MyApology Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 In my belief, you are only treated in the ways you ALLOW yourself to be treated. If you stop the bull before it occurs and let the man know what and what type of behavoir you will put up with, will halt any disrespect in the long run. If they continue to be creeps, you bolt! I have found nipping it in the bud, works perfectly. I just will not put up with it. Women try this, it has been coming out naturally for me. When a man I am in a relationship says or does something that I perceive as rude or disrespectful, I will straightforwardly point it out, and express I do not put up with such BS, and I have found surprisingly they do not run, but oblige and have more respect for you! Men will never admit it, but they love for a woman to be dominant, not in a mothering or smothering way, like trying to change them, do things as they wish, but standing your ground in a light stand off. If a man continues to be rude, cold, and disrespectful, then that is a huge red flag, run. And I will confess there are times I make mistakes and become weak, but this is more far inbetween, then a frequent occurence.
AHardDaysNight Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 This is something a lot of men won't admit. They like pleasing women, therefore they will bend over backwards (within reason) to please her. However, there is a line that should be drawn between trying to please, and the woman being disrespectful in return. If she is crossing that line, he should walk away.
Author MyApology Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 I agree totally! Men do wish to please us! But, women need to outline in the beginning, not in a wishful way, but in a straight forward way. For, example NEVER ask a man why they treat you a certain way, but tell him your expectations that will not waiver in relation to their behavoir toward you. And agree, men nor women, should never be disrespectful or rude toward one another. When the word fun, becomes misery, it is time to leave a note, Goodbye Sweetheart, gone fishing! I have decided to give my recent relationship a chance, he is kind and respectful towards me. He likes me as is, and talks about this, how much he likes me as is, and would not change a thing! He calls me hot, lol, like a kid in a candy store. We tease and laugh. We compiment one another in all ways. If this changes to him, making snide remarks, rude, or it turns from fun to misery, then it is time to say Bye. We are having fun. I believe when the relationship starts of with a GOAL in mind, it is already IN RUINS.
AHardDaysNight Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 I agree totally! Men do wish to please us! But, women need to outline in the beginning, not in a wishful way, but in a straight forward way. For, example NEVER ask a man why they treat you a certain way, but tell him your expectations that will not waiver in relation to their behavoir toward you. And agree, men nor women, should never be disrespectful or rude toward one another. When the word fun, becomes misery, it is time to leave a note, Goodbye Sweetheart, gone fishing! I have decided to give my recent relationship a chance, he is kind and respectful towards me. He likes me as is, and talks about this, how much he likes me as is, and would not change a thing! He calls me hot, lol, like a kid in a candy store. We tease and laugh. We compiment one another in all ways. If this changes to him, making snide remarks, rude, or it turns from fun to misery, then it is time to say Bye. We are having fun. I believe when the relationship starts of with a GOAL in mind, it is already IN RUINS. Just be careful. All couples fight, and if you refuse to fight, then you'll never be part of a long lasting relationship.
Author MyApology Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Just be careful. All couples fight, and if you refuse to fight, then you'll never be part of a long lasting relationship. Yes, but fights should be far and few, in a healthy, fun relationship! There should not be fights and silly questions. A woman should never have to ask a man, does he love her, is he attracted to her, what is wrong with her. A man will compliment and love a woman he trully likes. If you start doubting or have these ill questions in mind, then the relationship is doomed.
insertnamehere Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Yes, but fights should be far and few, in a healthy, fun relationship! Have you not ever known one of those old couples who fight like cats and dogs? Some of the most sustained marriages I've seen are between people who are constantly at each other. Sometimes I wonder what world the folks posting on here have been living in.
Author MyApology Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Have you not ever known one of those old couples who fight like cats and dogs? Some of the most sustained marriages I've seen are between people who are constantly at each other. Sometimes I wonder what world the folks posting on here have been living in. Yes, but no, and they will die with remorse of being so codependent. Fighting is not, 'healthy,' in any relationship. Sorry, I do not wish for drama nor enjoy it. Yes, I have seen couple who bicker constantly, and no it is not attractive, and does little to show they care foir one another, and no I do not agree with you on the subject.
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