pandora_be Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 The best friend of a fellow student (also a girl) and me have been on a picknick date with just the two of us after the exams. This was after a few casual dinner-meetings and having passed by each other regularly (we live in the same neighbourhood). Now a few months later after a break when I wasn't in the student city, we met again. Now with some others and her best friend also. It was nice to see each other again, but the conversation stayed very smalltalk-ish. She is very shy and very mysterious, and I think I have fallen in love with her, or at least attraction is growing after having seen her again after those many months. However I'm not sure how to proceed right now, she is a very closed person and I don't want to make her uncomfortable with flirting or imposing too much... On the other hand, I guess the initiative is on me, she is way to shy to try anything, even though she prob assumes I'm at least 'kinda' into her. Any suggestions?
norajane Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Ask her out on a date. Treat her well, flirt, and listen to her when she talks. She needs to get to know you more before she opens up. So give her a chance to know you better.
ErgoStep Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 I'd build the interaction slowly, while emphasizing that it's the two of you. Get her number and text her. Make her your best buddy. Call her randomly to chat. Ask her out on a date. From there things usually end, or they go pretty smoothly.
in_absentia Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 I'm just curious, what makes you think you've fallen in love with a girl who you've never spoken to about anything other than small talk? I'm wondering if you've built her up in your head to be something that she may not turn out to be. Not trying to be negative just your post made me think that straight away.
Author pandora_be Posted November 27, 2011 Author Posted November 27, 2011 I'm just curious, what makes you think you've fallen in love with a girl who you've never spoken to about anything other than small talk? Hmm, well I guess because she's not the hottest girl I know, so I'm sure it's not pure physical attraction and when she's around I feel kinda 'strange'. She triggers some stuff just by her presence and maybe the way we subliminally interact with each other. We may not have gone beyond the "where you from, how was your week, do you like to go out at night at blabla's place etc." conversations, but we have been on a dubious friend-lik-ish date and we're both happy to see each other again every time. I actually never felt this way about any girl, not even my ex-gf's.
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