Onlyjonley Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 I had a boyfriend like this. My birthday rolled around and he didn't get me anything. Valentine's Day rolled around and had I not came out and said "I would like flowers", he wasn't planning on getting me anything. But if your boy is usually good about this stuff, I wouldn't be too hard on him. He obviously cares about you, as he has shown in numerous other ways.
phillyfan Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Money, money, money. He pays this, he pays that. You women make me ****ing sick. Disgusting parasitic leeches. For the girls out there that aint understandin guy speak - let me giv u d translation: 'I aint gettin any' :laugh:
Emilia Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 For the girls out there that aint understandin guy speak - let me giv u d translation: 'I aint gettin any' :laugh: for sure. 'Sour grapes'
Els Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 For the girls out there that aint understandin guy speak - let me giv u d translation: 'I aint gettin any' :laugh: ROFL :lmao::lmao:
primer Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 We are sharing expenses for Europe trip but he bought a car for us both to use with his money. I am also not sharing expenses with him at his place (he pays all the bills, we only share food expenses - he insisted on that). We are going to celebrate my birthday at my parent's place where mum will make us dinner. He does pay for us both about 80% of the time when we go out to dinners. He is generally not cheap so that's why this announcement is a bit of a surprise OMG! You have it made! He treats you like a fricking princess. And you are complaining??? If you don't want him, I'll take him. Try living where everything is 50 / 50. Even then you shouldn't expect a birthday gift. Once you break up, good luck with finding someone else that treats you that well. Do you think it would be easy because you are that special?
KathyM Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 No. I am turning 33 and really, I guess I am OK with not getting a present. I hope he remembers to wish me happy birthday. I do not want to cause an argument over something silly. I should point out that the day after my birthday we are traveling interstate to meet up with his parents at a nice resort where we will spent 3 days with them. They are paying for the entire trip (they really like me). Boyfriend told me just now that he booked some activities to do while there (like jet ski and electric bike ride). I offered to pay for my half and he said "Nah, you can think of it as your bday present". So I guess that's cool. Oh, so he is doing something special for your bd. That's good. I still think the card and flowers would be a nice, thoughtful gesture, but at least he is acknowledging your bd. I was under the impression from your prior posts that nothing was to be done and no token gesture would be made.
KathyM Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 For the girls out there that aint understandin guy speak - let me giv u d translation: 'I aint gettin any' :laugh: lol.
Freddys Posted December 1, 2011 Posted December 1, 2011 You will probably get either your romantic trip or something really special. The way he handles this, makes it far obvious . . ; )
musemaj11 Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 For the girls out there that aint understandin guy speak - let me giv u d translation: 'I aint gettin any' :laugh: I dont understand your ghetto speak.
Feelsgoodman Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 This thread is so full of fail. Waaaaaah...I'm not getting a birthday present....waaaaah You can't possibly be serious? Who cares about such trivial things?
Jono85 Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 don't keep up with ur situation but everytime i read ur threads i just can't help but feel sorry for the guys u date. maybe u were an only child? that might make more sense..
Feelsgoodman Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 don't keep up with ur situation but everytime i read ur threads i just can't help but feel sorry for the guys u date. maybe u were an only child? that might make more sense.. Agreed. The OP exemplifies everything that's wrong with American women today. An self-centered, entitled, well past her prime drama queen. Her temper tantrums *might* be excusable at 13...but no way at 33.
azsinglegal Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 This thread is so full of fail. Waaaaaah...I'm not getting a birthday present....waaaaah You can't possibly be serious? Who cares about such trivial things? I dunno why your posts crack me up. You're such a jackass, it's great.
Chocolat Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 Agreed. The OP exemplifies everything that's wrong with American women today. OP is Eastern European, living in Australia. Guess you'll have to find another scapegoat for all us evil American women. ES, I hope you have a good birthday and that you enjoy your mini-holiday with your bf. Is this the first time you are meeting his parents?
Feelsgoodman Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 OP is Eastern European, living in Australia. Guess you'll have to find another scapegoat for all us evil American women. ES, I hope you have a good birthday and that you enjoy your mini-holiday with your bf. Is this the first time you are meeting his parents? LOL. I guess you can expand American to encompass all women living in the western world these days...
bittersweet memories Posted December 2, 2011 Posted December 2, 2011 (edited) Maybe he's just saying that and will probably surprise you with something. That's what I predict.. Edited December 2, 2011 by bittersweet memories
vsmini Posted December 5, 2011 Posted December 5, 2011 It's weird that you always point out when people "love you" when it's not even relevant to the post. This time it's his parents that love you. Who are you trying to convince that everyone loves you? Us or yourself?
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 So he really got me nothing. I can't quite believe this. He waited till midnight and wished me happy bday and told me that he loved me. That was it. He then attempted to have sex (I rejected him because he didn't even get me a fing box of chocolates and I was pissed). He then rolled over and is snoring as we speak. I feel completely unappreciated and taken for granted. He even buys acqutances gifts. I will wait until tomorrow is over and will have an argument then. This is not something I can just let slide.
LexiB Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 So he really got me nothing. I can't quite believe this. He waited till midnight and wished me happy bday and told me that he loved me. That was it. He then attempted to have sex (I rejected him because he didn't even get me a fing box of chocolates and I was pissed). He then rolled over and is snoring as we speak. I feel completely unappreciated and taken for granted. He even buys acqutances gifts. I will wait until tomorrow is over and will have an argument then. This is not something I can just let slide. Do you really think it's worth an *argument* though? I thought his paying for your half of the vacation was supposed to be your present? If so, you're gonna look pretty terrible if you come at him "pissed". Let him know you're disappointed, sure, but I'd keep the anger under wraps.
carhill Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 OP, while I am, as always, empathetic, I will say that your story here is remarkably similar to dozens, if not hundreds, I've heard in my lifetime. 'He didn't get me a birthday gift, not even a simple card' 'He never listens to me' 'He just has sex with me and rolls over' On and on. Yet these same women stay with these men for years, decades even, and complain. Why? 'Treat 'em mean to keep 'em keen'. Words I never listened to, preferring to express love genuinely. Like CE mentioned, keeping on being who I am, mismatched in style with a large proportion of the potentials I've met in life. I remember saying, likely a voice lost in the sea of responses to your thread about the shoes being thrown out a window, that he would come crawling back and I suggested to resist that. You made a choice, instead, to live with him. It has worked out as it was meant to. You've given it a shot and this is the result. It could have been any result. It could have been a surprise marriage proposal. Anything. It is this. What's next?
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 So he really got me nothing. I can't quite believe this. He waited till midnight and wished me happy bday and told me that he loved me. That was it. He then attempted to have sex (I rejected him because he didn't even get me a fing box of chocolates and I was pissed). He then rolled over and is snoring as we speak. I feel completely unappreciated and taken for granted. He even buys acqutances gifts. I will wait until tomorrow is over and will have an argument then. This is not something I can just let slide. OMG... you just can't stop being terrible. Forgetting your Bday is one thing... but he clearly made the effort to remember. He told you in advance that money was tight and he wasn't going to get you anything besides paying for an expensive trip. Don't you think THAT would have been the time to throw a temper tantrum? How old are you? If your over 12... grow up!
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 I don't know what's next. It's 3am and I can't sleep. Paying for my half of the ticket for jet ski (something he wanted to do anyway) is not really a present. I feel less for him now. Lately, I have been doing everything for him. Cooking, cleaning, serving etc etc. The more I do for him the less he appreciates me. This is not about money. I would have been happy with few dollars worth of gift on the day. I know that I would never not buy him a present and I'm in much worse financial situation than he is. I def can't just ignore this incident. I will talk it out with him tomorrow and go from there. I feel like moving in was a mistake. He takes me for granted so much more now.
bittersweet memories Posted December 7, 2011 Posted December 7, 2011 So he really got me nothing. I can't quite believe this. He waited till midnight and wished me happy bday and told me that he loved me. That was it. He then attempted to have sex (I rejected him because he didn't even get me a fing box of chocolates and I was pissed). He then rolled over and is snoring as we speak. I feel completely unappreciated and taken for granted. He even buys acqutances gifts. I will wait until tomorrow is over and will have an argument then. This is not something I can just let slide. Well the day is not over. It's still your B-day. He might have a surprise for you later today. You never know...
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted December 7, 2011 Author Posted December 7, 2011 Nope, no surprise. He saw that I was upset about the lack of present, I had tears in my eyes and rejected sex which I never do. It would be very cruel not to even hint at anything at that point. He just ignored me and went to sleep.
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