rosie72 Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 (edited) Its only been 3 months since my partner of 10 years left me (GIGS/affair/midlfie crisis/i love you but...) I was devastated,as those who read my previous posts will see. My doctor put me on a short course of prozac because i wasnt sleeping, was having bad anxiety and depressed (these are ongoing medical issues for me). The meds have helped enormously though i am not happy about being on them. I still 'feel' though, i'm not numb. I have done a huge amount of emotional 'work' around the breakup, journalled, read breakup books, made changes for the better in my life, I have grieved very deeply. Of course I am still very sad about the loss of my previous relationship, but i also now feel a strength and confidence i never knew i had. Anyway, thats the background.. So, in the last few weeks i have become closer to a male friend who i've known for many years. We have always got on very well, we have quite a connection, and if i'm honest i have felt attracted to him for quite a while, even when my relationship was fine (or at least I thought it was fine :/ ). Other friends have remarked in the past that he also 'fancied me'. Now my friendship with this man seems to have crossed over to another level. Nothing physical, but lots of flirty texting, hanging out all the time, really enjoying each others company. And this is the thing... i feel like i am falling for him massively. But i'm scared, its so soon after my breakup, i'm worried that this could be fake, that its a rebound. He's too nice a guy to mess around with. It seems his feelings for me are strong too. He is not making any moves, we have not talked about this, but it feels like its slowly (and deliciously) moving towards 'something'. And... i really like it. I walk around grinning and thinking of him constantly, i re-read his texts like a teenager. What's going on?!!! Should i resist as it may be too soon after my split? (i.e. discourage him despite my feelings) or just let things progress naturally. I dont want to get hurt, nor do i want to hurt him. Extremely confused, please help! Edited November 29, 2011 by rosie72 sp.
SJC2008 Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 (edited) You have to analyze yourself to get the answer whether it's a rebound. Who do you think of more, the ex or him? Also, to me a rebound is someone you get with to "help" you get over your ex, and when you recover you go for someone you really like, not taking their feelings into consideration which is pretty rotten and something I would never do. It seems like you truly like him, and the fact that you don't want to hurt him or yourself tells me personally that it is not a rebound. If you want to play it safe I would make sure there is absolutely no chance of getting back with your ex and take it slow. Good luck! Edited November 29, 2011 by SJC2008 spelling
Author rosie72 Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 thanks SJC that's reassuring.. I just hope i'm not reading his signals wrong! I want to take it slow. As we are friends already i dont want to jumo into anything like a destructive fling and then ruin our friendship. This is so unfamiliar to me after so long with somebody else.
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