Woggle Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Today I found out from a mutual friend of ours that my friend who is seeing a married woman is planning on giving her a black eye so she can blame her husband for it and get a nice big settlement in the divorce. I know he is my friend but no way in hell am I letting an innocent man get railroaded like this. Is there anything I can do about this?
Lonely Ronin Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Yea, stop by your local police station.
ptp Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 I don't know anything about the law, but who is going to award anybody anything based on "he said she said" type stuff. No judge is going to give a larger settlement just because the wife says she was hit. Anyway, what can you really do? You have no proof that this plan is going to take place. It isn't what you know, it is what you can prove. So unless you get them talking on tape of their plan to swindle the husband, you can't to do much. Best bet is to try to convince the 2 not to go through with it and if that doesn't seem like it is going to work tell the husband.
Cracker Jack Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Wow. That's pretty pathetic on their part. Not sure what you can do, tho.
carhill Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Wogs, I know this guy is special to you, but maybe it's time to let him go.
Author Woggle Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 Wogs, I know this guy is special to you, but maybe it's time to let him go. I agree. Who does stuff like this. Women like her are the reason why misogynists exist.
carhill Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 If you do make the choice to let him go, look him in the eye and tell him why and consider (privately) that your debt to him is paid in full. That's my advice. Myself, I'd speak nothing of this (their prospective actions) to anyone else. It wouldn't be any of my business.
whichwayisup Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Yes. Do something about it and drop this friend. Sure he was there for you in the past, helped you through a rough time, but he isn't the same guy he used to be. If he was a kind hearted soul, he wouldn't be helping his MW frame her husband. That's sickening. You don't "owe" him your life for being a good friend to you in the past. What has he done for you lately except cause you strife and heartache? Made you feel worse towards women, he's disrespected YOUR WIFE, said some awful things about her, yet you still have him in your life. Give that some thought on the way to the cop station.
Author Woggle Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 I have decided to do something about it so how should I do it?
whichwayisup Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Tell him that you think he's making a big mistake by doing this, that you cannot support it. And make sure he knows that if they go through with that plan you intend on being a witness for the husband and tell the cops/judge their sick and twisted story. I know this is hard for you, cutting a friend out of your life isn't easy, especially one that you care about..But you know deep down he's trouble. Brings no good into your life now.
Eclypse Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Is suggest you tape record your conversation with him and then her and him will be boned.
Author Woggle Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 This is where I draw the line. Why would he do something like this?
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 This is where I draw the line. Why would he do something like this? He messes with married women because it makes him feel better than the husband... like he has out competed the other guy. Also it probably affirms his belief that women are faithless whores. This is likely just another way to one up the husband. I have some friends that are just crappy people.... I have seriously relegated them to the backburner. It might be time to have a chat with this guy and express your overall dismay at his choice to be involved in something like this.
Star Gazer Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 I agree. Who does stuff like this. Women like her are the reason why misogynists exist. WHAT are you doing, Wog? HE - your friend, the one about to give her a black eye to help her screw over another man - is JUST as responsible as she is. Why are you always focusing on the woman???
Appleanche Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 WHAT are you doing, Wog? HE - your friend, the one about to give her a black eye to help her screw over another man - is JUST as responsible as she is. Why are you always focusing on the woman??? Agreed. They are BOTH responsible. At the very least document their conversation and make sure it gets a time stamp (say, by emailing it to yourself), that way their scheme will likely fall apart when she turns up with a black eye after you wrote about it. Or, like a previous poster suggested, you could tell than that if they go through with it that you will be a witness for the husband.
Jynxx Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Get better friends imo. Surrounding yourself with scum is usually a bad idea.
Trimmer Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 WHAT are you doing, Wog? HE - your friend, the one about to give her a black eye to help her screw over another man - is JUST as responsible as she is. Why are you always focusing on the woman??? Completely agree. You are looking at a conspiracy of two people, but your take-away lesson is focusing on "another woman screwing over a man"... I understand your denial, protecting your image of your "friend" because of your previous bond with him, but it's time to see him for who he is. You don't "owe him" to discard your own humanity and common sense. When he strikes her, he is really doing it to land a blow against her husband. Sounds pretty misandrist, doesn't it? Where's that brotherhood of men? Where's his basic humanity?
Ariadne Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 is planning on giving her a black eye so she can blame her husband for it and get a nice big settlement in the divorce Those are the kind of things people may talk about that sound like "a plan" but rarely carry through. Kind of like saying I'm going to go to the boss and tell him what I think of this job or some like that. Hopefully you won't have to be on the spot about telling and that they get a fair divorce if that's what they want to do.
Emilia Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 I have decided to do something about it so how should I do it? Tell the husband if you know who he is
phineas Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 (edited) Tell the husband if you know who he is Best course. After you tell him you don't want or need scumbags like him in your life. I've had to do this before with a friend that was cheating on two women at once & asked me to lie to one to cover for him. Granted, I got no problem telling people off because if they know me they know they can't easily take me in a fight so I got no worries there. Don't know about Woggle though or if his friend is the mma type or something. Also, who the heck discusses this kind of plan with others? That's just dumb. Edited November 29, 2011 by phineas
Author Woggle Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 WHAT are you doing, Wog? HE - your friend, the one about to give her a black eye to help her screw over another man - is JUST as responsible as she is. Why are you always focusing on the woman??? So that makes what she is doing okay?
Author Woggle Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 I am not saying all women are like her but when you look at these guys who simply have no faith in women at all people like her are a big reason for that.
AHardDaysNight Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Make an anonymous phone call to your local police station.
xxoo Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 1. tell him he's a jackass 2. tell him his woman is a jackass 3. wait and see if he actually delivers the black eye 4. if he does, make a statement to the police They won't get away with it, but they'll deserve the embarrassing news story.
Trimmer Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 So that makes what she is doing okay? Don't insult her intelligence or ours (or your own) by turning that around. That's not what she said, or even implied, and you're dodging the point to suggest it. The point is: your "friend" is proposing a sleaze-bag action that you shouldn't be OK with. And you are going to lengths to avoid that, when you should see him as equally sleazy and culpable. Do you get that nothing we're saying here even remotely implies that "what she is doing is okay"? So don't dodge the point by jumping to that misunderstanding. For as intelligent as you ovbiously are, it is starting to sound a bit disingenuous.
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