Sent the ex's parents thanksgiving card - question

[fucpcg]

So the last holiday I spent with my ex's parents was thanksgiving 2010. I had a very good relationship with her parents and family. She broke up with me this past february after a fight we had, and has refused to talk to me telling me how horrible I was as a boyfriend. This part a long, long story, but prior to the fight she used to always tell me how much she loved me. She had 3 young children that I as honestly can describe raised as if I was their own father (their father had no interest in them). So again, after this fight breaks up with me, never let's me speak to her kids again, and refuses any contact with me. Since that fight 9 months ago she has gone around telling all her friend, my friends, like every single person how bad I abused her, mistreated her, etc, something I don't think was fair or that I earned. My friends think its crap, and ignore her. I never got along with her friends, and in fact they hated me, and I didn't care. I do care and worry bout what her parents and children think of me, as I truly love her kids, and her parents were always wonderful to me.

 

I sent the card with a letter that expressed the message thank you for inviting me into your family, I'm very sorry how it ended with your daughter and grandchildren, and I just want you to know I appreciate the time spent with you, best wishes in this holiday season and in the years to come. I signed it please I ask that you keep this message private. My buddy insists they will show letter to my ex, I thought not. Do you think they would have showed to her? Do you think it might give her parents any pause on considering the stories my ex has spread about me? They always seemed to think very highly of me, and their daughter has a past revolving around bad men and alcohol. I felt if I just disappeared after her stories, maybe that makes it more believable, so I felt like sending this one card, so far down the road, to once again maybe givel them reason to doubt that I was as awful to her as she says. Yea? No? Who knows? Lord only knows what she told her kids about me who all told me they wanted me as their stepdad =(

Edited November 28, 2011 by fucpcg

[yello243]

First of hi there and happy late thanksgiving.

 

Anyway, I consider your action both mature, and brave of you. However, it is after all her family and no matter what they will always side by her and yes they will mention it to her eventually. I also thought about saying one last word to my ex's parents, my ex even told me that they asked about me but they know very well what is going on and are not behind in the news. If it is over do not worry about what mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, he, she, or even the person next to you thinks or believes. You were the bigger person and you stepped up and did a brave thing to let them know that there are no hard feelings and it is a start to getting closure from that relationship. What they think or believe after that is really beyond your control but i would think they admire you instead. You did something very nice and sweet from your part and there is no reason for them to feel a negative feelings towards you what so ever, so do not feel like they do, and if they do feel that way it is really their problem, you did a great last reaching out on your part to demonstrate to them you really care a lot. Don't worry i am sure they will admire you for it.

[fucpcg]

Thanks yello I appreicate the feedback.