infinity8245 Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 My long term girlfriend and I broke up a few months ago and I've gotten to the point where I'm ready to start dating again. I'm feeling very happy with my life and confident about myself, more so than when I was with my ex. However, it's been a while since I've been out there, so I could use some guidance and advice on my present situation. About a week and a half ago, I met this amazing girl while climbing and bouldering. She's the roommate one of my classmates and colleagues, and she introduced us because we were both climbers. The first time we met for climbing, we only spent about an hour together, but had a lot of fun chatting. The next day she left to visit her family for Thanksgiving break, but we kept in touch over text throughout the week. When she got back, we met up for climbing once again and although we were at the climbing gym for a couple of hours, we probably only climbed for 45 minutes and spent the rest of the time talking. Later that night, we met up for a couple of beers and ended up talking and laughing for almost three hours. I walked to her car when we were leaving and said goodbye, which ended up being kind of awkward. I think we were both a bit shy and we didn't hug or anything, but she did make it known to contact her if I wanted to do something this week. I haven't contacted her yet to set something up for this week, but we have tentative plans to climb at this amazing gym I know of in my hometown about an hour away from where we live. I heard from her roommate (my friend) that she was initially unsure about going out with me for beers after climbing, but my friend pushed her to and we had a great time. I'm also aware that this girl, like me, got out of a long term relationship last summer. I'm a little bit confused about where I stand and what I should do. On the one hand, we flirt over text and have great conversation with lots of smiles and laughs in person. But on the other hand, we haven't even hugged yet? Perhaps she is not ready for something serious, but neither I am necessarily. I'd just really like to get to know her better and see what happens. Should I talk to her and let her know how I feel and what I'm thinking? I kind of want to make it known that I have a thing for her (though I'm sure she probably knows) and tell her I'd like to keep seeing each other and see what happens. I feel that it's good to be direct about things and have that conversation with her to see where she stands. Is this a good idea? Bad idea? Any advice and insight would be greatly appreciated, thanks!
dasein Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 Ask her out for some specific plan. If she says yes, or no with a definite counterplan, go out and have fun. Keep doing this. Don't talk to women you hardly know about any kinds of deep topics, exes, feelings, etc. on the first date or two, and then very sparingly afterwards, simply relax and have fun.
Author infinity8245 Posted December 1, 2011 Author Posted December 1, 2011 Thanks for the advice, I will take that into consideration. As far as letting her know how I feel, do you think that would be advisable?
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