vanillacoke Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Ok so me and my girlfriend have been dating for 3 years now. Shes 19 im 21. We had our fair share of trouble in the first year with cheating from both sides but everything was fine after. The past few months weve both been working full time. Out of no where the sex stopped, saying shes annoyed at me when i want sex. then over the next three weeks everything fell apart. We used to be together every second of every day, now with work it can be hard to find time but we do and we enjoy it. But now she out of no where says she wants to take a break from me, but that doesent mean seeing other people and doesent mean our relationship status changes. But she says she has zero urge to see me, if im emotional in any way torwards her she shuts down and wont talk to me. At this point i can only talk to her by text due to her making excuses not to see me, and i cant help but feel that i did nothing wrong. According to her shes smothered and needs space, but i give her plenty of space, i love it when she has her ladies night out and such. So its shocking to hear im some kind of problem now!? Curious to see if you think this being a maturity issue perhaps? Maybe she just wants some time alone and with friends? Or is this basically the end? i have been scared ****less for the past 3-4 days, we had so many plans together but i realize young love is just that...but we were always so good together that i find it very unfair and kind of scary that someone can appear to just fall out of love so quickly without reason or warning! ugh sorry for rambling, been a rough night...
TaraMaiden Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 It's over, bud. She's moving on, feelings change, and she's getting itchy feet. I think you need to face facts. Young Love, it may have been. maturing love - it ain't. You need to terminate all contact and let her do the running. See how long it takes between you ceasing all contact, and her coming back to you and saying, "Hi, you ok? Haven't heard from you for a while....." That won't be love re-emerging. That will be the "Why is he no longer paying attention to me?" Because if you reply - "I was just waiting for a signal from you to say everything is still cool with us, and that we are still an item" - she will pull the rug from under your feet again, with uncertainty, prevarication and indecisiveness. See, she will want to know you're still there on the back-burner for her, without her having to make the effort to keep you there. Try it, see what happens.
blotter Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 You are right this is young love. What do you think the chances this 19 year old girl is looking for a life long partner or husband with a guy she met when she was 16 at this point in her life? The term "break" is code for she wants to see what else is out there a.k.a. get with some strange. Don't let her string you along as she eases you out of her life.
Author vanillacoke Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 thanks for the honesty guys. Kind of saw that answer coming and think i have been mentally preparing myself (although its still messing me up) for it for alittle while. Captain and coke will be my friend until i can get back out there
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