singlelife Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 It seems a lot of the young 20 somethings are going for the 35 and up men. Appearantly they feel attracted to mature men more than the young men. Trying to find out from the ladies why that is. Thanks for your answers ahead of time.
MyApology Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 It seems a lot of the young 20 somethings are going for the 35 and up men. Appearantly they feel attracted to mature men more than the young men. Trying to find out from the ladies why that is. Thanks for your answers ahead of time. Not sure. Maybe they are looking for a sugar daddy. I have dated older men, and now am seeing someone closer to my age, and there is a huge difference! The way we speak to one another is refreshing, he is more open, less aged I guess!
Wolf18 Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Yes women love older men and there's nothing wrong with that. From what I've heard it's their wi$$$dom, ambition to $ucc€€d, int€r€sting p€r$onaliti€$, and of course "integrity" Younger men just ¢an't ¢ompete
ShannonMI Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 It seems a lot of the young 20 somethings are going for the 35 and up men. Appearantly they feel attracted to mature men more than the young men. Trying to find out from the ladies why that is. Thanks for your answers ahead of time. You said it. Attracted to MATURE men. And a man who has a job and isn't in college is always nice. He doesn't have to be rich, but having a steady income is important. Also older men are more experienced and know how to treat a lady. At least the older guys I've dated have.
ShannonMI Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 I've also dated younger men. The sex is always fun with them. That's about it though:p
FrustrationSetsIn Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 This isn't a new phenomena when I was in my 20s, some women were dating older men as well. Looking back on it, I can't say I blame them. In my earlier 20's and most guys I knew around that age were practically still acting like boys.
Bullet Proof Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 I'm attracted to older guys, more mature and better in bed Now, I don't see it as anything serious though as I wouldn't want that big of an age difference in a long term relationship.
phineas Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 I gotta say, I had more women in their 20's show interest in me last summer than I had any summer when I was in my 20's. I got a house, a 50" plasma, comfy couch & I can grill just about anything for dinner. I'm kinda strapped for cash however those women wern't looking for a suger-daddy or a husband. Just some fun. I'm still trying to figure out why me but my divorced buddy my age said he was attracting women in the same age group.
Author singlelife Posted December 1, 2011 Author Posted December 1, 2011 I like all the comments I guess it has a lot of truth to it. Because some of the ladies may have a bf that is ripped up and good looking but that doesn't keep them from going after the older man who may be less physically attractive.
oldguy Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 I found myself singly for a few years when I was in my early to mid 40's & dated a couple of 20 something, women. This is a paraphrased quote from one of them; "younger guys are just players who are too into themselves or their cars to waste my time with". I knew it certainly wasn't my money
Author singlelife Posted December 1, 2011 Author Posted December 1, 2011 Yeah I think the too into themselves is a big one. You have to treat a woman right.
ThsAmericanLife Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 naaah... it only seems like that because the random relationship between a 20 something woman and much older guy sticks in men's memories. Or, the handful of times a 20 something hits on them... sticks in their memories. Big ego boost. The vast majority of women in their 20's want men their own age... and for most women I know and the ones who post here... that doesn't change as they get older. Sure, there are women with 'issues' that need a father figure or are looking to get their 'learn on' sexually (just like young men do), but it is rare. Funny... I get hit on by much younger men routinely... but you don't see me walking around saying all 20 something guys hit on 40 something women.
oldguy Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 naaah... it only seems like that because the random relationship between a 20 something woman and much older guy sticks in men's memories. Or, the handful of times a 20 something hits on them... sticks in their memories. Big ego boost. The vast majority of women in their 20's want men their own age... and for most women I know and the ones who post here... that doesn't change as they get older. Sure, there are women with 'issues' that need a father figure or are looking to get their 'learn on' sexually (just like young men do), but it is rare. Funny... I get hit on by much younger men routinely... but you don't see me walking around saying all 20 something guys hit on 40 something women. You are right; the vast majority of 20 somethings do prefer guys their own age but for the few who don't there is a whole range of reasons; Daddy issues to the reason I posted. I'm a guy who is actually more flattered when a woman my age flirts with me. I personally find it a bit disturbing to have a 20 something flirt with me as I have children that age. So it is a bit gross from my perspective
ThsAmericanLife Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 You are right; the vast majority of 20 somethings do prefer guys their own age but for the few who don't there is a whole range of reasons; Daddy issues to the reason I posted. I'm a guy who is actually more flattered when a woman my age flirts with me. I personally find it a bit disturbing to have a 20 something flirt with me as I have children that age. So it is a bit gross from my perspective Yea, me too... about the gross out part. The young gentlemen in my class are young enough to be my kids. Bless their hearts. If I didn't risk getting fired, I'd ask them all if their dads are single!! I have poked around those lines before to the few I've gotten to know. No luck. All their dads are happily married to their moms...
OnyxSnowfall Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 I prefer older men (I'm in my mid-twenties).
mtber75 Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 Dido on the maturity and experience part! When I was in my 20s I was pretty immature and bad sexually so no wonder women would go for older guys!
mtber75 Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 Also we seem to obsessed about age in this country (USA or maybe in Canada too). Overseas, its common to see MUCH older dudes with young women!
Woggle Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 My father is in his 60s and in remarkably good shape for a man his age and he flirts with younger women all the time.
ThsAmericanLife Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 Also we seem to obsessed about age in this country (USA or maybe in Canada too). Overseas, its common to see MUCH older dudes with young women! and vice versa, I'm sure... A cover of "Paris Match" featuring Sharon Stone http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/08/06/sharon-stone-topless-on-p_n_252960.html
Author singlelife Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 My father is in his 60s and in remarkably good shape for a man his age and he flirts with younger women all the time. But I also bet the younger girls like it and flirt back.
Author singlelife Posted December 2, 2011 Author Posted December 2, 2011 Dido on the maturity and experience part! When I was in my 20s I was pretty immature and bad sexually so no wonder women would go for older guys! So now that you're older do you find young ladies attracted to you.
Woggle Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 But I also bet the younger girls like it and flirt back. Of course. He lives near the beach in NY and he gets tons of women in the summer. After the horrible marriage to my mother he deserves it.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 When I was younger I did date older men. Older men hit on me more then men my age. Older men were less intimdating because frankly they didn't really draw from me the same feelings of passion as guys my age that made me much more nervous. And older men spent money on me. The older men did most of the work out of their desire to be with me, I really didn't have to do much of anything. But then I got older, I matured. I realized that these relationshps where rather surface and not as much fun as I thought. And I felt grateful. Because here these men were 35+ still trying to act like they where "young at heart", still trying to learn a lesson that took me about 5 years as a woman to learn. Then I started dating men my own age and the connections where deeper, the experience more worthwhile because I actually had to do some work in the relationship with men my age. And they connected with me on levels an older fatherly like man just couldn't. When I was younger and dated these older men, most of my friends would bust on me for it. Only one of my other girlfriends dated older men. But she has since divorced him and is now married to a man 2 years younger then herself. Older men always try to flirt with me and I am usually kind back but have absolutely no interest in them sexually or otherwise. They think they are fabulous and impressive and I turn them down in ways they walk away thinking they did such a good job. I roll my eyes because of their lack of personal self reflection. I don't really know why these older guys think I should settle for someone their age when they don't even want to e with someone their age. I think sometimes older men assume a younger woman is flirting with him when she is probably jsut being nice. I know it was true for me. It was always easier to talk to older me because I didn't really evern consider them anything sexual then it was with men my age. Just last week, I complimented an older man on something completely asexual and then after that, he started hitting on me. I was nice to him and friendly but I was really turned off and disappointed. And a few weeks ago this older man I regularly see in the same grocery store who I thought was just friendly started talking with me. We talked before and he reminded me of a fatherly type. But then he started hitting on me and I was like "ummm huh? " I told him I was already in a relatoinship and when he was all like "oh that's too bad" I played along and nodded and said "yeaah". When he walked away, I just kept thinking what a fool he made of himself. I also have seen many younger girls play along with older men and flirt with them only to see the older man walk away and the younger women roll their eyes or make comments about them. It's not the compliment older men sometimes think it is when they hit on you. While I do think there are women that like older men, I don't think it's the norm. I also think that sometimes older men mistake flirting for just being nice. I have had it happen so much with me.
dasein Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Half of the young twenties women I meet start up with me after some conversation, usually a very brief convo, but I suppose them asking if I have a GF, making an obvious point of telling me they are just about to get off work, taking my phone out of my hand and dialing their number with it are just "being nice." I suppose them telling me, "that's not too old" when I rebuff their flirting by telling them I'm old enough to be their father is just "being nice" too. I'm 5'10", certainly no model, and drive a 10 yr old American car. I have no idea how bad the young men of their age must be to drive them towards men my age, but that younger women today seek out older men is a fact, I watch them doing it to my dad... my DAD. I know the difference between being nice and flirting, you tend to learn that during 20 years or so of dating, and actually prefer women in their early 30s, so is actually counter to my preference. The ones who treat me completely asexually are the 30+ yr old ones who already have a house full of kids and can tell by just looking at me that I'm not the type who's going to fall prey to helping them pay for their bad choices in life. Interestingly, that's probably the exact same quality that attracts the younger ones.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 3, 2011 Posted December 3, 2011 Dasien, my mom is 54 and still gets hit on herself from men of all ages. But you don't see me talking about it every post I get. You've mentioned how studly you find your own dad several times now. In my experiece a lot of men don't know the difference between being nice and flirting. I'm afraid that some men are afraid of feeling humilated for trying to flirt, that when girls are flirting with them, they think they are just being nice and when men have bigger egos about their worth, they assume any mildly attractive female who talks to them is flirting with them. I have seen it time and time again. It's actually an interesting conumdrum. Further, maturity has nothing to do with age in many cases in today's world. LS is a good example of this. I have seen many young men that are far more mature then their years and many older men that want to act like they are still in college. The ones who treat me completely asexually are the 30+ yr old ones who already have a house full of kids and can tell by just looking at me that I'm not the type who's going to fall prey to helping them pay for their bad choices in life. Interestingly, that's probably the exact same quality that attracts the younger ones. I doubt 30+ year olds are treating you asexual because "they can tell just be looking at" you that your "not the type who's going to fall prey to helping them pay for their bad choices in life". Your negativity about them probably rolls off of you and they probably steer clear of you for that negativity and judgement you have about them. I don't understand why you think 30+ year old women with kids are looking for YOU to pay for them for their "mistakes". Rather all encompassingly assuming and egotistical. SOmetimes marriages don't work out. People get divorced and people of all ages still want companionship. Sometimes that will include kids. Now if you don't want to date women your own age, that's fine. But no need to put them down.
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