Veryconfused12345 Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 Hi Guys, I know I shouldn't have but I contacted him. 3 months NC and I for some reason thought I'd just say hi via chat. It was such a terrible idea. The conversation was civil and I tried to be funny and upbeat, but my heart was literally pounding the entire time. He said I gave him confidence when we were together and he wanted to continue to make me proud. I'm even more confused and upset now and of course I'm compelled to analyze everything he said. It's not like NC was really helping me that much though. I seem to be thinking about him all the time and the longer the time without talking, the more I wonder where he is and what he's doing. I sincerely wish I had never gotten attached to him.
bbronco Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 At least you got a response! That can be seen as a good thing...but hopefully regular contact can stem from this, otherwise, it might be a set-back to your progress :/
BigDumbFoot Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 At least you got a response! That can be seen as a good thing...but hopefully regular contact can stem from this, otherwise, it might be a set-back to your progress :/ I don't know if regular contact would be good for her at this point. I think the less contact the better. She says that NC wasn't helping, but maybe she just hasn't given it enough time. There seems to be a threshold you pass after a certain number of weeks/months of no contact with an ex.. just my thought.
Rorschach64 Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 NC takes time...it is okay if you break it, some people slip, so no need to beat yourself up over it. Just let this incident remind you as to why you are doing it. Take what he said to the dump and hurl it over in to the compactor. NC is something you gotta force yourself to do no matter how much your heart or mind says otherwise, eventually you will be a sort of dead empty to the situation.
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