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That spark has faded....for her.


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My relationship seems to have lost that spark and I'm not sure how to handle it.

 

By nature I am one who feeds off the energy and enthusiasm of my partner.

 

Lately, and after a great year things seems to have cooled down quickly and dramatically with her. With out getting into

detail there have been a lot of behavioral changes particularly in the area of frequency of communication, enthusiasm,

and nuances in language. At times she even seems less interested in what I have to say when she was once was so engaging.

 

We both have our share of problems at the moment and the relationship has been difficult. She has two ex's, and a 10yr old boy

(who doesn't approve) and a strict middle eastern (who also don't approve) family. Our time together can be very limited and we

exist for the most part in the shadows. I have personal issues I have been dealing with for the past year and am lacking the confidence

I need and know I can have.

 

I have spoken to her about it. I've asked her up front and have discussed things with her. I have even asked if she

has been distracted by another person. She states that everything is fine and that she has just been busy and that it's

all just natural.

 

Like I said, by nature I am one who feeds off the energy and enthusiasm of my partner. Its hard to give someone the

kind of attention and love your use to giving if you don't get the same in return. I feel a little unappreciated and a little

less significant these days.

 

I can't help but thinking she needs her space right now but I am not sure if i am right or wrong and if correct not sure how to do it.

Should I listen to my instincts? Should I back off with out saying anything or tell her? Purhaps I need my space as well.

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I'm curious why I never get responses on this site. I see a lot of threads get a lot of responses yet mine sits for hours with not one response.

 

Am i doing something wrong?

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