MyApology Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 I am in a friendly, light, drama free relationship, but am mixed up as to how to make it's rules. It seems I disappoint him that I am not able to meet him when he calls at the last minute. I am a little stubborn in that I will not go out of my way to satisfy him at the cost of my freedom. I do want to see him at these times but am not available unless I reschedule my day. He can be difficult to read, i know when he sounds disappointed, and he always expresses we will talk about it when we meet, but by then we are happy in another's presence, and these issues are lost and not thought of them at all when we spend time together. I am not at all demanding, and if I make a request, he seems to go along. I believe we are FWBs and want to keep it that way with rules. Is it plausible to have a FWB type rel. with respectable mutual rules? I want to do this in a manner in which it does not make this a BF-GF type scenerio.
insertnamehere Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 He's missing the point of casual sex if he expects you to bend over backwards for him with no notice. You're basically being treated as a call girl. You need to move on. Casual sex requires more respect than he's supplying. Casual sex is a tough enough thing to pull off as it is. No one needs some jerk thinking you're there to provide sex on-demand.
whichwayisup Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 This is all ego related. he feels he can call you whenever he wants to, and you'll drop your plans and come running to him. He likes that power. Selfishly.. I doubt he's thought about this, like some big plan.. But, he certainly expects you to put him first. Keep it casual or end it. This guy may not be long term material, even as an FWB.
Author MyApology Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 Not sure if I am looking for much more than friends with some benefits....any more would make it a relationship. We have great chemistry, which has surprisingly made me overlook many deal breakers. Listening to him talk, his voice was super sexy tonight. Maybe I am in a haze at the moment. But for now it is fun, once it turns into not fun, I will then move on. I need to stop thinking good girl/bad girl and just enjoy it.
Author MyApology Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 This is all ego related. he feels he can call you whenever he wants to, and you'll drop your plans and come running to him. He likes that power. Selfishly.. I doubt he's thought about this, like some big plan.. But, he certainly expects you to put him first. Keep it casual or end it. This guy may not be long term material, even as an FWB. Okay, so would you define it as more FBs than FWBs? Are there differences?
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