justwanttoknow2012 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I always hear that when you see your soul mate that you will know it. I have dated and am getting up there and I am dating now and I like and love my boyfriend but I am just not sure if he is the "soul mate" Positives: -He is discipline with money -Has a very good heart -He treats me very well -He cooks -He has a very nice family who likes me -He will be an excellent father Negatives: -He is not ambitious. he makes very little money with a college degree and I motivate him and help him apply for full-time jobs. -He was into network marketing companys -He is a former member of a cult -He is very emotional, which causes me to argue with him -I think he is immature -He is content with making little money and living off of it. -He considers me smart because I am more ambitious than him. Is this normal in relationships. We are almost to our 6 month mark and I grow to love him more and more but I wonder if there is better out there for me.
El Brujo Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 If you have to ask what a soulmate is, you'll never know.
Cee Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 In love, I think there is compatibility and timing. I had a great love once, but wasn't ready to settle down. We ended it. My boyfriend exceeds my wildest dreams. I have so few complaints. Actually I have none because he listens and tries to meet me halfway. He is so ridiculously great that I swell with gratitude being his girlfriend. And he appreciates my virtues too. I would never say soul mate because relationships are mostly transient. I suggest you enjoy your relationship for however long it lasts. Hopefully, your gut instinct will tell whether to grow with him or leave and be on your own.
jobaba Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I don't know about soulmates, but when I think about someone I want to marry, my ideal would be: 1) Physically attracted to her 2) Similar background 3) Some kind of compatibility 4) Is motivated to at least a reasonable extent (wants to earn a degree and make a middle class living) 5) Has a good heart 6) Is not shallow 7) Respects me as much as I respect her I have had a woman with 1), 2), 3), 4) and 5). I have had another woman with 1), 4), 5), 6), and 7). I think those are pretty reasonable requests to me and I could do away with 1) if I ever met a woman with all the rest.
Feelin Frisky Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I think a soul-mate is someone you bond with on a level so high that just know you you can trust them with all of your aspiration, secrets and even weakness and they won't let you down or betray you--it's not even a concern. They ARE your "home" and home is wherever you find them. Everything else is just situational and temporary.
somedude81 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 A soul mate is a woman that I feel very close to and want to do everything with and love. Someone that I felt I've known forever and want to know forever. She in turn, eats my soul; banishing me into the nether.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Negatives: -He is not ambitious. he makes very little money with a college degree and I motivate him and help him apply for full-time jobs. -He was into network marketing companys -He is a former member of a cult -He is very emotional, which causes me to argue with him -I think he is immature -He is content with making little money and living off of it. -He considers me smart because I am more ambitious than him. Is this normal in relationships. We are almost to our 6 month mark and I grow to love him more and more but I wonder if there is better out there for me. There is no such thing as a Soulmate. The implication is that you two are intertwined by fate to be a couple. That simply isn't true. Perhaps there is a SoulMatch... where two people fit one another well spiritually. In regards to your 6m BF... Either find a guy that is ambitiou$ enough to make you happy... or get over his lack thereof. You can't sit around expecting him to change and then resenting him if he doesn't. That is like him dating you with the expectation your face will get prettier. It doesn't make sense.
Author justwanttoknow2012 Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 Thanks guys for all the info and feedback and opinions. I am going to enjoy the relationship and see where it takes me.
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