that time just not the past few weeks). i wish you the uttermost best and do your absolute best to work on whatever issues you may still have that caused the initial split - its like others say they always rear their ugly head again and can cause another bu if your not careful. best of luck and keep updating us on how things are going! its nice to actually have success stories on here instead of just ppl telling you to get over it and move on. best of luck to you too!
Author missed_theboat Posted December 8, 2011 Author Posted December 8, 2011 Thanks, othersideofthepillow! Yeah, I believe we're dedicated. I just have to realize that being with him is much better than being without, and that space and trust is very important during this period of reconnection. It's important to establish some of those ideals in our new-relationship, because those are some of the things that caused us trouble before. We're both more aware now than before, and both on-board, so anything is possible. I feel very positive!
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