BardoPond Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I probably will get told outright no and that's fine but I've been in NC for the past two weeks or so. The last time we talked I was quite angry, I kinda regret saying it. The language used may have been a bit over the top but I will say that I don't regret that she had to read it, I do regret that I was the one that said it though. I'm not sure if I should clarify my situation to her, in the two weeks NC this is the first time I've thought to contact her, I don't really want to talk to her to be honest (I'm still kind of angry) but I feel that I probably let myself down in that situation, if I was to text her I don't even know what I would say but I thought I'd ask her first if it's a good idea or not. Thanks in advance.
triplethreat Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 There is this huge misconception that NC is a way to get your ex back. People who think of it as a means to this end only give themselves false hope. It should only be used to allow yourself to heal and grow, without outside influence. If you feel as though you are ready to contact your ex, know what you are going to say, have a purpose, and just do it.
wilsonx Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I think whatever you said to her was something you needed to get off your chest. You finally expressed your feelings and showed them. There's no need to apologize for who you are or what you say to someone when your feelings are engaged, its called owning your feelings, Dont break NC
BoredAgain Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Well, I'm certainly not the NC expert, but it might not be a bad idea to send her an email or text along the lines of "I just want to apologize for the last time we talked. I was angry, and I regret it. Etc. Etc. Etc." Just don't do it if you think it will negatively impact either of your abilities to get over the break-up.
Author BardoPond Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 Wow that was some quick feedback, thanks guys. I think you're probably right, she's with another guy and at least for right now I don't even want to see her let alone get her back. I think you're right, I don't feel I did wrong by her saying what I said but I thought maybe I had done wrong by me. I think I'll leave the iron curtain up. It is what it is. Thanks again for the quick reply.
lolita jade Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Everytime I contacted when feeling strong or low. It never went as planned and I came off feeling alot worse. Dont do it stay strong. He is enjoying himself. You need to start to enjoy yourself. Sod him. His loss.
Chi townD Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Forgive yourself. You don't need to apologize to her. Apologize to yourself if you think that your wording was too strong. But, you were angry (probably justified) and you spoke what you felt at the time. Simple, problem solved.
Author BardoPond Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 Don't worry about it lolita most people think I'm a girl when they first look anyway. I guess I still got a bit of work to do, I felt justified in saying what I said (still do for the record) but I guess maybe I do need to just forgive and forget. I know that though, normally for me knowing that is half the battle so here's hoping. Thanks guy, you've been really helpful.
Paper Roses Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Probably best that you stay away from her esp if you're still mad. That anger will ease up faster with NC. If you still care about her, there's always later.
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