mmm125 Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 Here is my story in a nutshell. I was married for 27 years, have three grown kids and am in a relationship with a MW. Actually I am not divorced yet, I filed 4 years ago and tried counciling, therapy and everything else I could think of to save the relationship. After numerous heatbreaks and constant seperation I gave up and moved to a new job in a city far away. I have been on my own now for six months and hopefully the divorce will be finalized soon. I started seeing the MW about a year ago, we have known each other for going on 20 years. We both admit that we had feelings for each other but never did anything because of our spouses. She is unhappy and wants out but cannot take the first step to end her marrige. I, like a dope have waited it out but am becoming more and more convinced that even though I believe she loves me, she is unable to end what she has at home. She has told her siblings, her 35 year old son and her mother about me, we have even met but the one person who needs to know is in the dark. Well I suppose he may have an idea but she has not said a word to her husband. I've suggested a therapist, seeing a lawyer, etc but the answer is always the same, "I'm trying to figure this out" and she does nothing. I think I figured it out but want some input, am I hoping for something that will never happen? Should I just try and forget about her and move on with my life?
Ariadne Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 Hi, If she has a 35 year old son then she must be in her 50s at least. People that age don't act recklessly like that and throw a marriage of many years under the bus. She is probably not sure that would be a good idea after all, no matter how much she enjoys seeing you. At least you got to be with her. Hope things work out for the best.
East7 Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 I think I figured it out but want some input, am I hoping for something that will never happen? Should I just try and forget about her and move on with my life? Deep down you know the right answers. Given her age, the chances she starts a divorce are very slim. She will likely keep the status quo and go on like this. You may be her OM for years. If she was that miserable in her marriage she wouldn't have waited you or anyone else to divorce. All she lacks is motivation. So yes, in my humble opinion, don't waste your time.
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