Blackened Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 I've been seeing this guy for a few months. We haven't actually labeled it as a relationship, but we have talked about this thing we have going... We like each other, we are attracted to each other. We spend pretty much every weekend together. Now... there's his ex. Things get complicated here. This is a small town and she is a friend of mine. They dated in 2008 for two months. She cheated on him. They broke up. Her and I were friends before him and are still friends now. She has given this her blessing. She"s not the slightest bit upset that him and I are seeing each other. She even told me she thought I would be a good fit for them even when they were together. I'm apartment hunting. There's a nice, affordable, and pet friendly apartment right below her. She has told me if I move in, she will be there a lot. She told me she will have to fight with him over who gets to spend time with me, etc. And he has told me that even though it was a bad break up and she cheated on him, that he will always feel something for her because they bonded. So, as much as I want to move out... here I am wondering if it's a good idea to give them a reason to be around each other. I feel awful saying that... Him and I haven't even really gotten serious yet. I mean, I like him, I want this to continue and I can really see it being serious in the future. So... should I live in an apartment where his ex girlfriend is right above us all the time. As much as I love her, I don't want her to jeopardize my chance with him either. Idk... good apartments are rare here too. What do you all think?
Author Blackened Posted December 1, 2011 Author Posted December 1, 2011 Could someone plase give me some advice?
Author Blackened Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 Ok, well thanks all. Didn't think this was that messed up of a situation...
freestyle Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 My thinking is that it might be a little too close for comfort---wouldn't it be kind of weird for the three of you to hang out together? Although--I'm one to talk----My ex from twenty years ago met someone within a year after we broke up. I met her a few times, and liked her. (I broke up with him, so there was absolutely NO jealousy on my part, I was very happy that he found someone new.....) A few years into their relationship , it came up that she was looking for a place to live---the house next door to me came up for rent, so I told her about it. She ended up being my neighbor for almost a year.... It was a little strange seeing my exbf come and go next door, but there were no hard feelings. I guess it really depends on the dynamic between everyone involved, in your situation---if your friendship with her is solid, and your relationship with him is solid, everything might be cool. But if anything goes bad--then you will end up being too close for comfort.
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