PoppyLove89 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 When you split up with a long-term partner for the first time...I'm talking, properly split up ie. not talking, for longer than a week...you're starting to accept it's over but realise you can't forget your ex and they must still think about you and be hurting (eventhough they may not want anyone to know how they feel)...will you honestly never hear from them again? From what I gather, most long-term couples get in touch at least once somewhere along the line (whether it be months even years) since you don't just forget someone, unless the split ended really, really badly. Thoughts?
JohnP82 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I think that's true for most people. However I honesty hope I never cross paths with my most recent ex. She doesn't deserve me in her life anymore.
Dims85 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 i havent seen or heard from my ex in about 7-8 months we broke up 9 months ago
Sugarkane Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I think that's true for most people. However I honesty hope I never cross paths with my most recent ex. She doesn't deserve me in her life anymore. Me too. It's highly likely I'll never see my ex again. I've never seen him since the breakup. If I did I would hope he feels guilt.
Author PoppyLove89 Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 i'm on the fence as to whether or not i'd even want to see my ex again...if he turns back into the normal human being he used to be then maybe it could be nice to have a catch-up but right now he's too highly strung and guarded so he's behaving like an arse.
lymtal1 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 20 years later she is back in my life. together with her for 5 years previous. she is helping me get past my b/u of 6 months ago. not because i am jumping into something. but because she has helped me regain my sense of self esteem and confidence. it makes me realize that the ex lost out on me. yes i am being cautious. yes she knows the whole story of the ex. so i am trying not to rebound but i gotta tell you, i am having fun, taking it slow and who knows what will happen. without her i don't believe i would have made this much progress. and i have learned so much in 6 months from educating myself through self help, going to counseling, and this site that i feel confident that all will be well. so they do come back and it can be good but many many years later.
M2155 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Yes. Usually years in the future though. Especially with social media...if someone from your past comes to mind these days you just look them up.
jkscarlet Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 broke up four weeks ago, had a two hour phone conversation last night. More of where we went wrong and what should have been fixed
Casablanca Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 Yes. Usually years in the future though. Especially with social media...if someone from your past comes to mind these days you just look them up. Could be, but if you were already connected on say a facebook, it isnt going to change anything. There are two that I know I will never hear from again. 1) I told her to not contact me again unless she could actually be some sort of friend, she made a horrible friend and only contacted me when she wanted to say something and never responded to anything I sent, and she is someone who is glued to her phone, and 2) an ex who I called out on lying to me about having to move away and not having time for a relationship. Number one I would respond too if she actually ever reached out, but number 2 would just get the cold shoulder
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