swann Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Hi everybody, my girlfriend has just left the house where we have lived together for 3 years. She has already taken her cat and she'll come back to get all her other things when I'll be at work. I was expecting this because I saw her unhappy in the last months, but it hurts nonetheless. At least she's been very honest: she really care about me and had the best intentions (kids, marriage, etc) but some some reason it didn't work. I didn't try to stop her. Now I'm hurting, but I think that I'll fully realize the whole thing when I'll come back to find the house empty of her stuff. That will hurt a lot. I just turned 36, I don't think I'll have other chances to build a family. Sorry for being so short, I feel very depressed tonight. I just wanted to share my pain with other people on the same boat.
mike588 Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Hi everybody, my girlfriend has just left the house where we have lived together for 3 years. She has already taken her cat and she'll come back to get all her other things when I'll be at work. I was expecting this because I saw her unhappy in the last months, but it hurts nonetheless. At least she's been very honest: she really care about me and had the best intentions (kids, marriage, etc) but some some reason it didn't work. I didn't try to stop her. Now I'm hurting, but I think that I'll fully realize the whole thing when I'll come back to find the house empty of her stuff. That will hurt a lot. I just turned 36, I don't think I'll have other chances to build a family. Sorry for being so short, I feel very depressed tonight. I just wanted to share my pain with other people on the same boat. What happened that she's unhappy?
Author swann Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 What happened that she's unhappy? Hi Mike588. I've had some health problems in the last 6 months. It turned out to be nothing serious, but I've been very worry and anxious. She could not handle the anxiety coming from me, so we were fighting a lot. She's also unhappy because she's unemployed and the future doesn't seem too bright from this point of view for her. It's a pity because we really had a strong connection on a lot of aspects of life and we truly loved each other (I still do).
Author swann Posted December 1, 2011 Author Posted December 1, 2011 A little update: tonight, when I got back home, her things were gone. As I already said I knew this was coming, but hey, what a punch in the stomach! I'm hurting really badly now...looking at the house we have furnished together it's unbearable! Even worse I have started having pointless thoughts like "It's all my fault", "She really loved me but I screw it all", "If I only had..." and so on. I feel devastated. How long will the "shock" phase last? I'm looking forward to the anger stage
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