Author somedude81 Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 Older women can be as likely to fall in love and but since they have less hangups about sex, good sex may be a bigger part of falling in love than for younger women. That was basically what I was trying to say in the second confusing paragraph. Good sex may be a bigger part of falling in love for older women? To me, it seems that older women are more likely to exchange in no strings sex. In fact, most of the women I've been with have been older than me. None of the sex ever meant anything for any of us and I don't think they were worried about falling for me or the other men they were with.
carhill Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 OP, there may be a difference, in older women, in those 'feelings' with a younger man versus a peer, age-wise. It's completely possible, and likely, she sees the younger man as a 'lust object' and, since he doesn't immediately tick off the boxes on the relationship list, she knows or believes sex will not grow those feelings into love or a relationship for her. We read of such examples here on LS. For some, it's a very pragmatic process, though the sex is, in the moment, anything but. In my age group, I see a lot more compartmentalization in women, or at least see it more clearly, than in the younger generations. I don't have an opinion on whether that is good or bad; it just is. It seems to work OK for them.
Author somedude81 Posted November 28, 2011 Author Posted November 28, 2011 OP, there may be a difference, in older women, in those 'feelings' with a younger man versus a peer, age-wise. It's completely possible, and likely, she sees the younger man as a 'lust object' and, since he doesn't immediately tick off the boxes on the relationship list, she knows or believes sex will not grow those feelings into love or a relationship for her. We read of such examples here on LS. For some, it's a very pragmatic process, though the sex is, in the moment, anything but. In my age group, I see a lot more compartmentalization in women, or at least see it more clearly, than in the younger generations. I don't have an opinion on whether that is good or bad; it just is. It seems to work OK for them. OK, that makes a lot of sense. I was never a candidate for a relationship so the women didn't worry about falling. Bringing things back on topic, I'm mostly concerned with women 20-30ish.
Emilia Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 Good sex may be a bigger part of falling in love for older women? To me, it seems that older women are more likely to exchange in no strings sex. In fact, most of the women I've been with have been older than me. None of the sex ever meant anything for any of us and I don't think they were worried about falling for me or the other men they were with. For me it depended on what stage I was in my life at. For years I was only interested in ONS pretty much, not even FWBs. I remember the guy I met one night in a bar, I went back to his place, woke up in the morning to his affectionate cuddles and I knew I didn't want one night stands anymore. Have been looking for relationships ever since. I bond if we have intimacy and affection. I didn't bond with my last ex because we had no chemistry in bed, my ex before that was the hottest little thing ever and we shared a lot of love from the start. So I'd say it depends on the chemistry with the person and timing (what stage you are at in your life). Nothing earth shattering you haven't heard before
Wolf18 Posted November 28, 2011 Posted November 28, 2011 I think a large portion of women would rather have a one night stand with an extraordinarily good looking guy than the "love and cuddles" of average joe lol. Of course, just like when you go out to catch wild horses, you're tempted to go for the finest specimens only to find that they are going to keep throwing you off when you try to break them in. I think this is just another example of exagerrating how emotional women are. Women don't "bond" all that much after sex, it's just that if you're a very much above average guy women want the sex always comes before the romance.
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