RockGuy87 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 (edited) Well here I am. Back on LS. Needing some advice. Me and my gf of almost 11 months just split up 2 days ago. Everything was fine and we got into a heated DUMB argument because we were both pretty drunk. Things were blown on of proportion and she tried to leave. I ran after her to keep her from drinking and driving but she locked herself in her car and claimed she was just going to sleep in her car. I knew she wouldnt so I gave her some space. She sat out there for like 10-15 mins it seemed like and then i heard her car start up and i ran outside and stood in front of the car pleading her to not be stupid and drink and drive and that I would sleep on the couch and she could leave first thing in the morning if she wanted. She then claimed she was just moving her car to some where else in the apartment complex to get further away from me. I said fine and went inside and grabbed my shoes to go find her. I walked around for awhile before i finally found her. She wouldnt roll her window down and just calling names and flipping me off. She tried to leave again and thats when i told her i was going to call someone to come give her a ride and she FLIPPED. She got out and slapped the phone out of my hand and began to get in my face. Remember we were still pretty drunk. I stood at the back of the car and refused to move. Usually our fight diffuse after a short time so i was just trying to stall. She then started to try and push me out of the way and almost acted like she was going to hit me. I taunted her by saying "come on punch me" Guess i shouldnt taunt a drunk because she did. Right afterwards she began crying and saying sorry. She left and I chased her out the gate trying to get her to stop but she went anyways. I was drunk and pissed so i told her i would come get my things after she had pretty much told me not to talk to her. She ignored my texts until i called her in the morning to come pick up my car and things. We talked for like 10-15 mins and she said things like, i love you still, you will always be my baby, i want to be with you but i cant. I told her that her feelings were gone and blah blah blah and she replied that i didnt kno her true feelings and to stop talkin out my a$$. We hugged she was teary eyed and I let her keep the jacket that she has had of mine our whole relationship since it means more to her than me and she wished me well. Since then she has ignored almost all texts, phone calls, and facebook messages. Weve done this before and she ignored then also. About after a week of her having crazy times with friends she came begging back. I removed our relationship from facebook and in a dumb way i waited for her to remove me as a friend. She finally did today and it hurts. Idk what to think since all this has happened before and if she will come back around. She tends to be in denial about situations and then comes out of it and finally admits her wrongs eventually. Just dont see why she says she wants to be with me but she cant. She even sends me ": (" and says things like "you'll always be my baby" I dont get it. She removed me as a friend but left her picture of me and her and it still says "in a relationship"......???? Im sorry its long but needed to vent on here and get some sort of input. I hate it was over a dumb drunk fight where we BOTH acted wrong. Still havent heard anything from her, but she did make a facebook status this morning that said "If only you knew". Im confused on this because it could easily mean two different things. 1. It could be "if you only knew how much I..... (good response) or 2. "If you only knew that theres some other dude or something like if you only knew how much better it is without you." That saying "If you only knew" means something to our relationship and she knows it. 11 months ago before we ever hit it off i made that my status because i was just saying "if only you knew" to me having feelings for her. She eventually asked what it was about and thats what she had guessed and it was something that she always brought up throughout our relationship and how much she loved it since it was really like our first thing. I just dont know if she would seriously try and use that in a bad way or to make a poke at me. Might be childish but i cant help but to dwell on why for one she would make that her status but why would she remove me and not remove her picture of us or her relationship status. I agree those are petty things but still dont get why she would keep it. Edited November 28, 2011 by RockGuy87
mattymx Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 emotion are obv still high! thats when pettiness starts. best suggestion is not to react to anything. the whole facebook status sounds like a test to see if ur watching her.....dont react! Facebook is horrible during a break up(ive stopped logging into it now) Hope things do work out but u have to think ul be ok if they dnt! its hard I miss my ex, 3months since break up but feeling great about myself! She will do alsorts to get u to react...ignore u, contact u friend u again on facebook, make u jealous......these are all test to see how u react. Maybe dissapear for a while and let her wonder a bit. You have to show urself and her that u can live without her......im 100% certain u can too.
Author RockGuy87 Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 Thanks for that. How long do I wait if she does contact before i answer? Last time this happened i ignored constant texts and she would call one right after the other for almost 20 times in a row before she would send a text asking why i wasnt answering. She said all the right things before. How long is a good amount to see that its not just to get a rise out of me?
Author RockGuy87 Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 Hey everyone. Nothing new from her towards me directly but she just updated her status again and in the same day as what was mentioned previously she said "Hard day". She rarely ever updated her status while we were together and yet here she is and had has said those two things in one day. Im not her friend put my friends/family are and thats how i know. I know it means nothing since she has reached out. I also know that she might be miserable and having a rough time but that doesn't mean there will ever be a second chance. I know its quite possible to hate what is happening but still doing it. Just please give some words of advice or hell at this point in time just have a conversation.
mattymx Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 it can be any amount of time that u like? a few hours/a day just something to show that your not waiting around for her to contact. I know its hard but try n stay clear of her facebook!! start getting active on facebook urself too. change ur profile pic, update status, connect with ppl. ul feel better n it will take ur mind off her for a bit. Think your doing great!
Author RockGuy87 Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 Well last night she finally put single on Facebook. She also changed her picture to just her. Still nothing from her. She has done all of this before like i may have said. Last time it was a week until she came running back pleading and promising change. Its only be 3 days I guess....
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