Author RockGuy87 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 About your story. I'm sorry it happened that way. I've been there. My ex before left me and I did everything you said and never gained an inch. But at least there were no what ifs right? Some say send it, don't send it, or think I should send something different. Idk what she wants. She came begging last time but nothing yet this time. I'm more responsible this time around. But these Facebook posts have really got me confused on what she is thinking.
twinkles Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 If I thought that there wasn't a chance of you two getting back together I would say so. I believe you are having a fight Last time she came begging this time it's up to you...maybe someone is telling her about the no contact...who knows we don't read minds. What I know is that you are miserable and so confused but one way or another you have to act. Re-read the letter I sent you that's all you have to say right now then you wait.
Author RockGuy87 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 (edited) Ok twink Ill send what you said. Here goes nothing.... Edited November 30, 2011 by RockGuy87
Author RockGuy87 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Wait, Should i reall say "i miss you very much" ??
Author RockGuy87 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Ok sent it. Thanks Twinks. Stick around and ill update...
twinkles Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Now you just wait..ok.. you gave her an olive branch.. it's up to her right now to think about what you said and respond to it in which ever way she chooses...give her time to think and don't push. Don't wait for an immediate answer. If she wants to come back and talk she will let you know. If not you have your answer at least your mind can rest and that's what's really important. You really need some peace.
Author RockGuy87 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 I know. I just need to know what to do. I know people say move on from day one but thats hard to do without something. This way she had some days to cool off, she said some things that were about us on fb, and now the ball is officially in her court. I know what I have to do either way now. Ive done both before so i know the road...
Author RockGuy87 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Hey Twinks....She already responded. I'm very sorry on how things ended too. I'm a better woman with you in my life but ******, there are things in our relationship that just...are sad. I know I can be a very big knucklehead too and that's just how it is in our relationship. I can't be without you but sometimes gah. It's super hard for me to be with you. And I can tell it's the same for you. So what all have you realized? Cuz I don't think you still realize the verbal and emotional abuse and hurt I have. I miss you a lot too ****. A lot. So now what?
twinkles Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Every situation is different and every outcome is different. Don't expect her to answer you right away ok she has to think. Who knows what she is feeling about the fight you had..only she knows that. You can rest easier knowing that at least you tried which is more than alot of other people are willing to do. I know, the facebook remarks were a give away that she too is confused. Try to keep yourself busy and let me know if she replies.
Author RockGuy87 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Lol Twink she already did. It was right before your last post... I havent said anything in response and she sent this about 5 mins of no reply from me "I can't go through any more days or christmas without you.."
twinkles Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 That was fast... Now you tell her that In all the thinking I have been doing I realize now that I was being really selfish and I wasn't listening to what you needed to be happy. I'm really willing to work on that but I need your help...it's something we have to work on together... if you are willing.
twinkles Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 then you let her know that if she needs more time you are willing to wait because she is worth waiting for and tell her that you miss her too and that it's been like hell being without her.
Million.to.1 Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Wow.. this is exciting. I hope it works out the way you hope... You guys seemed to almost break-up alot. I think these relationships are unhealthy. I just cam out of one myself... Surly it shouldn't be that hard right? you miss here and she misses you, but is jumping straight back in really going to solve everything in the long run? Please take some time to think before sending emails and communicating. I have broken N/C all week, and it has achieved nothing except a further realization on how needy I am.
Author RockGuy87 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Wow.. this is exciting. I hope it works out the way you hope... You guys seemed to almost break-up alot. I think these relationships are unhealthy. I just cam out of one myself... Surly it shouldn't be that hard right? you miss here and she misses you, but is jumping straight back in really going to solve everything in the long run? Please take some time to think before sending emails and communicating. I have broken N/C all week, and it has achieved nothing except a further realization on how needy I am. This is the second time. I will be careful. I told her to take time if she needed it to make sure she just doesnt miss the idea of us.
twinkles Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Million.. They are still young and don't know how to cope with arguements that's all. Every relationship teaches you a lesson. Rock keep the faith like I said you really have to listen to her now and both of you try to make changes that will enhance your relationship or you will just end up back to square one.
Author RockGuy87 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Well Twink thanks for holding my hand through all this ahaha. But ill keep posting updates.
twinkles Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Good work Rock. I'll keep my fingers crossed ..i'm just glad you are happy. Don't let her know that you looked for outside help ok. If you blow this now you may not get another chance. There comes a time when someone just gives up on you. If you really love this girl you have to work on making her happy because when she is happy you will be too. Don't ever take her for granted.
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