NotTooHappy Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 so funny thing I read the few 'bitter' posts below... I am not one of them trust me, but yet I feel lot of those same things... In real life, people know me. I'm actually more 'normal' seeming in real life. Like on my facebook is my "real" personality.. with my actual friends and there's girls on there messaging me and someone I'm dating and cousins and pictures and I seem "normal" right? But I feel, online life is weird in that, each site caters to a different 'side'.. like this site allows me to just BE that bitter angry dude lol. I wanna address the posts below: Speaking for MYSELF only, I come on sites like this and vent my 'bitter' side because you guys are strangers. I don't express it with real people I know. I put it aside, and just drink and smile and act happy. I'd rather pour my negative stuff on strangers, with the notion that, as a stranger, you REALLY SHOULDN'T CARE NOR BE BOTHERED BY IT. If you are, you got to look at yourself too... I feel, there's 2 types of 'bitter' guys. Guys who are bitter yet it's really really ugly, like an ugly kind of bitter. Then there's guys with legit bitterness. I know I'm that kind, but I hate being confused for the other. Take Chris Rock. He has a sort of 'bitterness' about blacks and race but it's funny, you don't actually think of him as some 'ugly' bitter guy. Same thing. The point is I post a message saying "blah blah girls suck, this sucks, why does this.. I hate when.. online dating.." and you're just supposed to be like "I hear you bro" and THAT'S IT!!! Or, maybe, I dunno.. just ignore it if it bothers you cause that means it wasn't meant to be read by you. Wait for some other bitter guy to come on to go "hell yeah, me too!" Because really, all we're doing is vying for a bit of "support" in the form of another human being being on our side if for only a minute. Call it a quick fix. Chances are, 10 minutes earlier we were just on some dating site and igorned by someone we thought was really pretty and now want to hear from another guy ignored too. makes us feel loved again. lol. Geez. Let us embrace our bitterness for a second. lol. The secret is--you don't know who's behind these screenames being bitter, you THINK it's some sorry ass dude but it could be your best friend. You never know. People hide these sides to them, and come here to let it out.... It's theraputic. You rather we let it out here, or to you in person by being an ******* selfish friend?? Or you rather we go hang out, laugh, kick back, then silently come home and post online cause maybe we got rejected earlier. anyway, I'm not bitter now, see, it works ;P
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Personally, I don't think it will help you in the long term to "vent". At some point you need to turn the corner and start reinforcing some positive feelings. Venting on this site will just further entrench your bad feelings. Plus many of the women here are bat**** crazy. Which kind of brings me to a point that has always irritated the crap out of me. Yeah sure we have some guys on here that say nasty gender based stuff on this site. Then they get up and go about their day being fairly invisible to the opposite sex. On the other hand we have tons of women here who lie, control, abuse, cheat... ect. Yet we are always there to lend a sympathetic shoulder when needed. How many guys has SACWA emotionally scarred... 4... 5? This is just stupid. Do we as a community believe drowning puppies is less an offence than talking about it? WTF? I think a lot of people need to sit down and pull their heads out. We need to call out the posters who DO bad things (like personally insult people) and ignore the crap out of the ones who merely use inflammatory speech.
Author NotTooHappy Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 (edited) Personally, I don't think it will help you in the long term to "vent". At some point you need to turn the corner and start reinforcing some positive feelings. Venting on this site will just further entrench your bad feelings. Plus many of the women here are bat**** crazy. Which kind of brings me to a point that has always irritated the crap out of me. Yeah sure we have some guys on here that say nasty gender based stuff on this site. Then they get up and go about their day being fairly invisible to the opposite sex. On the other hand we have tons of women here who lie, control, abuse, cheat... ect. Yet we are always there to lend a sympathetic shoulder when needed. How many guys has SACWA emotionally scarred... 4... 5? This is just stupid. Do we as a community believe drowning puppies is less an offence than talking about it? WTF? I think a lot of people need to sit down and pull their heads out. We need to call out the posters who DO bad things (like personally insult people) and ignore the crap out of the ones who merely use inflammatory speech. Well that's different than just 'bitter'. That's losers. I guess I'm saying, bitterness is like.. well, okay, maybe I'm relating this to more seriuos sources of bitterness like the things I seen with whole communities here, politically, racially, etc.. and again, the Chris Rock example, being able to say "ughh!! Why is it when a black man..." But it's sorta the same for dating. I agree that can further one to go down that path, but I think, that all depends on how the responses are... For example if Chris Rock did his skit, and people actually got angry and upset and complained and became defensive, it's THEM who's not getting it. But by laughing.. that was the reaction he intended... Sometimes, posting bitter stuff is not to incite people to get angry or defensive, rather, to say simply "ME TOO, I HEAR YA" But I guess, after saying, I hear ya.. you also gotta kinda do the brotherly thing and be honest to the bitter guy and say, but listen, you gotta.... Edited November 28, 2011 by NotTooHappy
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