Mark1 Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 (edited) -I have a 3rd date tomorrow with a 32 year old (Im 22) -We have kissed, so I know she doesn't just see me as a friend -Don't have a place of my own (long story); so how do I get back to her place after the date? She has mentioned (on the previous 2 dates) meeting her roommate, or renting a movie one night, but I don't really know how to escalate it to her place. Thanks Edited November 30, 2011 by Mark1
runner Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 -I have a3rd date tomorrow with a 30 year old cool. altho the '30 year old' bit makes you sound ageist. are you ageist ? -We have kissed, so I know she doesn't just see me as a friend so then what do you mean by escalate. getting her naked ? -Don't have a place of my own (long story); so how do I get back to her place after the date? She has mentioned (on the previous 2 dates) meeting her roommate, or renting a movie one night, but I don't really know how to escalate it to her place. Thanks you don't. she'll take you back to her place when she feels ready, and you that happens because you continued to be awesome to her. ... by this thread alone, you kinda sound desperate; continue on that path, and she will sense it, and you'll never see her bedroom.
Author Mark1 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Yes naked, or at least makeout. Maybe she needs a reason to ask me over; maybe she thinks I'm not making a move?
runner Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 you do realise that making out can happen just about anywhere, yes ? why does it have to be at her place ?
Author Mark1 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 you do realise that making out can happen just about anywhere, yes ? why does it have to be at her place ? My place isn't available. We come in separate cars, and we can't really make out in public.
runner Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 My place isn't available. We come in separate cars, and we can't really make out in public. do you live in a muslim society or something ? dark corner boothes are awesome places to make out
runner Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 My place isn't available. We come in separate cars, and we can't really make out in public. and why not in your car ? you gotta do it in the car at least once in your life
Author Mark1 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 do you live in a muslim society or something ? dark corner boothes are awesome places to make out Making out in public is gross (pardon me if I want some privacy/intimacy), and not as comfortable as a couch/bed.
runner Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Making out in public is gross (pardon me if I want some privacy/intimacy), and not as comfortable as a couch/bed. and my job here is done. good luck with that PS, just cos you're in public doesn't mean others are around to watch. just saying.
Author Mark1 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Sorry I have some self respect and don't show PDA.
Jynxx Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 you don't. she'll take you back to her place when she feels ready, and you that happens because you continued to be awesome to her. Actually, she did tell him she's ready when she mentioned he should come see a movie at her place. She won't explicitly ask for it, because she dislikes the idea that she is the leader in the relationship. She'll just throw in tons of hints and suggestions like this, most of which are missed by OP or any man in his position. -I have a 3rd date tomorrow with a 32 year old (Im 22) -We have kissed, so I know she doesn't just see me as a friend -Don't have a place of my own (long story); so how do I get back to her place after the date? She has mentioned (on the previous 2 dates) meeting her roommate, or renting a movie one night, but I don't really know how to escalate it to her place. Thanks It's easier than you think it is. Make sure the date goes in a relaxed mood and is finished in a timely fashion (so she doesn't feel the added pressure of watching a movie when she should be sleeping and being exhausted the next day at her job), mention you'd like to take her up on the movie offer and unless something changed between last time and that time you'll be in. Please post a follow up;)
Author Mark1 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Actually, she did tell him she's ready when she mentioned he should come see a movie at her place. She won't explicitly ask for it, because she dislikes the idea that she is the leader in the relationship. She'll just throw in tons of hints and suggestions like this, most of which are missed by OP or any man in his position. It's easier than you think it is. Make sure the date goes in a relaxed mood and is finished in a timely fashion (so she doesn't feel the added pressure of watching a movie when she should be sleeping and being exhausted the next day at her job), mention you'd like to take her up on the movie offer and unless something changed between last time and that time you'll be in. Please post a follow up;) Thanks!! This is helpful. I think if I escalate touch/make a sexual joke or comment, maybe at the end I can say, "so when do I get to meet that roommate of yours" or "so when do I get to meet your son?"
oaks Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 and we can't really make out in public. Sure you can! Look around (don't stare!) and you'll see people do this all the time. Some places more than others, and there's more anonymity in a crowd than you think. Probably best not to do it in the library or the museum, though. That puts people off. My gf and I got told the other day (in a quiet restaurant) to "get a room" and it was only a kiss. Okay, it wasn't a short kiss, but there was nobody at any adjacent table. Okay, so maybe that wasn't the right place for it, but there are plenty of places where making out in public is entirely okay. Pub/bar, public park, theatre, train station, train. You've already kissed her. Where did that take place? She has mentioned (on the previous 2 dates) meeting her roommate, or renting a movie one night, but I don't really know how to escalate it to her place. Ok, so following that line of conversation... did you discuss what kinds of movie she likes to watch? If not, do that. Then talk about specific movies in that genre - maybe ones you know, or ask if she has a favourite or one she's never seen. Then, after you've been making out with her in the dark corner of the pub you say "let's go back to your place and watch Avatar".
Author Mark1 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Sure you can! Look around (don't stare!) and you'll see people do this all the time. Some places more than others, and there's more anonymity in a crowd than you think. Probably best not to do it in the library or the museum, though. That puts people off. My gf and I got told the other day (in a quiet restaurant) to "get a room" and it was only a kiss. Okay, it wasn't a short kiss, but there was nobody at any adjacent table. Okay, so maybe that wasn't the right place for it, but there are plenty of places where making out in public is entirely okay. Pub/bar, public park, theatre, train station, train. You've already kissed her. Where did that take place? Ok, so following that line of conversation... did you discuss what kinds of movie she likes to watch? If not, do that. Then talk about specific movies in that genre - maybe ones you know, or ask if she has a favourite or one she's never seen. Then, after you've been making out with her in the dark corner of the pub you say "let's go back to your place and watch Avatar". Quick kiss in the parking lot, and yes we have discussed what movie, specifically, we want to watch.
ThsAmericanLife Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Are you looking for a relationship or do you just want to get laid? Responses will differ based on your goals. I don't get the impression you are looking for a relationship though. There are lots of men here you can give you tips on how to create an 'environment' (either real or put on) that will increase your odds of getting sex. Alot of guys just tell women they are looking for something more serious (when they aren't). That seems to work with alot of women who are gullible or also aren't into something more serious and don't care if you are being honest or not. The downside to being sex goal oriented is dealing with the fallout afterwards... especially if you haven't been honest upfront about your intentions.
Author Mark1 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Are you looking for a relationship or do you just want to get laid? Responses will differ based on your goals. I don't get the impression you are looking for a relationship though. There are lots of men here you can give you tips on how to create an 'environment' (either real or put on) that will increase your odds of getting sex. Alot of guys just tell women they are looking for something more serious (when they aren't). That seems to work with alot of women who are gullible or also aren't into something more serious and don't care if you are being honest or not. The downside to being sex goal oriented is dealing with the fallout afterwards... especially if you haven't been honest upfront about your intentions. Not looking for a relationship, and I don't think she is either. Otherwise, I think she would date someone closer to her age.
ThsAmericanLife Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Not looking for a relationship, and I don't think she is either. Otherwise, I think she would date someone closer to her age. I'm not sure you can assume that (although it is a convenient reason to avoid having the conversation). Alot of women are starting to consider dating younger men for relationships. There are a number of women here who are currently or have dated much younger than themselves. They weren't 'looking' for it... it just so happened they had alot in common and it worked out. My last serious BF was nine years younger. Anyway, I always assume a guy who pushes for sex early isn't into a relationship.
Emilia Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Anyway, I always assume a guy who pushes for sex early isn't into a relationship. I just assume he is honest. In my experience sex early in dating isn't necessarily indicative of a man's intentions long term.
st11 Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Sorry I have some self respect and don't show PDA. Girls I was in relationships with loved making out in public (they usually won't tell you this though). What always got them hot was for instance walking down the street at night from a restaurant or club just toss her into a doorway dominantly (not forcefully) and start making out with her. This usually get them going. You need to use the whole date to work up to the nakedness, forplay is your best friend!! And can be lots of fun! I'm sorry it took me into my 30's to realize this. Making out in public is gross (pardon me if I want some privacy/intimacy), and not as comfortable as a couch/bed. You have to be able to do things outside the bedroom or things get boring real fast!!
snug.bunny Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Yes... The title of your thread is misleading. It should read "how to escalate sex", not escalate a "date". Generally, I would say let things happen naturally, but given you're not interested in "developing" any sort of connection/relationship, try not to pretend otherwise by creeping around the issue. Just invite yourself over or ask her if she'd lik to get a hotel room with you.
FrustrationSetsIn Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 anyone else? If you want to be coy about it, here's what you do. Be sure to get yourself a bunch of condoms, ten should do it. Make sure they are the kind with the packaging attached to each other that you have to tear off. Next thing you do is stuff them into the pocket you carry your change in. When it comes time to pay for something, reach into your pocket to pull out the change, but grab the condoms also. In a forceful move, pull the string of condoms out with your handful of change. It may take some practice but make sure the condoms come flying out like a magician pulling a handkerchief out from their sleeve. As soon as she sees you pull all those condoms out from your pocket, she'll get what you're hinting at. Because it's just flashy enough for her to notice that you want to escalate things to sex, but the ten condoms isn't overbearing enough to say that you're expecting it from her. Or you could go the alternate route and talk to her directly about it.
ThsAmericanLife Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 (edited) I just assume he is honest. In my experience sex early in dating isn't necessarily indicative of a man's intentions long term. That's a good point... but I'm tired of being expected to be the moral arbiter. If he can't show some discretion and ability to delay gratification on his own with me, I expect he won't with other women when given the opportunity. But back to the OP's question... there is at least one other thread here about PUA techniques. That's the way to go if all you care about is getting sex. I can't guarantee it will be good sex, but it will 'something', nonetheless. Edited December 1, 2011 by ThsAmericanLife
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