greddy1337 Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 I've been seeing this girl for about two months now and everything seems to be great thus far. We get along great emotionally and physically. Just this morning she brought up to me that her EX contacted her and wanted to work things out. She is confused about it. She said doesn't know if she wants to get back with him or not. Mind you, he treated her like crap and they ended things back in April. She pretty much told me that I should find someone else that doesn't have all this emotional baggage. It is over in my mind. I would be a fool to even consider sticking around and seeing what happens with her and the EX. Just when I was finally getting over my EX who cheated on me, I get tossed back into a crappy situation. Dating sucks.
punkinless Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 get out now. she obviously still has feelings for her ex.
shayla Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 I think this happens when people try to move on to dating too quickly after a bad break up. If she had been ready to date, it would not have mattered what her ex said to her. She would have treated it like the meaningless noise it is and would have gone on with her life. She did not dealt with that break up and now she is confused and it's now messing up her next relationship. Dating does suck when people try to do it too soon.
ScienceGal Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 There was a small time frame when I would've considered talking to my ex even though he treated me poorly. But, that time passed quickly. If 7-8 months hasn't been enough time for her to detach herself from him and to see him for his horrible self, then she may never be able to. Get out now. I'm so sorry. It upsets me when these things happen. I was just dating a great guy (made me much happier than my ex!) but he ended up not being ready for a relationship. Sigh.. I really hate dating! Don't give up though, I'm confident good people find each other eventually.
RiverRunning Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 I think this happens when people try to move on to dating too quickly after a bad break up. If she had been ready to date, it would not have mattered what her ex said to her. She would have treated it like the meaningless noise it is and would have gone on with her life. She did not dealt with that break up and now she is confused and it's now messing up her next relationship. Dating does suck when people try to do it too soon. Agreed. If her ex had tried to contact her, he wouldn't have even gotten a "see ya" - just blocked or totally ignored, if she were over him. At least she was upfront and honest with you. Unfortunately, this is a conclusion she should've made WHEN SHE STARTED DATING YOU. She never should've dropped the "I don't know if I want to get back with him or not" bomb after a few months together. I'm so sorry you're going through this OP.
Onlyjonley Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Sorry to hear that. But don't be hard on yourself because of it -- it's nothing you did. She just isn't ready to move on yet. Hang in there.
shayla Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 she took advantage of him. confused is a crap excuse. I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, hoping that this just wasn't a case of her stringing this man along her ex decided what he wanted. I know that the result is the same either way, but I tend to think that she jumped into a new relationship before she had gotten over the one before.
azsinglegal Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Dating is like trying on hats. Some fit, some don't, some look silly, some look sexy, some are too big, some are too small...keep going until you find one that fits. One fish Two fish Red fish Blue fish
phineas Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 I'm betting the ex never really treated her that badly or that he's the one that contacted her.hhh
Author greddy1337 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Thanks for all the great advice! I'm not gonna hang my head down over this. Not everything works out in life as you may want it to.
ShannonMI Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 I've been seeing this girl for about two months now and everything seems to be great thus far. We get along great emotionally and physically. Just this morning she brought up to me that her EX contacted her and wanted to work things out. She is confused about it. She said doesn't know if she wants to get back with him or not. Mind you, he treated her like crap and they ended things back in April. She pretty much told me that I should find someone else that doesn't have all this emotional baggage. It is over in my mind. I would be a fool to even consider sticking around and seeing what happens with her and the EX. Just when I was finally getting over my EX who cheated on me, I get tossed back into a crappy situation. Dating sucks. Awww I'm sorry. This really does suck. It's good that you consider the relationship over. Don't let this girl string you along while she figures out if she and her ex are going to get back together. My guess is that she might get back together with him, realize he's still a dick, then come crawling back to you. Don't let that happen because I'm sure it will.
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