Sweetheartt Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Im at the crossroads right now w/ this **** lol. He think he deserves it just cuz he took me everywhere I wanna go. I didnt ask him to go to all these spots tho. he suggested them so I said alright cool. Anyways he bought me this necklace on friday out of the blue then got all mad cuz I didnt wanna wear it yet. Im like w/e lol, then he told me about all these dreams he be having about us having sex on x-mas eve and how its gonna make his dreams come true if it was real & ****. I already know he wants my virginity around that time. He's always been all over me like nonstop w/ making out but since he found out he really trying to get some so Idk what to do about this. We been together like 3 months I think.
MrNate 2.0 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Im at the crossroads right now w/ this **** lol. He think he deserves it just cuz he took me everywhere I wanna go. I didnt ask him to go to all these spots tho. he suggested them so I said alright cool. Anyways he bought me this necklace on friday out of the blue then got all mad cuz I didnt wanna wear it yet. Im like w/e lol, then he told me about all these dreams he be having about us having sex on x-mas eve and how its gonna make his dreams come true if it was real & ****. I already know he wants my virginity around that time. He's always been all over me like nonstop w/ making out but since he found out he really trying to get some so Idk what to do about this. We been together like 3 months I think. Don't give it up if you're not ready. Don't be like those select women who feel needed to do so to keep a man around. Just do what you feel is right, and you'll feel happier in the end. He may feel butthurt, but he's a man, he'll get over it.
Casablanca Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Don't give it up if you're not ready. Don't be like those select women who feel needed to do so to keep a man around. Just do what you feel is right, and you'll feel happier in the end. He may feel butthurt, but he's a man, he'll get over it. This, dont even think about it until you're ready. If he cant respect that you're not ready to give it up then he isnt worth your time
Cracker Jack Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Gotta agree with Nate and Casa here. If he doesn't understand, that's his problem.
Fondue Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Don't listen to the fools above me :p:p. He isn't doing it for sex, he's doing it in honor of Jesus' birthday! His entire wanting to stick it in you is a symbolism for Christmas itself! See, it's like, you're the virgin Mary or what not, and he is a divine being wanting to spread his magnificent seed as a kind of gesture of the big man himself! If you refuse sex with him on Christmas, you're pretty much slapping Jesus in the face!
ladyravenloft Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Don't listen to the fools above me :p:p. He isn't doing it for sex, he's doing it in honor of Jesus' birthday! His entire wanting to stick it in you is a symbolism for Christmas itself! See, it's like, you're the virgin Mary or what not, and he is a divine being wanting to spread his magnificent seed as a kind of gesture of the big man himself! If you refuse sex with him on Christmas, you're pretty much slapping Jesus in the face! Thanks for making me spit Pepsi on my laptop screen. Best laugh I've had in awhile!
ChessPieceFace Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 If he is intent on having this happen, especially associating it with a holiday, he will be incredibly disappointed if it doesn't. By the way, I don't support it personally - I find it weird, awkward and inappropriate to try to plan something like this and also to associate it with a holiday. Nevertheless, if you do care about this guy (who seems weird) then you will have to seriously consider it. And if you don't do it, well... some other kind of sex would be required. If you totally spurned him and didn't do anything with him, he might call it quits. Not that I think it's a particularly bad thing (he's weird) but if you do, then just think about what I said.
sugarmomma Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 (edited) Don't ever let anyone pressure you into something as serious as giving your virginity up. Screw him. I would dump him as well he sounds like a real jerk. If he dumps you because you say no you don't want him anyway. Don't ever be afraid to let a man (or boy) go. Edited November 27, 2011 by sugarmomma
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 i say you wait for him to buy you car at this rate! But seriously, this is a natural thing guys are going to want and be after, however it is not up to you to satisfy this guys desires. Here are some important reason why; - Now he's going to want it all the time, or least often, this is only going to encourage him to press harder and because you gave it up you'll feel obligated and give in - He's not going to think any more positive of you, or view you as any more special. Especially with this guy, he seems like he is trying to earn your vagina, and unless you are a prostitute then i'm not sure you should look at it that way and tell him that as well. - Once he gets it things will change...but it's going to be all centered around sex now instead of just being together and hanging out He's obviously eager to have sex with you, you both sound young which is why he sounds like he's doing these typical things. Many guys will not wait around for sex very long as you get older, however since it's your virginity you should make the choice that many women don't...and have enough pride, self-respect and courage to say no...not until you are ready and that's final, instead of being pressured like many women are. I don't blame him for being a horny little guy, you'll find these guys are a dime-a-dozen in life...however your needs are also important and if you don't feel ready then don't just do it, you'll not feel very good about it and the dynamic of the relationship will change. Oh and do me a favor and don't ever be stupid enough to think you can't a guy around by having sex with me or later on in life having his baby, just use your brain in those moments because trust me you will be disappointed. But if you need to touch the fire before you decide its hot, you won't be the first!
Cypress25 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Your virginity is not a gift to be given away. Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex before you're ready, especially someone who makes it sound like you owe him sex. He sounds very immature and doesn't seem to respect your feelings at all.
PlumPrincess Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Don't listen to the fools above me :p:p. He isn't doing it for sex, he's doing it in honor of Jesus' birthday! His entire wanting to stick it in you is a symbolism for Christmas itself! See, it's like, you're the virgin Mary or what not, and he is a divine being wanting to spread his magnificent seed as a kind of gesture of the big man himself! If you refuse sex with him on Christmas, you're pretty much slapping Jesus in the face! And every Christmas we remember the consequences of the Holy Spirit spreading his semen, right?
Feelsgoodman Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 I agree with the above poster. He already took on you trips and bought you a necklace. Sounds like he's pretty desperate...see if you can milk him for more goodies.
Author Sweetheartt Posted November 27, 2011 Author Posted November 27, 2011 Your virginity is not a gift to be given away. Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex before you're ready, especially someone who makes it sound like you owe him sex. He sounds very immature and doesn't seem to respect your feelings at all. Omg! We had a fight today because he thinks 19 is already to old to be a virgin. I think 3 months is not that long anyways. I always let him kiss me & w/e all night when he wants since he's always horny lol but why cant he & other guys be good w/ just that gee.
Casablanca Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Omg! We had a fight today because he thinks 19 is already to old to be a virgin. I think 3 months is not that long anyways. I always let him kiss me & w/e all night when he wants since he's always horny lol but why cant he & other guys be good w/ just that gee. There are guys who would respect you choice, if he isnt one, dump his ass
AHardDaysNight Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Don't listen to the fools above me :p:p. He isn't doing it for sex, he's doing it in honor of Jesus' birthday! His entire wanting to stick it in you is a symbolism for Christmas itself! See, it's like, you're the virgin Mary or what not, and he is a divine being wanting to spread his magnificent seed as a kind of gesture of the big man himself! If you refuse sex with him on Christmas, you're pretty much slapping Jesus in the face! Funniest thing I've read on here in a while! You just cheered me up. OP, in a word: no. Do it when you are ready. Not when he demands that you do it. Do you see your relationship going anywhere long term? Do you want to lose your virginity? If no to both answers, then why, with this man?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Im at the crossroads right now w/ this **** lol. He think he deserves it just cuz he took me everywhere I wanna go. I didnt ask him to go to all these spots tho. he suggested them so I said alright cool. Anyways he bought me this necklace on friday out of the blue then got all mad cuz I didnt wanna wear it yet. Im like w/e lol, then he told me about all these dreams he be having about us having sex on x-mas eve and how its gonna make his dreams come true if it was real & ****. I already know he wants my virginity around that time. He's always been all over me like nonstop w/ making out but since he found out he really trying to get some so Idk what to do about this. We been together like 3 months I think. Sweetheartt, any man that tells you he "deserves" sex because he took you places isn't treating you right. It sounds like he is pressuring you. You've only been togeter 3 months, that's not enough time to establish how sincere he is about you. You made the comment that he put the pressure on you even harder after finding out you were a virgin. This sounds like it's more about your virgin status and him getting it then it being about you and him. A man that truly cares about you will wait. He will also not hold sex over your head and act like you *owe* him it. This guy is not cool.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I lost my virginity because at the time i liked my ex enough to give it up and I was willing to lose it. I certainly didn't pity the guy. Dump him and return his gifts, presents and his generosities. Goodwill shouldn't have to come with a price tag, least of all asking you to spread your legs.
RiverRunning Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I was just shy of my 22nd birthday when I lost my virginity to my second boyfriend, and we had been together for about a year. While I may regret the choice of partner, I don't regret the timing in our relationship nor the age I was when I lost it. Of course, he never pressured me into it and he certainly never acted like I owed it to him. And as much of a jerk as my first ex was, while he made it clear he wanted to have sex around the three month mark, he never pressured me for it. What did happen was that his friends fed him a bunch of poison, convincing him that because I wasn't sleeping with him, I must've been sleeping with my obviously gay best friend. Unfortunately, young people especially are probably going to conclude that you're cheating if you won't put out. That kind of tells you how sex-obsessed this society is, and how strange voluntary abstinence might seem. You've only been dating for 3 months. That's NOT a long time. There are guys here who would bail in far shorter time. If they won't agree on your time-table, it's not a good match. If he's going to be ANGRY with you over a very intimate and personal decision - something that will affect you emotionally - he's not a good match. If he feels entitled to your body just because he took you out on dates, he's not a good match. Let's be fair here - we all expect something in return from a relationship. Person A puts in effort/time/energy, Person B hopefully does the same. But comparing "I buy you stuff" to "I'll give you my virginity" is like comparing apples and oranges. It's like he's brokering a prostitution deal. "I'll buy you dinner in exchange for sex." What? Who does that? The guy you're with though, obviously. You really need to analyze what sex will mean to you. Is it just for fun? Then I say do it safely and enjoy. Is it something that's deep and emotional? I'd say hold off, then - because at 3 months you're barely just out of the gate and getting to know each other. And sex usually does change a relationship, for better or for worse. But I almost feel I should tell you to turn him down either way - because he seems so keen on getting his way, like a spoiled, immature little child. He feels entitled to have sex with you. And more than that, he's more concerned about being a 19-year-old virgin (which is NOTHING to be ashamed about, nor is it odd) than he is about how this will potentially advance your relationship. Lots of people lose their virginity in their 20s. Personally, I think I was better for it too - I was more mature when it happened, I was better-prepared and better-educated, and I had more disposable income than I did when I was younger. Not to mention that my partner was older and we had been together long enough that if an "oops" happened, I knew I could depend on him to raise our child. And despite using three methods - condoms, spermicide, birth control pills - I've had a scare or two in the last few years. Look at the guy you're dating now. Say you do lose your virginity to him and you keep having sex. What if an 'oops' happened to you - would you want the father of your child to be a guy who pressures people into getting his way, who whines about how he's so old to be a virgin at the ancient age of 19? At the very least, I would hope that the guy wants to sleep with you because he has SOME feelings for you or because he loves you, but I have a feeling that's not so.
joystickd Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Go ahead and give him that pu**y. I know I wouldn't wait 3 months because I know there are other women that look better and willing to give it up. Its good to wait but how do you know he is just going through the motions just to get a nut. Honestly just let him get it.
joystickd Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I agree with the above poster. He already took on you trips and bought you a necklace. Sounds like he's pretty desperate...see if you can milk him for more goodies. I take it that she is manipulative. She is milking this for all its worth. Let's be honest here and the funny thing is a guy like me could probably get it before her boyfriend could lol. Its a sad reality and the thing is I wouldn't have to spend any money
jadedone Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 (edited) After reading her horrible grammar I Have a hard time taking her seriously. She comes across as an unintelligent, immature, and manipulative young girl. She's probably only a virgin because the 10 second drunken romp she had a few months ago "doesn't count". Edited November 28, 2011 by jadedone
Author Sweetheartt Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 Sweetheartt, any man that tells you he "deserves" sex because he took you places isn't treating you right. It sounds like he is pressuring you. You've only been togeter 3 months, that's not enough time to establish how sincere he is about you. You made the comment that he put the pressure on you even harder after finding out you were a virgin. This sounds like it's more about your virgin status and him getting it then it being about you and him. A man that truly cares about you will wait. He will also not hold sex over your head and act like you *owe* him it. This guy is not cool. Thank u so much for this advice! Its the best one lol. He called me earlier to come & pick me up but I told him NO! He got mad and accused me of ****ing someone else instead & now Im such a liar yada yada. Idk what to do now because my friend says she saw him at the local bar getting drunk as **** because I guess I hurt his feelings or w/e.
azsinglegal Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Don't give it up. End of story. Stick with the old fashioned.
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