Ladies, do you ever have days where you get mad at your boy for the dumbest reasons?

[ShannonMI]

Really? To me, that would be a pretty big deal.

Ok well be thankful a girl has never been on the rag and been bitchy to you. And you would really dump a girl if she threw some attitude when she was on her period? Wow, OK:rolleyes:

[OnyxSnowfall]

Yep. There are times I have my period and I'm as cool as a cucumber. Then there are other times I'm a raging bitch. I've never been violent though.

 

same.

 

 

Really? To me, that would be a pretty big deal.

 

Ugh, I'll personally take it as a good thing then.

 

It would be scary to appeal to you :X

 

_____________________________________

 

In any case, as MM once stated:

 

"But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best"

[OnyxSnowfall]

Ok well be thankful a girl has never been on the rag and been bitchy to you. And you would really dump a girl if she threw some attitude when she was on her period? Wow, OK:rolleyes:

 

Feelsgoodman rarely ceases to be silly :X (at least on this forum heh).

[ShannonMI]

Feelsgoodman rarely ceases to be silly :X (at least on this forum heh).

Yeah I rarely agree with a word he says.

[Casablanca]

Really? To me, that would be a pretty big deal.

Like are you talking a once in a while thing or all the time as those are two BIG differences?

[Feelsgoodman]

Ok well be thankful a girl has never been on the rag and been bitchy to you. And you would really dump a girl if she threw some attitude when she was on her period? Wow, OK:rolleyes:

If that was a recurring issue, absolutely. Why would I want to date someone like that?

[Feelsgoodman]

"But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best"

I'm pretty sure Marilyn Monroe was talking about herself, not about you Marylin Monroe was one of the most popular Hollywood actresses of her time (not to mention being considered the sexist woman in America). What's your claim to fame?

 

I hope you are not suggesting that average women like you should be allowed to get away with Marilyn Monroe-caliber shenanigans

[Casablanca]

I'm pretty sure Marilyn Monroe was talking about herself, not about you Marylin Monroe was one of the most popular Hollywood actresses of her time (not to mention being considered the sexist woman in America). What's your claim to fame?

 

I hope you are not suggesting that average women like you should be allowed to get away with Marilyn Monroe-caliber shenanigans

If you really love someone/care about them, they are a bigger star in your heart than say a Marilyn Monroe and that is all that matters and that should be a much bigger claim to fame, if it isnt, then they arent right for you and vice versa

[Woggle]

Women who like to use that Marilyn quote reveal themselves instantly to be drama queens.

[Feelsgoodman]

If you really love someone/care about them, they are a bigger star in your heart than say a Marilyn Monroe and that is all that matters and that should be a much bigger claim to fame, if it isnt, then they arent right for you and vice versa

LOL.

 

The point I was making is that Marilyn Monroe could afford to be a bitch because of her stature in life. ShannonMI and OnyxSnowfall on the other hand...not so much.

[Casablanca]

Women who like to use that Marilyn quote reveal themselves instantly to be drama queens.

Sort of agree sort of disagree...I see it more like the lines in a typically wedding "do you take so and so to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do you part?"

 

worst =/= bitch (well not all the time)

[Woggle]

Marilyn Monroe was a beautiful woman but a complete trainwreck of a person. Just because somebody has looks or talent does not mean we should idolize them.

[OnyxSnowfall]

LOL.

 

The point I was making is that Marilyn Monroe could afford to be a bitch because of her stature in life. ShannonMI and OnyxSnowfall on the other hand...not so much.

 

you'd be surprised

[Feelsgoodman]

Women who like to use that Marilyn quote reveal themselves instantly to be drama queens.

They also reveal themselves to be idiots. Marilyn Monroe herself would have laughed at the idea that every average Jane and Mary deserves to be treated like Marilyn Monroe.

[Casablanca]

LOL.

 

The point I was making is that Marilyn Monroe could afford to be a bitch because of her stature in life. ShannonMI and OnyxSnowfall on the other hand...not so much.

You never answered my original question

 

"Like are you talking a once in a while thing or all the time as those are two BIG differences?"

 

Everyone has a bitchy/jerky mood once in a while

[OnyxSnowfall]

They also reveal themselves to be idiots. Marilyn Monroe herself would have laughed at the idea that every average Jane and Mary deserves to be treated like Marilyn Monroe.

 

You're missing the point anyway.

 

Casablanca grasps it at least.

 

(Also, you're contradicting yourself. You stated Shannon can be a bitch because MEN allow her to be --- obviously.......... her stature is something then, eh?)

[Feelsgoodman]

Marilyn Monroe was a beautiful woman but a complete trainwreck of a person. Just because somebody has looks or talent does not mean we should idolize them.

I agree. Marilyn Monroe was as dumb as a bag of nails (which explains her enduring popularity with American women). She was the Britney Spears of the 50s.

[Feelsgoodman]

(Also, you're contradicting yourself. You stated Shannon can be a bitch because MEN allow her to be --- obviously.......... her stature is something then, eh?)

Certain types of men (i.e. desperate, low self-esteem) probably do. Higher quality men would not. In order to get away with being a bitch with high quality people, you need to have a high stature in life.

[refurb]

Yes perhaps. But getting away with being bitchy is different then trying to get away with punching a wall or someone's face. So if being bitchy was frowned upon like violence is, then I'm sure we would try to rein it in a little more.

 

Thank you for proving my point!

 

I'm not judging you here at all. I'm just saying it's human nature to not question our actions or at least ascribe certain values to a behavior. I believe that you can't control being irritable, but you can control how you deal with it.

 

You give yourself permission to behave how you do. You know you have certain latitude with your behavior and you take it. Obviously your guy puts up with it, otherwise you wouldn't be together or you'd stop doing it.

 

The best solution is to come up with other behaviors to replace the ones you don't like. Talk to your guy. Tell him you get bitchy (I'm sure he knows this). Tell him what he should do when that happens and tell him you'll let him know when it's going to happen.. It can be as simple as saying "It's that time of month" when he starts to really irritate you. When he hears that, he can say "OK" and then leave the room. Stop it before it blows up into you yelling at him.

 

And this is not a woman only issue. Guys get into funks too and take it out on their partners (work sucks, just feel crappy).

 

RF

[OnyxSnowfall]

Certain types of men (i.e. desperate, low self-esteem) probably do. Higher quality men would not. In order to get away with being a bitch with high quality people, you need to have a high stature in life.

 

Oh Lawd....... if your posts are a testimony to your quality... then as I already stated, it is a GOOD thing you find bitchiness (even if it's only a few days out of the month) distasteful and a deal-breaker

 

Weren't you just whining and being foul on another thread about someone else having standards, and judging them for terms like "out of my league / bottom of the barrel?"

 

Now you want to measure "quality?"

 

Sigh, you must just be a trolly.

[Feelsgoodman]

Oh Lawd....... if your posts are a testimony to your quality... then as I already stated, it is a GOOD thing you find bitchiness (even if it's only a few days out of the month) distasteful and a deal-breaker

You are right, I take it back. Quality men find bitchiness to very tasteful and not a deal-breaker at all

 

Weren't you just whining and being foul on another thread about someone else having standards, and judging them for terms like "out of my league / bottom of the barrel?"

No, I wasn't. You missed my point in that thread just like you are missing it here.

[Casablanca]

No, I wasn't. You missed my point in that thread just like you are missing it here.

Im still trying to figure out your point here. Is it okay if someone is bitchy/moody once every few months or is the smallest amount of bitchy/moodiness (even if it it is only once) a deal breaker?

[Feelsgoodman]

Im still trying to figure out your point here. Is it okay if someone is bitchy/moody once every few months or is the smallest amount of bitchy/moodiness (even if it it is only once) a deal breaker?

People will overlook strongly negative qualities if there are equally strong positive qualities that balance things out. Extreme beauty would be one such quality (Ever wonder why most beautiful women are so bitchy? It's because men let them get away with a lot more than they would for a less attractive woman). Fame is also seen as a positive quality in out celebrirty-obsessed culture. Those are some of the reasons why Marilyn Monroe would be able to get away with things that someone like Onyxsnowfall wouldn't.

 

Why do I get a feeling that I'm talking to a bunch of 7-year-olds? Shouldn't things like this be fairly obvious?

[dasein]

There's nothing wrong with being moody from time to time. What's wrong is not owning it and taking responsibility for it, trying to shift the blame to hormones, PMS. Adults aren't like boats floating without a rudder on uncontrollable seas of emotions. Children are. The choice of whether to behave like an adult or a child is up to you OP.

 

Have you ever seen someone severely injured and still able to be calm and rational? Have you ever seen someone overcome by grief at loss of a loved one, or suffering with a dread disease and still manage to control their emotions? Those people are adults. Anyone who claims they are just going to be bitchy and it's out of their control needs to go spend some time in a hospice around dying people, or go to a chemo ward where people are sitting gracefully, having pints of poison pumped into their bodies to kill the disease that's killing them. Then get back to us about monthly PMS causing misbehavior being beyond your control.

[Onlyjonley]

There's nothing wrong with being moody from time to time. What's wrong is not owning it and taking responsibility for it, trying to shift the blame to hormones, PMS. Adults aren't like boats floating without a rudder on uncontrollable seas of emotions. Children are. The choice of whether to behave like an adult or a child is up to you OP.

 

Have you ever seen someone severely injured and still able to be calm and rational? Have you ever seen someone overcome by grief at loss of a loved one, or suffering with a dread disease and still manage to control their emotions? Those people are adults. Anyone who claims they are just going to be bitchy and it's out of their control needs to go spend some time in a hospice around dying people, or go to a chemo ward where people are sitting gracefully, having pints of poison pumped into their bodies to kill the disease that's killing them. Then get back to us about monthly PMS causing misbehavior being beyond your control.

 

I never once said it was beyond my control nor am I not taking responsibility for my behavior. I apologized to my boyfriend and told him I didn't want it to happen again. And it's not as if I was on a complete bitchy rampage, rawring and breathing fire out of my nose. I just got upset, as I mentioned in a post above, about things like him not being sensitive enough to my feelings and him not paying enough attention to me when we're together and him watching too much football. Things that normally aren't issues.

 

But what I am saying is that there are certain times where I am more sensitive and emotional, and it's because of hormones/PMS. There's no getting around that.

 

You dudes who say you wouldn't put up with any kind of moodiness/bitchiness in a relationship are in for a rude awakening. Either that or you're going to be alone forever.