daisydukes Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 My boyfriend asked me last night over the phone where is our relationship?? I said what do you mean?? He said I need to where are we exactly?? We have been dating 5 months had a semi-fight and last night he asks me where are we exactly?? I do not know if that is a good thing or a bad thing.......
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 My boyfriend asked me last night over the phone where is our relationship?? I said what do you mean?? He said I need to where are we exactly?? We have been dating 5 months had a semi-fight and last night he asks me where are we exactly?? I do not know if that is a good thing or a bad thing....... I'm not sure what you said during the fight... but I would guess he just wants to know what you are thinking. Did you tell him where he stands with you?
Author daisydukes Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 I hated being put on the spot because I wasn't expecting that question so I said the same as it was 5 months ago.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I hated being put on the spot because I wasn't expecting that question so I said the same as it was 5 months ago. ... so you basically told him that your feelings for him have not grown since you first started dating? I think that's like saying the relationship isn't going anywhere... Or it could be like saying your feelings have not changed. I don't think what he did was wrong... I think he simply worded it weird. Just go back and explain that by putting you 'on the spot'... you didn't understand his question. Ask him what he meant. Whenever someone asks you a question like that... it's Ok to ask them to clarify what they are looking for in terms of information.
DearAbby Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I agree with the above poster. Definitely, ask him to clarify what he meant and where he thinks the relationship is going, and tell him how you feel now compared to five months from now. Don't be afraid to say how you feel. If you are not on the same page, better to know now.
Author daisydukes Posted November 29, 2011 Author Posted November 29, 2011 He said to me this afternoon ( we met for lunch) we need to talk and I waited and waited he never said anything huh?? We just ate our lunch and he said we need to talk and he never did. How odd is that?
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 He said to me this afternoon ( we met for lunch) we need to talk and I waited and waited he never said anything huh?? We just ate our lunch and he said we need to talk and he never did. How odd is that? He is clearly nervous about it and was waiting for the right time or never worked up the nerve.
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