amythan Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Hi, I do not know what is the deal with this guy and i do not even understand his behaviour that well. We went out a couple of times and we slept together. I do not want anything but a casual relationship and he is not looking for a gf either. He texted me last sunday saying let's meet up this week. I agreed but we didn't set up a specific day. Later in the week I asked him about our drinks and he replied that he had a work event but he would love to meet up if it does not finish too late. Finally we didn't meet. I do not understand why he replies right away and always says that he wants to meet if it is not true. I mean in person i can understand the pressure but by text ? Why don't say I am busy (without showing any interest in going out) or just don't reply. If he doesn't want to see me it is fine but why don't make it clear ?
Author amythan Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 I decide to do not contact him again and this afternoon he texted me to invite me to his housewarming party (i do not know any of his friends). I said no because I am traveling - which is true - and again he said several times "see you soon!" without making plans. Seriously what is the deal here ? I do not plan to contact him because i do not think he is that interested but I am lost with all this game ..
SJC2008 Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 You SAID you want a casual relationship. It sure sounds CASUAL to mee. Analyze what you want, it sounds like you want more. If you did not none of this would bother you IMO.
Author amythan Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 Yes, i wanted something casual. Meaning no relationship, commitment or things like that. But this is nothing !! I had casual relationships in the past and both of us wanted to spend some time together from time to time ... Do not get me wrong I do not want more than casual but I want to know both want at least to see each other from time to time. Not once every two months.
SJC2008 Posted November 30, 2011 Posted November 30, 2011 So basically it looks like you are looking for something that falls between fwb and an official bf. Usually it's one or the other, haven't really heard of the he's my bf kinda sorta in a way but not quite. I suggest you talk to him and tell him you are both on the same page as far as what you want but you would like a little more contact. Communication.
Author amythan Posted November 30, 2011 Author Posted November 30, 2011 I am not sure i want a bf kinda sorta in a way but not quite ... but you are right we have never discussed this so maybe he also wants me to understand that this is not serious. It is clear that he keeps saying that we will see each other soon but something does not feel right to me. I used to go out with someone during one year and it was perfect, we texted from time to time if i could not make it i set another date, same for him and both of us seemed to be equally interested. With this guy I feel more like he wants to keep me around "just in case" and things will be at his leisure. It is not I want more but I want to know both of us want the same thing. I am fine with casual but I do not want to be the last resort of anyone .. Umm maybe I am wrong but this is my concern here.
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