ordinaryguy Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Back im March i started a thread where i was unhappy with my current girlfriend. She was pregnant at the time and extremely difficult to be around, she would tell me she hated me constantly which made me resent her and i spent the entire time of the pregnancy wishing i wasnt with her. Shortly after the birth of our son we broke up, the break-up was real messy, i've been to court and in Police stations due to contact issues, alleged incidents of harassment etc. The list goes on. ive been to hell and back, and im sure it wasnt the most pleasurable experience for her either. Lately ive been thinking about where it went wrong, why did she hate me, etc and i can see why she resented me as i broke some promises about marriage (not that i wanted to, it was because of other things that came up). The main thing is i can see why she was nasty to me (well i think i can) and despite everything she has put me through i truly love her dearly. It almost like a fog has been lifted, i put my work and career first and i regret it, okay it ultimately was to give them the best life, but i wish i listened to her more. Ive spoken to her today and told her that i'll spend my life making it up to her if she would give us another chance, i know i can make her the happiest girl alive. She has said there is no chance, but i detect a very very small chance even though she has said no. what should i do? should i just take it ultra slow and prove to her how much i care, surely if two people love each-other there's always a chance, it is love afterall, even if you have a romatics view on things. Really i would give this girl and my baby my life. She isnt the most easiest to get on with, but the main thing is i accept her faults. I really dont know what to do. Her family and friend detest me. All i can do is take my time and proove to them that what happened is in the past. Im hoping things will look different when the dust settles. I miss them both.
Mcnulty Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 "Ive spoken to her today and told her that i'll spend my life making it up to her if she would give us another chance i know i can make her the happiest girl alive. She has said there is no chance" There's your answer I'm afraid. Why did your exes friends and family hate you? Mine did, but it was because she loved playing the victim and bad mouthed me constantly. You have to let go, lots of us on here are going through the same thing i'm afraid...it's the hardest thing in the world, but you have to do it.
Author ordinaryguy Posted December 1, 2011 Author Posted December 1, 2011 "Ive spoken to her today and told her that i'll spend my life making it up to her if she would give us another chance i know i can make her the happiest girl alive. She has said there is no chance" There's your answer I'm afraid. Why did your exes friends and family hate you? Mine did, but it was because she loved playing the victim and bad mouthed me constantly. You have to let go, lots of us on here are going through the same thing i'm afraid...it's the hardest thing in the world, but you have to do it. Yes her family hated me because she constantly went to them with our problems, i always pleaded with her to keep problems in in the family. It isolated me and the more she told her family the worse it got because it got to the stage where she had said so much there was no going back. Her family are the main reason why she wont consider us. Im sure she would otherwise. If only they ever stopped to ask us both together what our problems were. I know you say give up, but i cant right now, she has already met someone else despite her telling me she hasnt, but i actually know of the guy through a football mate and i know exactly how they met and what has been told to him, and what she has poured out to him, she met him when our child was 6 weeks old. This i find extremely callous and hard to deal with, maybe she didnt love me afterall.
Author ordinaryguy Posted December 1, 2011 Author Posted December 1, 2011 Hope is always there.. Good luck! Thanks Calya. Really how could i give up, we have a 3 m/o boy together and i love her more than anything. If i fail then ive tried but i have to do everything i can.
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