Whipple Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Something I've struggled with for years is the issue that I feel like I am a boring person. My personality is very awkward and I'm a poor conversationalist. I spend about 75% of any conversation with my boyfriend listening to him and 25% is my actual contribution. I just feel like I have nothing interesting to say. My ex reinforced this belief in myself by calling me boring multiple times when we were dating. I'm concerned about this because 1) I don't want to be a boring person and 2) my current boyfriend says that he doesn't like to date boring people and who can blame him? I felt especially boring during my last visit (we are in a LDR) with my boyfriend. I felt like I didn't have anything to say or talk about. It seemed like there were more awkward silences during this visit than usual. It was so stale. My boyfriend didn't act any different during the visit and didn't comment on my lack of conversation, but I'm still worried and here's why: I was really hoping that I was going to be able to visit him this past weekend because I didn't have to work. However, he told me no because he had to prepare some projects for work that are due this week. I know he's telling the truth about the projects, but I'm worried that there might be more to it. Also, we haven't picked a date when we are going to see each other next, and that's really weird. Almost all of the time we have an idea of when our next visit will be. Maybe I'm overreacting and jumping to conclusions, which I've been known to do. My sister tried to reassure me by saying that not every visit and date I have with my boyfriend is going to be filled with fireworks, so to speak. I understand what she is saying and I agree to a certain extent. But it's my personality that I fear is boring and I'm tired of it getting in the way. Any advice?
GG3 Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 I don't think it is very nice of your boyfriend to tell you that you are boring. What about yourself do you think is boring? Maybe it's him. I'm sure some people find me boring. And I know for a fact other people think I'm fun and interesting. Are there any social groups in your area? I'm thinking what if you went out and tried to meet people just as friends and test this theory out about how boring/interesting you are. Maybe you will find a new confidence in yourself talking to some of these people and see that you do have a lot to offer?
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