williesarus Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. I wrote a long letter telling him how i felt and stuffs. I passed it to him. it's a letter that i told him to read, and burn it after reading. And at night, he sent me this text : "Hey xxxx. I'm really sorry for everything. You deserve someone who treat you so much better. In fact, i want to tell you i admire you for being so strong and brave after everything i've put you through. I'm so sorry. And regarding the letter you gave to me, i won't read them but i will keep it. I don't have the courage to read what you wrote. But i will keep it with me forever. I'm really sorry. I will always remember you and i will never forget you. Take care." I cried really badly upon reading it. And few hours ago, he told me that I should trust him no matter what as a friend. (because i thought that he is cheating on me) He said i don't want us to break up in such a bad state. So he ended the conversation by saying.. "So long!" Then he sent again and said... "No. I mean till next time.." Does it mean that we still have hope? This is the 2nd time we broke up.
stillafool Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 His text sounds like he is letting you go because you are miserable in your relationship with him. Maybe he didn't realize how bad he was treating you until he received your letter. Were you trying to break up with him? Did you ask him what his text meant?
Author williesarus Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 (edited) His text sounds like he is letting you go because you are miserable in your relationship with him. Maybe he didn't realize how bad he was treating you until he received your letter. Were you trying to break up with him? Did you ask him what his text meant? He once broke up with me and he asked me to move on and let him go. Then 2 months later he said he want me back very badly. After we got back together, he was giving Hot and cold treatment. So i wrote the letter and told him that i'm tried of being let down again and again. I don't think i should ask him. I wanna give him space to think about us. Edited November 28, 2011 by williesarus
lolita jade Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Such a long good bye text like that followed by little follow on texts mean he isn't really ready to let you go and I guess he is confused and in two minds. Try just texting him "I love you" and see the response. You do need to evaluate the relationship though to sort out any problems.
skywriter Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. I wrote a long letter telling him how i felt and stuffs. I passed it to him. it's a letter that i told him to read, and burn it after reading. And at night, he sent me this text : "Hey xxxx. I'm really sorry for everything. You deserve someone who treat you so much better. In fact, i want to tell you i admire you for being so strong and brave after everything i've put you through. I'm so sorry. And regarding the letter you gave to me, i won't read them but i will keep it. I don't have the courage to read what you wrote. But i will keep it with me forever. I'm really sorry. I will always remember you and i will never forget you. Take care." I cried really badly upon reading it. And few hours ago, he told me that I should trust him no matter what as a friend. (because i thought that he is cheating on me) He said i don't want us to break up in such a bad state. So he ended the conversation by saying.. "So long!" Then he sent again and said... "No. I mean till next time.." Does it mean that we still have hope? This is the 2nd time we broke up. I think from your original post that he is manipulating the situation. Sounds like he's full of "BS". "I want you to know that I admire you for being so strong, blah, blah, blah". Awww, poor fella, sounds like he's so pitiful and does it in a text! Why? I'm sorry but be sincere enough to look the OP in the eyes and say it from the heart. Then he says he won't read it? Why? And why should you trust him? Especially if he's given you reason to believe he's cheating? He sounds like a child.
PoppyLove89 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I think he's letting you go but making sure you stay on the scene by wanting to be friends...now this could be quite manipulative since he could be doing it to test the waters with someone else and if that didn't work out, he knows he could easily come running back to you. We don't know him personally so only you know what he's truly like. You said you thought he was cheating? what made you think this? was he acting shady? Did he tell you what he got up to in the 2 months you guys were apart last time?
Author williesarus Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 I think he's letting you go but making sure you stay on the scene by wanting to be friends...now this could be quite manipulative since he could be doing it to test the waters with someone else and if that didn't work out, he knows he could easily come running back to you. We don't know him personally so only you know what he's truly like. You said you thought he was cheating? what made you think this? was he acting shady? Did he tell you what he got up to in the 2 months you guys were apart last time? I misunderstood him. Because he would always tweet before he sleep and that night he didn't. But it was because he was with his family members at his cousin place. I'm kinda suspicious so that was my bad. :/
Paper Roses Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Heh, that dude ain't going anywhere!! I don't know if you want him back or if he's cheating, but he's taking that loving, understanding tone with you and I see a hint of guilt thrown in there. Men do love to lay guilt on us, they know how sensitive we can be. (Not all of you, so please nobody get their boxers in a bunch.) Ball is in your court, sweetcheeks, don't give it a second thought, he's probably in that big hedge under your bedroom window right now. And yes, I am enjoying it, thank you for noticing.
D-Lish Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Such a long good bye text like that followed by little follow on texts mean he isn't really ready to let you go and I guess he is confused and in two minds. Try just texting him "I love you" and see the response. You do need to evaluate the relationship though to sort out any problems. This is the worst advice ever.... DO NOT give him that sort of satisfaction after what he has put you through. He broke up with you before, and since returning he's run hot and cold... Please don't go out of your way to try and make things work with someone that isn't showing you the respect you deserve. What really struck me is that he said he wasn't going to read your letter. Sounds like a manipulation tactic to me. Of course he's read it. The reason he said he didn't is to upset you. He knows you put time and effort to put your feelings into that letter. By saying he's not going to read it, he's saying how you feel doesn't really matter. He sounds incredibly passive aggressive.
twinkles Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 This is a tough one but man does this guy know how to play the game. He's keeping you dangling sweetheart. The sooner you see it the better. He's setting you up so he can come and go at whim. Don't fall for it. He'll end up making you feel so insecure that you'll feel like a no good nothing and it'll crush all your self esteem. So be that strong and brave girl he so admires and dump him you don't even want him as a friend. You are worthy of something and someone better.
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