Misterlovalova Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 About 2 years ago I had a relationship with the girl of my dreams, my first love. We broke up over some bull**** after about 3 months (we were both young and unexperienced). I couldnt get her out of my head after that but I went no contact. Months went by, never saw or spoke her again, missed her like crazy. Then 6 months after the breakup I saw her in this bar, she started crying when she saw me talking to other girls. We talked, and she admited she still had strong feelings for me and wanted to try again.. It didnt work out though because her mom died, it tore her apart and she wasnt able to be in a relationship. We eventually got in a argument, wich led to no contact again... After a few months of no contact, she started dating a new guy and I started dating a new girl... But the new relationship just didnt work out and we broke up after about 4 months. Thats when I decided to contact my ex again because I missed her all that time and shes the only one I REALLY loved. She was happy I contacted her and we talked for a hour or so. She told me she had a boyfriend though she was with him for about 5 months at that time... But after that first conversation, she contacted me like at least twice a week. She even asked me to hang out a few times and eventually I accepted to meet/hang out. I met her at a local bar and as soon as I saw her, all the old feelings came back, I just wanted to kiss her! But I didnt... The thing was, I felt/saw there was still something there, the way she looked and all that, it felt like there was still something there, like, she still loved me... But maby I imagined things... We had a nice time though, talked a bit and after a hour or so I left to hang with friends. Now the thing is, after that meeting, she never contacted me again! Its been like a month now! What could this mean? Any thoughts? My thoughts; maby she realised (just like I realised to) she still had feelings for me, and went no contact because she has a boyfriend? Any help is appriciated! For details, just ask!
Ariadne Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Hey, Yeah, that's weird. Maybe she felt like you say, that she'd be cheating on her bf if she kept on seeing you like that and decided to end it. Dunno. Sounds like a very accidental relationship too. Maybe some things are not meant to be? Hope you get to talk to her again and at least remain friends.
Author Misterlovalova Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 The relationship we had wasnt long or anything, so in that way you could call it accidental but we had really really strong feelings for eachother, we were both young and unexperienced when it came to relaitonships, thats why it kinda went wrong... But I still think we were a perfect match, the timing was just off... But her BF knows she was talking to me, she told her BF that she had contact with me again...
wildtrac77 Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Hey, Yeah, that's weird. Maybe she felt like you say, that she'd be cheating on her bf if she kept on seeing you like that and decided to end it. Dunno. Sounds like a very accidental relationship too. Maybe some things are not meant to be? Hope you get to talk to her again and at least remain friends. Sounds like she is still dealing with issues from her past( long before you got with her) and she isnt ready to get into such an intense relship at this point in her life, she def wont be over her mums death yet, not easy but i would stay in the background, txt her now and again just to let her know you are thinking about her and care and get on with your own life, if she likes you that much then when she is ready for what your offering she will come back, worst thing you can do is try to force it at this point, if she is the one what is a few months!
Author Misterlovalova Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Sounds like she is still dealing with issues from her past( long before you got with her) and she isnt ready to get into such an intense relship at this point in her life, she def wont be over her mums death yet, not easy but i would stay in the background, txt her now and again just to let her know you are thinking about her and care and get on with your own life, if she likes you that much then when she is ready for what your offering she will come back, worst thing you can do is try to force it at this point, if she is the one what is a few months! No offence but did you read the entire story ? Because she got a BF now, shes been with him like 5/6 months now... (I kinda hope they breakup though)
SimonMas Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 You have done all you can. Let her contact you if she so desires. The ball is in her court. Focus your attention on other productive things, you will be fine. You have gained experience through this and it will make you stronger.
wildtrac77 Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 No offence but did you read the entire story ? Because she got a BF now, shes been with him like 5/6 months now... (I kinda hope they breakup though) Yea i read the whole story,the fact she is seeing the other guy doesnt mean anything, she could be just using him as a means of distraction from the issues she has going on in her head at the moment, she might not be ready for a really intense reship with someone she feels she can open upto ( you) at this time but she doesnt want to be on her own either. You should play it cool, txt her to show you care and then if/when she comes back try to find out from her what the score is. Dont put your life on hold as it may never/could be years down the line.
Author Misterlovalova Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Ight thanks everyone! I wasnt planning on waitin, not movin on. But IF I get chance, I take it. But I still find it strange that she suddenly doesnt contact and I wonder what might be the reason... And also, I think (From what ive seen/heard etc.) shes pretty serious with this nw guy tough...
KathyM Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 I think she still has strong feelings for you, but she realizes your relationship just doesn't work out. Wasn't meant to be. You tried twice, and it didn't work. Broke up after 3 or 4 months. Now she's been with this other guy for longer than that and it is working. I think she realized she's going to have to make a choice and not string you along any further, and somehow seeing you at the bar that last time solidified in her mind that her current bf is the relationship she should maintain. Sorry.
Author Misterlovalova Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 It helps that her current boyfriend is really really REALLY unatractive, ugly even... And that im pretty much good lookin hehe But yeh, I geuss thats it, but I showed NO intention in gettin back together the last time we had contact, just acted like a friend, she did the same, but maby she cant be friends or something...
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