irc333 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 (edited) This is an interesting article.....seeing how all these single mothers who say, "My kids are my #1 priority" in their dating profiles and even in real life Loving the Husband More Than the Kids is Key to Good Life Of course, this is dating, single mother situation, but I would imagine it can be tied into dating as well. It actually says they don't even compare......a husband / sig other is a different category altogether. THat there is no real "order" to the priority of who is loved or put fist most....maybe they're at the level. Edited November 28, 2011 by irc333
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 This is an interesting article.....seeing how all these single mothers who say, "My kids are my #1 priority" in their dating profiles and even in real life Loving the Husband More Than the Kids is Key to Good Life Of course, this is dating, single mother situation, but I would imagine it can be tied into dating as well. It actually says they don't even compare......a husband / sig other is a different category altogether. THat there is no real "order" to the priority of who is loved or put fist most....maybe they're at the level. The difference is in expectations. An abusive crackhead child we are required to love, while an abusive crackhead spouse is disposable. I think men do the same thing with their jobs... as a borderline workaholic I know that for fact. We just don't advertise it.
Emilia Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 This is an interesting article.....seeing how all these single mothers who say, "My kids are my #1 priority" in their dating profiles and even in real life Loving the Husband More Than the Kids is Key to Good Life Of course, this is dating, single mother situation, but I would imagine it can be tied into dating as well. It actually says they don't even compare......a husband / sig other is a different category altogether. THat there is no real "order" to the priority of who is loved or put fist most....maybe they're at the level. I've read an article once written by a man who resented his parents for loving each other more than loving their children. I wouldn't say my mother loved her partners (except my father) more than she loved us but she isn't capable of conditional love and it sometimes felt like that. It's different kind of love yes but when it comes down to priorities, it doesn't matter what you call it. I think the person that wrote the article lied about being happy for their parents to prioritise each other above the children. No kid likes that.
Els Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I think prioritizing one's kids above a partner you have just started dating (as the women state in dating profiles) is different from prioritizing them over a spouse. Apples to oranges.
grkBoy Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 The article seems more about telling wives that they should not "forget the husband" and suddenly become super-mom. A neglected husband is likely then to stray or leave. Love has to be shared all around. Plus parents in love will keep a family solid and thus the kids feel loved and happy. The statement "My kids are my #1 priority" is more a blanket statement single moms make to tell guys they're not just going to constantly dump the kids on a sitter to go out. That if the guy is irked because he can't call her at 7PM to go out at 11PM til dawn, he should look for someone else...not get mad that she won't choose him over her kids. Frankly, I don't think I'd want to know a single mother who would make a guy a higher priority than her children.
xxoo Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Kids benefit from parents who model a strong primary relationship. Kids do NOT benefit from a single mom who prioritizes dating ahead of her kids These situations are incomparable.
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