qqqttt Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 I had already told my ex I was okay with still having sex as long as we stop when we meet other people. Not a good idea, I know, but I have no hope that that would reconcile our break-up and I'm not hurt afterwards. Well anyway, he rejected the idea and was offended. Then we have sex randomly. Then he tells me it was just a tease, but later said he just felt awkward and didn't want to hurt me anymore. About a week later, he rejects my offer, a week later he asks me for sex. "We'll take turns. I want it now and then we'll do it later when you want to." I declined him and then changed my mind later. He said no because he didn't want to hurt. Oook... Why is he doing this?
lolita jade Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Hello. Ex's dont have sex. You are hoping it will keep him and he will want you back??? Sorry to be direct but by really good sex maybe??? In reality it doesn't. He will just use you when horny as a toy. You have become very awkward friends with benefits. One of you will get very hurt. You need to do the opposite. No contact. You want what you can't have.
chados Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 Hello. Ex's dont have sex. You are hoping it will keep him and he will want you back??? Sorry to be direct but by really good sex maybe??? In reality it doesn't. He will just use you when horny as a toy. You have become very awkward friends with benefits. One of you will get very hurt. You need to do the opposite. No contact. You want what you can't have. agree totally here. OT: you make posts because you want to get back together, and even if you write that he wants you back im still not buying it, your looking for people on loveshack to give you hope and signs that you will go back together. you want to believe that he will change his mind, well believe this. everything you do is making things worse, with that said, having sex with him will only make his healing better and yours worse. im not saying that you should do what i say but im gonna post what i posted in your other tread down below. "lets say like the post above that he's to proud to admit leaving you, well that might be the case, but that would be rare. i really do think that he just dosn't want you to be with anyone else, he's jealous. he doesn't want you to meet someone new before he does. everything you have been writing, included your other tread i cant see anything but a jealous insecure guy that cant handle the fact that you are moving on before him. if he wants to be together with you he will tell you, even if it takes 5months. i dare you to tell him that you've met someone else. he will come running back like a little schoolboy. in fact i think you should tell him that, just to see his reaction. because he got nothing to do with your privatelife, especially since he dumped you. everything you do right now are making things worse. and let me ask you, since you are saying that you would like to be his friend, and your happy at work, are you sure your not more afraid being alone then to loose him as a boyfriend. dont mean to sound harsh but it's time you show yourself some respect, because i think you deserve better."
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