crstl33 Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 Hi all... Do I have problems... I've been married for 7years, almost 8. My relationship with my husband has really never been a normal one. Only in the since I did everything. I have 3 of my own kids that live with us. He has 2 kids that lives with his ex. He really never showed much attention to none of these kids. At the beginning he did to mine, but his lived far away. I think for the first 8 months of my marriage is was the best it could ever be. His kids moved closer after a year of marriage, you can tell he felt guilty for not being there for his own. But he really didnt do much about it. I married a quiet man, the type when there is a problem he goes inside of himself. Sometimes if not all the time it was like talking to the wall. I dont want you to get the wrong impression. But I do love my husband. and would do everything for him. But in the last past 8 months, he doesnt want to do anything with none of us. He stayed gone alot with friends. Notice how I say stayed gone. Well 2 days ago he moved out. My heart tells me it is for the best, but then there is another side that telling me to hold on he'll be back. It started out he was mad because the responsibility in life had caught up with him, bills were coming and he couldnt afford them. Now keep it in mind they were his bills that I never seen. I know that sounds strange but the bills went to his mothers house. He blamed me for his problems. Actually had the nerve to ask me to get him a loan for 15000. So he can be debt free. I said we couldnt afford it. Well this week, he says he is not happy and knows I havent been happy, so he is moving into his mothers.(thank god for mothers). I went to work and got a phone call from my son, he is packing. I tried so hard to show any emotions but then it hit me my relationship is over, completely over. This hurts. When I got home he took alot of the things we had bought together that a man would love.(pool table, push broom, table saw, and more) But didnt take his clothes. He had came home this day. I told what a coward you are to do that. Really there wasnt much he could say that matter. Well he stayed that night. When I went to work the next day, I came home he was gone including his clothes. I wasnt surprised. It was like I knew. Well here I am Sad, Depressed, Lonely, and Bitter. By the way, he never moved into his mothers, he moved into his buddies house. The only thing bad about this is buddy does drugs and live dirty, and who knows what else he does. If you have any advise for me it would be great. I wish him well and happiness.
FreeMe Posted May 26, 2004 Posted May 26, 2004 I'm sorry for the hurt you're going through, but right now try to keep the pain at a distance so you can take care of yourself. You have to talk to a lawyer immediately and find out what your best course of action is with regard to his debt. Since you are married, you will probably be partially responsible, but you've go to find out exactly what the laws are and how you can ensure you're not responsible for any further debt now that he's out of the house. The fact that he's living with a drug user also sets off warning bells in my head. If he also gets involved with drugs, that debt is going to be all yours and it will probably get worse. Please see a lawyer and take care of yourself and children. You'll have time after that to sort out your feelings and grieve. Hang in there and try to be strong.
crstl33 Posted May 27, 2004 Posted May 27, 2004 i did get advise from lawyer, the only choice i have is a divorce. One thing i did do is protect my credit, we have no checking account together, no loans in the same name. The only thing we share is a cell phone bill and car insurance bill. But of course i pay bil. last night i found myself looking for him. the funny part is, even if i found him i wouldnt get out of the car. i wished he would call, but he seems to have lost interest. i feel its another women. i hope there isnt noone else. my emotions are playing the best with me.
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