PlumPrincess Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Let's start a thread for fun where we are all really honest. I think my reasons for being single are: - I'm insecure and clingy (sometimes) - I'm too negative (sometimes) - I'm very, very demanding I'm not single because I'm too ugly or stupid. What are yours?
Emilia Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 It used to be the that I wasn't looking for LTRs only casual dating because I traveled a lot or just wasn't ready emotionally. I spent my 20s in a serious relationship and I enjoyed freedom and different experiences in my 30s. Nowdays it's mainly because my dating pool is smaller (I'm 39) and I have tried to widen it by dating younger men but I have learned that ultimately long term I'm looking for someone more around my age.
Casablanca Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Well I just broke up with my girlfriend, so that is one reason. One thing that may keep me single is I like to joke around, I like to pick on my SO and I like them to pick on me (playful, not serious picking on)....I have a playful personality, and if they cant handle that, we wont work out. And Im not talking constant make fun of, but there are times where I just want to pick on them and be picked on, where I am just goofy....if they cant be goofy at times, then well we're not gonna work
counterman Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 I'm single because: - I'm too picky; the last few girls I have approached were the top 9s or 10s, who aren't looking for guys like me. - I'm too shallow sometimes; I have had interests from girls who were attracted but not enough to make me go crazy inside. These girls were long-term dating material. - I can't be bothered putting in effort (i.e. too lazy). I ask a few girls out here and there but I'm not consistent with dating and making an effort to date. When I was in a relationship, I was clingy, insecure and wasn't a 'man'. Now I'm not clingy, insecure and pretty confident in myself (after a few years of hard work and self-improvement) but have higher standards for what I want in a relationship and from the opposite sex, hence, part of the reason why I'm single. It doesn't look like changing any time soon.
musemaj11 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Because I distrust women. To me, the only good women are ugly, fat or old women who are good simply because they are forced to be good or otherwise they will never get anyone. There is no woman who is inherently good in my experience.
shocked_confused Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 -The guys I go for happen to be the "jerk" type it seems (yes, bad I know). -I was seeing a great guy a couple months back, pretty good looking. But I wasn't "feeling it":rolleyes: ....could have had a boyfriend by now, but I chose not to be with him. I don't regret it yet, but I may in the future when I really want to settle down. So ya, that's why I'm single. I pick the wrong people to like.
iris219 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 --The dating pool in my area leaves a lot to be desired. I have very few options. --I stayed too long in the wrong relationships, trying to make them work, and now most people my age are married or in relationships. I’m educated, attractive, successful, kind, interesting, loyal AND I’m not picky, yet I have a feeling I’ll be single for a very long time (or until people who recently got married start getting divorced ).
laotzu Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Timing. Choice. I want a "sexy" girl who's also smart and has good character, but I often see the latter two attributes when they aren't there, because I'm so attracted to a certain physical type. And I might not be over my last relationship.
somedude81 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 -Women are not attracted to me -Women never want to be more than friends with me -I spend too much time focusing on one woman and possibly move too slow -I don't know how to flirt, I think -I don't understand how women and the dating game work -Just plain old bad luck
Trollhunter Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 -Women are not attracted to me -Women never want to be more than friends with me -I spend too much time focusing on one woman and possibly move too slow -I don't know how to flirt, I think -I don't understand how women and the dating game work -Just plain old bad luck No real woman wants a self-loathing loser.
Marek Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 (edited) I'm single because women view me as being absolutely worthless -- physically, emotionally, intellectually and socially. I'm subject to an incomprehensible amount of prejudicial behaviour and animosity, which the vast majority of the population doesn't experience. Edited November 27, 2011 by Marek
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 -Women are not attracted to me -Women never want to be more than friends with me -I spend too much time focusing on one woman and possibly move too slow -I don't know how to flirt, I think -I don't understand how women and the dating game work -Just plain old bad luck You wrote exactly what I was going to.
grkBoy Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 When I was single, it was because: 1) I was too quick to "make it work" with any attractive woman who came my way. Often times I needed to walk away from these headcases as opposed to thinking me being a "good man" to her would make it all work out. 2) I pursued the wrong types of women. Bad boy chasers, headcases, etc. 3) In my 20s I looked and carried myself very blandly and had red flags. I had off and on employment, I lived with my parents til 27, then ended up back home in my 30s because of the economy. I dressed "relaxed" as opposed to "fashionable" and had some extra weight. I also didn't do much in my life outside of school, work, club/rave DJing, and video games. 4) I was socially awkward. 5) I put too much pressure on myself to "find someone". I kept looking for someone else to make me happy in life when I needed to learn to do that for myself.
phineas Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Choice..... Mostly this. I don't want to re-Mary I don't want to have any more kids. I'm not moving out of my house any time soon & i'll never sell my house to live under another woman's roof or even share a lease/mortgage. essentially i'm not going to get myself in a situation where a woman has any legal power over me or can put me & my kids out on the street. So I only really date for fun.
Disillusioned Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 The reason why I'm still single is because I'm the only person I know who realizes dating has changed since our parents were dating.
Cracker Jack Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 I'm single because I don't approach and talk to women like I should. I also haven't exactly been putting in the effort required to meet any. That's pretty much it.
verhrzn Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 I'm single because: -Im not very girly. I have "masculine" interests like martial arts, video games, and technology.* -I don't have a wide social circle, and most of my friends are in couples, which means they're only friends with other couples. I am one of the rare singles, so it's difficult to meet single guys. -I have no idea where one goes to meet people, especially single people. -I'm apparently intimidating, though I have no idea how... it's just what I've been told. -I'm not what guys like, physically. I wear make-up and decent clothes, but even done up, my guy friends have told me I'm at best a 6.5 or 7 out of 10. Interestingly, if I was a lesbian I'd be swimming in girlfriends... guys NEVER flirt with me, but I get hit on by girls all the time! *This is kind of a double-edged sword; guys who don't share my interests aren't interested in me because my interests aren't typical girl-stuff, and guys who DO share my interests get annoyed and intimidated when they find out I'm as good/better than them. It NEVER fails that when a guy finds out I'm a black belt he tries to prove he could still beat me up... until I put him into a wing lock, and then teasing turns into full-out one-up-manship.
dasein Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 Single because I want to be after many prime years wasted on a LTR.
Casablanca Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 *This is kind of a double-edged sword; guys who don't share my interests aren't interested in me because my interests aren't typical girl-stuff, and guys who DO share my interests get annoyed and intimidated when they find out I'm as good/better than them. It NEVER fails that when a guy finds out I'm a black belt he tries to prove he could still beat me up... until I put him into a wing lock, and then teasing turns into full-out one-up-manship. Even though it isnt a full sized picture, you do look cute in your avatar.
Fondue Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 I'm single because I don't make a good boyfriend and I don't want to fool a woman into believing I am relationship material. I am far from it. - I don't like phone calls that isn't strictly business. I'm not into that "hey, how was your day?" crap. - I don't like seeing a person for more than like twice in a week, and I can't stand being around the same person for longer than 6hours. - I don't cuddle. I hate it. - I don't like to "spend the night," or having someone else "spend the night." - Once the sex is done, I will be leaving that same minute, or I expect you to do the same. I can go on and on, but you get the picture . Hey, at least I'm honest, right?
jobaba Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 I think the reasons I am single are because: 1) I'm not that attractive of a guy 2) There was a large period of my life where I pursued an artistic passion and wasn't really thinking about women too much 3) I was a late bloomer, and was conditioned to believe women would just like me for who I was, wussiness and confidence issues notwithstanding. My social skills and my dress were horrible in my late teens to mid 20s. I also had social anxiety. I've definitely cleaned up a lot of my shortcomings and maximized what I've got to offer over the years. If more women found me physically attractive, I think it'd be easy for me right now. Instead, it's a grind, but I'm slowly getting there.
wildtrac77 Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 -The guys I go for happen to be the "jerk" type it seems (yes, bad I know). -I was seeing a great guy a couple months back, pretty good looking. But I wasn't "feeling it":rolleyes: ....could have had a boyfriend by now, but I chose not to be with him. I don't regret it yet, but I may in the future when I really want to settle down. So ya, that's why I'm single. I pick the wrong people to like. How long were you seeing this guy before you decided came to the conclusion you wasn't feeling it? The reason im single is because in my twentys i wasn't really intrested in dating (other than casual fun ) due to building up my business so hence working stupid hours, have now got to 34 and my outlook on life and what i want has changed but now that im looking to settle all the women that i meet that are intrested in me either i dont find attractive( ie: dont make any attempt to look after themselves on a fitness level), have several kids/ dont want to work etc or the ones i really like/have a lot in common with are hung up over their exs or something that has happened long ago in their past!!, you just cant win!! Where the hell do you look for/meet normal ( ish) decent women these days??
Feelsgoodman Posted November 27, 2011 Posted November 27, 2011 - I can't be bothered putting in effort (i.e. too lazy). I ask a few girls out here and there but I'm not consistent with dating and making an effort to date. That's basically whyI 'm single. I just feel that the rewards of being in a relationship are simply not worth the effort.
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