in33dmon3y Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 (edited) Hello everyone. I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years just under 2 years ago. I ended it because an instance of cheating which took place about 9 months before the end and several instances of her changing stance between extremely religious to almost not at all. She would be lovey and enjoyed sex throughout the majority of our relationship but towards the end fluctuated between sexual/not sexual based primarily on religious/moral grounds and she didn't want to engage in anymore sexual activity until she was married (from what she said.) This was a woman that I had contemplated marrying so I was ok with this as long as a single decision was made and the back and forth didn't continue. It continued so after a short time of playing this game I ended it for both our sakes. We were both in our early 20s at this time. Fast forward to today, from what I know she is with a guy and they are happy although we haven't communicated much more than a couple of words over the years when occasionally bumping into each other. I am happy for her and realize we are not for each other. I have been celibate for 18 months and only gone on 2 dates. I always was and still am a busy and very independent person with work/schooling and I always enjoyed my alone time. There have been opportunities to have sex/date/hang with women and I have women who take an interest in me but I cant reciprocate. I have a sexual appetite but have learned how to keep it in check and not let it control me. I like to just hang out with my small group of friends or be alone working on projects. I know it takes a while to truly get over someone and feel I am over her. I do love her and always wish the best for her even despite not seeing her. I would be ok with not seeing her again but I still think about the times we had over the years almost weekly albeit without a feeling of sadness, just empathy. Are some people meant to be alone or am I not over this woman? I feel like I had something great a long time ago but don't want to try for it again. I am comfortable with myself but still long periodically for a companion. Maybe someone here can offer some insight. Sincerely, Confused tl;dr broke up with gf of 2 yrs 2 yrs ago, celibate and unable to date although content with myself as a person. Is this normal or am I actually not over this one? Edited November 28, 2011 by in33dmon3y added tldr
wilsonx Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Do you even know what you want? You of all people should probably understand what I am saying. When you are alone, do you just sit there and listen to yourself? Not listen to your mind You did the right thing in writing down your thoughts and feelings on this forum. You wrote down something. Now I want you to read it again. Read exactly what you wrote. You actually answered your own question in your post but you are not listening to yourself
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