stunned8165 Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Below is what I threaded the first time I saw her. But now I have seen her there in the same place at the same time a third time now. Same time , same place!!!!!!! We do see each other too. You have to read below to fully understand what is happening.. To add, I ended up having nightmares about her all night. original thread about this..............>> After 5 months of low contact (just a few e mails and texts) and recently one month of NO contact at all, we crossed each others paths yesterday. I was coming out of a driveway at a store on the corner and she just left the red light. I noticed she turned to look straight ahead after seeing me then JUMPED into the other lane. I sure do hope that messed her up a little. Surprisingly enough, It didn't bother me as much as you might think. Atleast now I know she's driving the same car I found for her, still has the same licence plate on the front that I bought for her at Old Town while were having a great time with the kids that weekend and heading towards where she moved to. ... What I really was looking hard for is the kids in the car. But the back windows of the van are tinted and I couldn't see them. I miss the kids so so much. Let me add now that I think about it... This is the same route we would run into each other on our way home 2 to 3 times a week or more when we were together. Now since she left, I haven't seen her along that route for 5 months. There is no need for her to go that way. She lives about 2 miles to the south of that road. In this area, they are all main streets so other routes to avoid running into me is a plentiful. And she knows I pull into the same store every day to play lotto along said route. ........ But she knows what time, and what route I take home everyday. She leaves work about the same time too. . Now it has been over a month since I have shut down ALL contact with her. For 4 months it has been LC with just a text or e mail here and there. And I'm sure she has found out I'm dating someone else. Two women friends of mine told me that they think she is doing it on purpose. Now that's just their thoughts and say that's something a girl would do because even though they dumped you, the thought of you moving on bothers them. Me, I say this first time is a coincidence. But if I run into her again, I might have to say something else is going on. Thoughts any one?. Heres my story if you want to understand better. [COLOR=#660000]http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302201/[/COLOR]
Author stunned8165 Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 What ever the case may be, it DOES bother me. She is 10 feet from me so to speak, the kids right there. So close yet so far...To think she could just pass me by and not feel a thing bothers me. Or, does passing me by and getting no reaction from me (text, e mail etc) bother her?.. I don't know. But it just seems awful strange after shutting down all contact 6 weeks ago she shows up. I guess I need to avoid that way so I don't get upset.
Chi townD Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Dude, something tells me that you live in a small town. If this is the case, then there's bound to be times that you'll see each other. Sorry to say, but I think you're reading into something that isn't there. It would be one thing that if you saw her those few times and she tried to get you to roll down your window to talk to you...or she saw you and started crying. But, what did happen was, she saw you; snapped her head straight and moved her vehicle farther away from you.
Author stunned8165 Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 It's NOT a small town. That's the thing. No need for her to be going that way. She risks the kids seeing me who took it really really hard. It seems funny she was there at the same time, same place knowing I go there every day at that time like I always have even before we met. I have been going that way from work for ten years. I know I shouldn't read anything into it Chi, but the fact still remains I love all three of them and miss them still. I try so freakin hard to move on and forget about it. But I still have all these emotions. I miss the kids badly. Now the holidays are coming up and I don't want to have anything to do with Christmas. I still feel dead inside. I bonded with those babies from a young age. They have no dad. It's been 6 months. It does get easier. But seing them so close but yet so far brings me down. Maybe I just need to go a different route an avoid seeing them. I guess it's safe to say that I was the committed to this relationship 100%.. Hope she's happy with the damage she left behind just like every where else she goes. Bottom line, she is used to being with complete losers. Guess I was to good for her and she knew it... I don't know. All I know is I want to be over this crap already.
Chi townD Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 I try so freakin hard to move on and forget about it. But I still have all these emotions. I miss the kids badly. Now the holidays are coming up and I don't want to have anything to do with Christmas. I still feel dead inside. I bonded with those babies from a young age. They have no dad. It's been 6 months. It does get easier. But seing them so close but yet so far brings me down. Welcome to the human race, dude! It's okay to feel this way. It's completely normal...sucks really bad, but normal. If taking a different route is what you need then do it. Bottom line is, she said she's done with you. So, she either gets 100% of you or nothing. Peroid. Hang in there, dude.
Author stunned8165 Posted December 1, 2011 Author Posted December 1, 2011 Welcome to the human race, dude! It's okay to feel this way. It's completely normal...sucks really bad, but normal. If taking a different route is what you need then do it. Bottom line is, she said she's done with you. So, she either gets 100% of you or nothing. Peroid. Hang in there, dude. Funny thing is, she never once said she didn't love me anymore, or she was done with me. It's quite obvious she is (for now I think), but she never once said it even when I asked her.But I already have started going a different way. Because if she IS doing this for some sick reason like having an off day and wants to see me there, she aint gettin no more.
Chi townD Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 There ya go! Look, I know it sucks because there were kids you really bonded with. But, you have to look out for yourself. This isn't your decision and this wasn't your choice. But, you have to find a way to move on. Keep posting if it helps. People will listen.
Author stunned8165 Posted December 1, 2011 Author Posted December 1, 2011 There ya go! Look, I know it sucks because there were kids you really bonded with. But, you have to look out for yourself. This isn't your decision and this wasn't your choice. But, you have to find a way to move on. Keep posting if it helps. People will listen. Thats why I'm here Chi. Everytime I feel compelled to reach out to her, I vent here. She doesn't deserve to hear from me. She doesn't deserve to see me either unless I'm out with some really attractive woman. HA!.. I actually almost want to hate her for what she has done to me and those poor kids. But I'm not the hating kind.
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