atloss4love Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 6months and I am still involved with this so called co worker We still have not been together, he has told me that he is getting a divorce I give him money every week or buy him stuff for his truck. He Does not mind taking money from me. I ask for nothing in return. I did text him and ask how he feels for me and I got a long Response stating that he had to much going on in his life right now And he cannot handle anymore pressure right now. He knows that I Care for him He is like a drug and I am addicted I can tell that he likes me I think Am I really that weak He is a Leo and I am a Scoripo
whichwayisup Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 How do you like getting used? Does it feel nice? You go out of your way, give this guy money, help him out and he is doing NOTHING for you. He has no intention of divorcing, he's using you but I'm guessing that your emotional attachment and addiction to him is preventing you from seeing what the reality is. Question is, how long do you intend on letting him use you?
Author atloss4love Posted November 27, 2011 Author Posted November 27, 2011 I know I need to stop but I have to go to work Everyday and it is hard when I am sad Why would he tell me he is getting a divorce He has never lied to me
Author atloss4love Posted December 9, 2011 Author Posted December 9, 2011 How stupid could I be to fall for someone that gives me NOTHING NOTHING!!!!! I give him money and gifts and I get nothing I want to say something mean I hate him it at this moment What is wrong with me
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 You're just desperate and insecure, and don't have the confidence to walk away from situations that are bad for you....he doesn't like you the way you like him, move on for your own dignity, if there is any.
Ross MwcFan Posted December 9, 2011 Posted December 9, 2011 How do you like getting used? Does it feel nice? You go out of your way, give this guy money, help him out and he is doing NOTHING for you. He has no intention of divorcing, he's using you but I'm guessing that your emotional attachment and addiction to him is preventing you from seeing what the reality is. Question is, how long do you intend on letting him use you? You could've been more tactful.
Eve Posted December 10, 2011 Posted December 10, 2011 How old are you OP? How old is he? I read somewhere that we all have at least one obsessive relationship within our lifetime - sounds like this is yours! If I were you I would confide in a close friend about all of this. It is harder to bury your head in the sand if you openly admit what is going on. No more secrets. Have you had relationships like this one before, or is this a new thing? Hopefully you will get bored with it soon as really, it does sound quite pointless. I can't see him changing really. I mean, even if he does leave his wife he isn't prime marriage material anyway. Can you see this? I would say that you need to really examine why you are sleeping with this person. Harsh as it is, you are allowing yourself to be used. For some people this is all they have to offer. If you want more you are going to have to be able to say and act out what that is. This doesn't materialise from constant foolish giving, it is something that builds within two people, jointly aiming for some sort of positive outcome. What is it that you want? Please do not fool yourself into thinking that you are somehow better than this man because you ask for nothing. In many regards you are both as selfish because of this. Both of you are giving the other permission to engage in deceiving someone else, that is the real priority here. Take care, Eve x
Author atloss4love Posted December 15, 2011 Author Posted December 15, 2011 I am not sleeping with this person I do care for him and he knows it Whenever I mention getting together He comes up with all the excuses I told him that he has hurt me and His response was that he was not mad At me and he was not trying to hurt Me I think he is self centered and I want To know how to get thru to him
smudge21 Posted December 15, 2011 Posted December 15, 2011 Sorry to say but I don't think you will get through to him or change him in any way. He has lost respect for you simply because you've done so much for him and he's had to do nothing in return. How can anyone respect anyone that kisses their ass? I know that's harsh, but it happens to a lot of people. I've done it in the past, and learnt from it, as you will now. You need to take a stand and take total control of this situation as nothing will change until you change it. You are worth more than this but you need to believe that before you make those changes. You need to have more respect and believe you can and will do better. He's clearly not worth your time and effort and all the while you're thinking about him, there's someone else out there you're missing out on.
Author atloss4love Posted December 16, 2011 Author Posted December 16, 2011 I was kidding with him and I said his middle name he got mad and told me not to do that. He said he does not do that to me. I got upset and told him he was mean as hell. I said I cant win for losing with you, I should just give up. He laughed.. I said you win I give up. He laughed... Saw him the next day and we did not speak.
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